AIBU to not want my partner to go out with work anymore?

[kirsty12321]

My partner is a supervisor in a high street shoe shop, last summer he cheated on me twice with little bunts from the store, at the time I ended up in hospital with a mental break (alot of this led up to this, home, work, him ect) with counselling - both together and just by myself, we have worked through this and stayed together, but he has just phoned to say he's in the pub with 'all the guys from work' I asked him who was there and got ' oh just Anna Sophie alexa becca and sammy' so no 'guys' just girls, including the two from last year.
I told him he's pretty much given up his right to go out with them, especially the two from before because of what he did and he's just had a massive go at me and told me he's not coming home tonight now, so my only guess is that he will be staying at one of their houses! AIBU presuming he shouldn't have the oppertunity to go out with these girls? It's our anniversary today and he knows I have restaurant reservations for us too :(

Is it just me... I swear I can hear Beyonce singing "Independent Woman" in the background. Go girl!

he is an insensitive oaf.out with work on your anniversary

sorry for your troubles and stress

BUT not up to you to set controlling rules.sorry but if he is a poon hound and cant be trusted then no amount of dont do this or that will curtail him. maybe hes not that into a relationship with you.dont prolong your heartache if he isnt

see youre well ahead of game now
good

OMG I love this thread, so good to read about a bastard kicked to the kerb!! Well done!!!

I'm a late comer to this thread, but can I just say, I lve you Kirsty. I'm going to print off a copy & show it to any girfriends who end up with nobbers!! Enjoy your night out on Friday. Let us know about all the people you flirt with

So pleased that you were still feeling great & strong last night. You are awsome in your response to this oaf, and deserve someone much better when you had lots of fun.

You know you've done the right thing when all you're feeling is happyand smiley!

I'm late to this thread too but just had to say Go Girl!! You are ace, very strong!!

hmmmm

must have been a fab relationship if you arent even feeling slightly sad that he has gone

all a bit iffy imo :)

Never mind him leaving his job, dump him.

tazmin.

Because the
OP
Loved him? But now doesn't, just
Like that?
Oh, I know what you're saying- it's a bit iffy.
Come on though, be
Kind.
Some people just get over stuff, really, really quickly. And have brothers who are locksmiths.

Kirsty12321 - I love you! Way to go. Stick to your guns, He is not worthy of you.

Tazmin I've never seen you post a single positive or even nice message so it doesn't really bother me that your still being a twat on my post, every knows how negative you are so people just ignore your posts as soon as they see them cause they're Boyd to be pathetic

Well done Kirsty! One VERY VERY important point though, sorry if anyone has already mentioned it, but if your bank account was a joint one make sure that you ask the bank to remove your name from it so that it is just in his name, otherwise he can run up debts etc and you are jointly responsible for them.

This happened to a friend of mine and it's something you need to do ASAP, I really can't emphasise enough how important this is and that you must let the bank know quickly. Also any other bills that you may have in joint names that he can run up debts on eg. mobile phone, shared credit card. After all your brilliant work in getting shot of the Nasty Bastard (in the words of Bridget Jones!) I would hate to see you get caught out like that.

All the best for the exciting times ahead!

Very good advice from tractor op. You must get your name removed from any joint credit cards etc ASAP.

And..well done you.

Kirsty well done! What a strong, brave lady you are. I am so glad u did it

The best but will be hen he begs for forgiveness and you can tell the dirty,cheating rat where to go! Go girl.

You are still with him ? What is wrong with you ? Dump him before he comes home and throw his stuff out for him to collect.

Wow, what an arse hole! (not you, him!) You just can't be in a relationship with someone who thinks it's fine to go to the pub with 2 girls he's had flings with . . . on his anniversary! What an idiot!

Well done you for being so strong!

Sorry about my last message, didnt read the thread, you have indeed dumped that arsehole. Great job!

oh, I love it when women find their self-respect and kick these types numpties to the kerb

brilliant

types of numpties

Agree that it sounds as if he wants to break up but in cowardly fashion wants you to do it, hence giving you a text book reason. Don't waste your energy making a scene, just change the locks.

Oops also didn't read the last page. Well done!

When I went to the bank yesterday I cleared my name from our accounts, We don't have any credit cards and I've got my landlord to remove him from the tenancy, he has learnt over the years that people have a certain number of chances from me and then I just completely erase them from my life and will never speak to them again! It's going to be hard but if i let my barriers down and take him back after taking such drastic action he'll never take my seriously again, good riddance I say!

You are my twin, kirsty

good on you x