Aibu . Dd4 has dla payments because she has autism. Its put into her bank account for when she need something , its kept seperate from family money.
DH works part time, i gave up work to become dds full time carer. He keeps his wages to himself .
I get child tax credits, carers allowence , maintenence payments from ex for oldest 3 kids and child benefit payments. these are used to run the home and buy what the children need & want.
I cover all bills except council tax and maintenence payments to dh`s ex wife.
We had two cars . DH had a zafira , which was bought before i learned to drive , was 8 years old. Some of the cost of his zafira was covered by using dd`d dla, because we desperatly needed a car to take her to her special needs school.It was large enough to take the kids out together. He sold it last week for £2000... more than enough to buy a runabout for himself.
My car is a corsa (was £2500 when bought it), also 8 years old the car was bought because dh would not change the insurance on the zafira ,so i could drive it. I needed to be able to get dd to school , so i used some of her dla to buy it.
Dhs argument is that dla paid for my car , so he should be able to get some again for another car.
I said no , because hes already had some of dds money for his last car , which he got rid of because he said it was costing him tooo much money.Hes never paid back any of the money to dd that hes "borrowed".
My argument is that i got my car because dd needs to be taken to school ....he just wants a flashier car ,with a big engine, more than he can afford...and dd doesnt need a car that will just take her dad to work .
So aibu and mean ? or is dh being a twat.