to wonder why lesbians go for women that look like men?

[carriedababi]

surely if you fancy women you'd want to go out with a woman that looked like \ woman not a man.
nothing against gay/lesbians at all.

but this seems a bit strange to me

Is the shaved bits round the side really a Lesbian statement? I have a work colleague who does this. Well, I am 90% sure she is gay anyway, but I suddenly get so coy and think, well it none of my business anyway. And I don't know her well enough to bring up the subject.

I have another friend at work, who the first time we got chatting, told me that she was married to a woman, and it makes it so much easier that she just said it. Same with other friends who are openly gay.

It's weird. Why should this stuff even register? I don't care who people are sleeping with. Am I still in the 1950s in social niceties terms?

There are also regional variations, of course.

Regional variations?

Is there a Lesbian Mullet or something

Ooh slight hijack - Lenin - who won the FF league. Next season I AM going to pay attention -though looks like my old staple Fabregas is on his uppers.
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I probably shouldn't have said anything - I don't want to get into trouble here

But ok, when i lived in Yorkshire I used to think that ALL the women looked like lesbians. What was, to me, clearly a lesbian cut in London was quite mainstream in Leeds...

I think your mullety do is very, very, small isolated community now. The metropolitan young 'uns seem to want layered shaggy dos a la Shane from the L word. The middle-aged Londoners have shoulder length bobs. Northerners more likely to have simple boyish do with no hair products. Scots do the bleach. Irish go for black dye and red lipstick.

Am I about to get slaughtered?

I have to say that I love the way that these haircuts are all (bar one, which is only for young ones, I suspect) 'moderate to minimum effort'. Hairdressers are always nonplussed when I say that I don't dye my hair, or blow-dry or put what they mysteriously call 'product' into it, and no, i don't want highlights, lowlights or anything else. In any case I have reached the age where 20 something hairdressers offer to give me a 'fresher' look, e.g. to attempt to make me look younger.

I am MOST impressed that I am mid way up the table despite paying NO attention to it since last October Wasn't I second or 3rd last year. I feel my competitive spirit welling for the 11-12 season

Lenin, so those handy hints to "spotting" a lesbian - are they true? Sounds a tad patronising to me.....

So anyone on holiday next week needs watching more closely:

Watch to see if she leaves for a major city the last weekend in June. That is the weekend set aside for the Gay Pride Parade. This is celebrated every year in larger cities and is seen as the beginning of the gay liberation movement.

I am in the North. The lesbian cut in women my age is a short, back and sides. I rarely see the sides of the head shaved. For young women it is the shaggy hair do. But actually lots of women have short hair without having the lesbian cut.

The one I know is a bit punky in her tastes generally, so her hair is a statement of quite a few things -

Portofino, no I think the list is a joke. According to it, I only qualify because I say so

Do you think that all butch lesbians want to be 'tops'? Does anyone know the more feminine one in the relationship who is the 'top'?

It's a well established phenomenon known as 'Femme on the streets, butch in the sheets', MadBLee. Or vice versa.

It is a situation of which I have had some experience, yes

Just caught up with this thread, I know it's died but just wanted to add something if the op is still wondering.
Lesbians want sex with other women, pure and simple, so some of them will deliberately look like men to attract the prettier femme lesbians. and it works.
Forget all the reasons you've been given about political statement, the 'original' look, it's all to do with getting sex from the best looking person you can get, just like heterosexuals all the lesbian couples i've known have been butch/femme, in personality type too. lesbian dating sites will ask you what 'type' you are and what 'type' you're interested in, again, just like heterosexual dating sites. it's not rocket science, it's all about 'sex'.
and some lesbians will flirt, have affairs, play away, lie & cheat, just like the rest of us.
We're all the same really.

Sorry - but with all due respect, what a crock o' shite!

All to do with getting sex with the best looking person?! In whose parallel universe is that the one common denominator?! That's not universally true of straight OR gay people - what a ludicrous generalisation!