to ask all you dumped ladies out there if i win 'OW' (other woman) bingo

[amicable]

Am trying to turn my current feelings of rage and hatred into something a bit more lighthearted. Just wondering if anyone else has been dumped in a more cliched manner, for a more cliched OW than me. So here goes -

I was recently dumped by my H for a woman who is -

half his age 10 points

blonde 5 points

from overseas 10 points

a STRIPPER 50 points

Oh yes, for some bonus points he started his affair while I had post natal depression 10 points , and guess how old he is going to be this year? Yes, later in the year he will be 'celebrating' his 40th birthday 10 points

So I calculate my total score to be 95 points ! I'm so proud! Can anyone else match me???

Sorry, typing in the dark...* certainly does

Loving (and slightly horrified!!!) all the stories ladies, too many to comment on individually. And to ex married to your mother jj.

Thanks for the happy ending story redwineforme, I really do feel like all relationships are ultimately doomed at the moment, so it's nice to hear that someone else has felt like that and come through it .

What a great DD fit2. And what a brilliant ending bast .

God, just how many arsewipes are there in the world?! I have to add one more, I'm afraid.

Ex and I were due to be married in June '04. Eight weeks before the wedding he told me he no longer wanted to get married or be with me. Wedding was cancelled, dress was returned etc. He denied anyone else was involved but I had a feeling there was. Ladies, always trust your intuition! He stupidly left his phone lying around so I looked at it, only to find numerous sent and received lovey dovey messages from some bint. Did a bit more digging to find out she was only 19 (he was 36) and she was a cleaner at his work. He fucked off left to live with her before coming crawling back to me just months later.

Stupidly I took him back. After about a year later things were going well (so I believed) and we decided to try for a baby. When I was 4 months pregnant he admitted he was seeing someone else. I chucked him out and he went to live with her. He told me by text that he wouldn't be coming to my 20 week scan, and didn't contribute a single penny to buying baby things. He never wanted to see DS and to this day he's never met him (he's just turned 5). I didn't receive a penny of maintenance until DS was 3 and then only got £12.50 per month - I still get this amount and I'm still fighting for it to be increased but ex is great at avoiding the CSA.

He gave me an STI when I was pg which I had to get treatment for but thankfully it didn't affect DS.

Oh, and when DS was about 1, I found out that ex had fathered other children while we were together, including one with the 19 year old cleaner. He has a total of 5 kids with 4 women (probably more by now). In short, he'd led a double life and I'd had no idea.

So, in summary:

First time:
Me - 31, petite, slim, long dark hair, engaged
Her - 19, lived with her mum in council flat, his subordinate
Dumped just before wedding

Second time:
Me - 33, pregnant
Her - Older than both me and him with two teenage kids, mucky dyed blonde short hair, plump, bit of a minger
Dumped while pregnant.

I think I deserve some points for all that but maybe not as many as some of the other posters. He never shagged my mum, for a start (really feel for you jj).

Clearly Jj wins, but I would like to compete for silver - now let's see;

Dancing girls, numerous, very bendy and younger than me, including one who could balance a pint of beer on the curve of her bum/lower back whilst standing up. Which was, TBF, pretty impressive.

Someone called 'Karen' who I found out about from a romantic midnight text on New Year's Eve. Whilst at a friend's house, waiting for him to arrive as he was working that night.

Singer who thought she was really talented but hasn't done much more than pale Jane McDonald impressions on cruise ships. To Ramsgate. He insisted we go to see her perform on my birthday, when I was pregnant with one of the 3 children I miscarried, and she sang a love song to him, kneeling down in front of him, in front of the entire audience.

Got engaged (whilst we were still married) to a woman from another country (with wealthy parents) got them to pay for a luxury 50th birthday/engagement party (including buying him the most gorgeous suit which he showed me claiming he had found it in a charity shop) and the best bit of that was that he was only 45 at the time (why?, why?) and when we (DD and I) went to join him (he was working abroad) for the summer, told her (OW) to 'be discrete' for the sake of his daughter. The following year, when he had behaved like enough of a shit to make me break up with him after 10 years of marriage, but wracked with guilt, DD went to see him on holiday. He took her to OW's house and told her this was her 'new mummy'.

Blamed our dear neice (who had lived with us since she was a young teen because of her mother's - his sister's - brain tumour) for the break up by accusing her of telling me about 'Suzanne'. She came to me in tears to tell me about this accusation - this was the first time I had heard of 'Suzanne'. (See above) but hey, Karma - he cheated her (OW) out of thousands by telling her his Mum had died leaving him the family business but that it was all tied up with legal red tape...his mum lived in a council house and was alive and being visited and supported by ME as her health got worse, whilst he was abroad partying...

Told DD he would be back for Christmas, promised every time they spoke on the phone, and. Didn't. And phoned to tell me late Christmas Eve so I would have to tell her.

Point me up, I've earned it.

Holy crap balia

Thank you. Should point out I am now fine, married again to a lovely man, and can laugh about it. Mostly.

I'm sure they will be very happy together!! Especially when she goes back to work.

Don't take the cheesy knob back now will you?

Nope, I think I win...

1st OW was my DC's playgroup teacher - how many points do I get?

