AIBU to not want my partner to go out with work anymore?

[kirsty12321]

My partner is a supervisor in a high street shoe shop, last summer he cheated on me twice with little bunts from the store, at the time I ended up in hospital with a mental break (alot of this led up to this, home, work, him ect) with counselling - both together and just by myself, we have worked through this and stayed together, but he has just phoned to say he's in the pub with 'all the guys from work' I asked him who was there and got ' oh just Anna Sophie alexa becca and sammy' so no 'guys' just girls, including the two from last year.
I told him he's pretty much given up his right to go out with them, especially the two from before because of what he did and he's just had a massive go at me and told me he's not coming home tonight now, so my only guess is that he will be staying at one of their houses! AIBU presuming he shouldn't have the oppertunity to go out with these girls? It's our anniversary today and he knows I have restaurant reservations for us too :(

Have just read this post, well done you!

Just out of interest, Kirsty, doesn't your bank require signatures to remove names from accounts? I tried for years to take my name off a joint account but couldn't without ex's agreement. If the rules have changed I'll be heading to the bank tomorrow!!!!!

Was it difficult to get him removed form the tenancy as well? I would have thought that would require his agreement too.

Wow I am in awe ! Laughed that you stepped over him to go out to work. I just hope that you stay strong. That he did that to you on your anniversary is unforgiveable

I bank with nat west, I had two bank accounts when I lived alone previously - one for bills ect and one for 'spending money so I didn't spend my rent! I just went to our local branch with a Copy of his passport and the form signed by him to add him, explained to the bank that we had broken up And he'd loved out do they just took me off the account And i redirected my bills to my account, I thought this was normal but natwest are pretty shit so it might not be 'allowed' as such in better banks, with the tenancy I shared with another women untill my partner moved in, phoned my tenancy agency And they did the credit checks ect on him and removed her from the agreement and added him, so they've removed him again and said I sill have to sort out council tax to single occupancy rather than double, I hope natwest and landlords have actually done what they've said and not just spun me a line, but worried now!

Kirsty not sure on the bank thing but you HAVE done the right thing what a total tosspot!

Good luck hope all goes well for the future and be strong !

I deal with residential lettings in my line of work and removing someone from a tenancy is as simple as that. They may send you a 'new' tenancy agreement with just your name on it for you to sign again but don't be suprised if they don't. It's definately worth notifying the council promptly that you are now living by yourself as you are entitled to a 25% reduction in your council tax bill because you have Single Occupancy now.

Do you know where he has gone? I assume he is no longer sleeping on your doorstep?!