Surely this is only beaten by sleeping with my sister or my mum

However, 2nd OW will get me minus points as she is;

A grandma

15 years older than me

Has 5 DC of her own and refers to my DC as her 'stepkids' despite the fact she has never met them

My soon to be XH had many whores going at the same time. I found out about them in a very hateful week. DD was 4months old. Here goes:

OW1

6years older

about 3 sizes smaller

from overseas

Dark haired

OW2

2 years older

same size

from overseas

Dark Haired

OW3:

10year older

2 sizes smaller

blond

And the peice de resistance

ANOTHER FUCKING WIFE!!!

5years older

same size

same hair

I am not sure if this is right or not and I certainly do not want to lessen the importance of each and everyones personal heartache and stories, but this thread is one of the most heartwarming and delightfully "sisters in arms" threads I have read. Yes there are some horrible stories and definitely some despicable OH out there but still we manage to overcome the sickness and devastation and find a way through it with humour and hopefully those of us with "karma" stories or who have moved on to better lives can maybe be a little bit of inspiration and hope to all those going through that journey right now .

LADIES I SALUTE US ALL

I mentioned "another fucking wife" to DP, who said "Most people have their plate full with one."

Poor you but i think you deserve pat on back for coping well, I was dumped 20years ago,it was,Best Friend with
Lots of Money
7 years my senior
plus had 2 kids
None of it made sense, I got the last laugh as he has just left her!, and said they were more like brother and sister, MEN WOT are they Like!

Is it too late to join in?

My ExH began the affair when my son was 4 weeks old
A family friend
At university and 21 years old
Romanian
However there is only about 6 years between them as I married a younger man.

How many points for me?

Well said Fit

Has to be said ladies that living well is a good revenge but so is sewing prawns into their curtains.

MightHaveDoneThatMightNotTiggaxx

nonono,i win,exh of 18yrs dumped me for woman half our age,i had 4 dc's youngest 8months,big mortgage,stressfull shift job and breast cancer,woo!

I am now married to a gorgeous,kind,gentle,witty,intelligent,hardworking and loving man,we have just had a little girl.
Dh is still with the girl,they have a baby and live with her mother,he lost his job and gets arrested often for weed.
On mothers day she was upset he got her nothing,i had diamond earings.
That i believe is karma

oh yeah dh is 10 yrs younger too.

First time:
Blond
five years younger than me
larger than me (despite him 'joking' once that my stomach must weigh at least 2 stone all on its own)
a mutual friend, and....

a lesbian (points please)

He even went to a concert with her instead of me when I was too ill to go, in my blissful ignorance I suggested he ask her, and he even got me to book a last-minute room for them because it would be such a long and late drive back.
I totally bought this (she was a lesbian, FFS) and spent hours ringing round to find somewhere for them to stay, whilst they were driving up. I even remember phoning and saying I could only get one room, and did she mind sharing and sleeping on a sofa bed! Did she hell!

It also turned out that a few weeks before I found out about him and her, he told me her girlfriend had left her, and he was going round to 'offer support 'which I was fine with-I felt really sorry for her.Turns out the girlfriend had left her because she came home and caught the two of them at it.

Having survived that and had another 12 years of happy marriage (so I thought) he's just separated from me because he 'doesn't love me any more and I make him sad, miserable and stressed'.

Within a week of leaving me he is seeing someone else.

7 years younger than me

larger than me (again, and I'm 3 stone heavier now than the last time)

a Christian (this is a man who has always said religion is stupid, it causes all the problems in the world, laughs at 'god botherers' as he calls them and thinks they're 'sad')

He is a Twat.

I have nothing to add but just wanted to raise a to all of the fabulous women on this thread.

Dumped by DS's dad -

She was 18 (10 years younger than him)- 10 points

DS wasn't even a year old - 10 points

She was a barmaid - 25 points

They got engaged after a fortnight - 20 points

They now live in her fathers spare room with 2 cats, a dog and a hamster, have no job between them and all his family hate him, and I live in a lovely little house with my gorgeous DS and have the most fantastic family I could ask for (including his family who have sort of 'adopted' me, they have been amazing) - 1000 points TO ME!

Karma gets the cunts in the end

*Has to be said ladies that living well is a good revenge but so is sewing prawns into their curtains.

MightHaveDoneThatMightNotTiggaxx*

Oh I know its cliche but I did just splutter me (diet)cola just then.

But see my dd who did the " fuck off " to my ex also grew up to be quite a fiesty little babe in the end.
Her first serious bf cheated on her, she left him, she did the prawns in the curtains too and prawns in the steam iron, and behind the central heating vents, and in his immaculate boxed shoes carefully place in the wardrobe ..... yes all 50 pairs (made that number up but it was lots with his immaculate pressed suits with pockets which were perfectly sized for crabsticks to fit into ,

The lordie knows jus where tha little girl o mine got her bitty temper from [smile}

ledkr your new H sounds extremely yum. I want one of those please .

Loving the prawns Tigga, and the crabsticks fit2.

Although I am mainly loving all the happy tales that come from those ladies who are a bit further along their journeys. Living well is absolutely the best revenge, and the best reward for ourselves and our gorgeous children.

It has been 6 months of mental torture but having decided to cut the idiot ex out of my head permanently I feel so much stronger and happier, and am enjoying my wonderful children again. Hooray