Husband of a friend telling off my child

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I was invited out this morning with some neighbours who are good friends. The husband is known to be snappy and to have little patience with his own children.
In the space of an hour, he told my 4 year old daughter to 'stop whining' and in a cafe, he snapped at her to 'OI, STOP THAT' when she kicked him under the table ( she was doing it playfully). My daughter burst into tears and came and sat on my lap. When his wife, who is a good friend, commented to him to calm down, he agressively responded 'Its not my problem if she's crying cos I told her off for not kicking me. She can deal with it'.

She is 4.

I said nothing as I didn't want to upset his wife, who I know was mortified.

I really want to email him tomorrow to tell him how inappropriate and uncalled for it was. AIBU? What would you do?

PS. The ironic thing is, he has an obnoxious daughter who is really badly behaved and I say nothing!

TotallyLovely - Your right its more 99% think she is VU. Its only you and Animation that thinks it was uncalled for.

If only one could actually buy a 'phaser set to stun'... [wistful emoticon]

I agree with you Laquitar. Unless he snarled an inch from her face, there is no way I can interpret 'oi stop that!' as being particularly aggressive or out of order.

I think the girl cried because she was embarrassed at being hauled up, not because she was scared of him.

So she got a row OP - so fucking what? Kicking is not on, and your daughter is no exception to the rule, no matter how much you spend on school fees. Grow up.

Would a teaser do? All parents could be issued them on giving birth. Now imagine Animation's face if that happend

MrSpoc Why set me that challange?!

TotallyLovelly - What challenge have i set?

"Luckily DH didn't even THINK of telling me to "calm down""

expect an email soon

When we, for a short period, used the "naughty step" (or in our case, "hallway"), ds used to dissolve into floods of tears just because we pointed to the hallway. He knew he was misbehaving - didn't stop him crying though.

Fortunately we didn't have to use it for long.

(BTW: he is now 10 and is lauded by teachers and friends alike for how well behaved he is ie for everyone except his parents and what a nice boy he is)

"Would a teaser do? All parents could be issued them on giving birth. Now imagine Animation's face if that happend"

Are you talking about a taser gun?

Aw.

Pictish maybe she cried because of OP's reaction. When my dcs are with me and fall over they just get up again. You should see them with grandma! They cry as if they have been through a huge trauma. Why? Because grandma puts her drama queen face and uses emotive language.

MrSpoc - did you mean a taser? rather than a teaser, which might be the challenge referred to?

No a teaser gun. they sell them in Anne Sumers grin Ok you got me.

Damm I did the wrong

A young boy came up in nursery and attacked my baby so I sternly told him off, I did not touch him or raise my voice but did say "no! You do NOT do that to anyone". His mother wasn't there, the nursery staff were on their way and I believe that timing is key. It is an instant reaction that whenever someone hurts you or someone you love to react sharply. Tbh if you were allowing your daughter to play fight someone you know has a short fuse at the best of times, you have to accept the consequences. He didn't retaliate with violence so your reaction to him does seem a little harsh.

Got to go...

Will check this thread tonight - probably at 1000 by then.

I waqs starting to warm to you then Animation so instead i am sending your a growel (wish they have a face of a growling lykan to send you).

Spoc To find other people on here who agree that the blokes react was over the top, apart from me and Animation. So here you go (just went back a few pages, I really must have better things to do!)

IsolatedAndAlone
Ormirian
CrapolaDeVille
spudulika
Insomnia11
portaloo
JoySzasz
SenoritaViva

*ThingsThatGoBuzzInTheNight Mon 20-Jun-11 14:13:46

This thread is hilarious. God alone knows why the OP has it in for Fuckme specifically. And then has the front to say that Fuckme doesn't like being disagreed with. The irony of that statement from this particular OP is outstan*

agrees with this ^

Wow remind me to not give you any form of a challenge again. ( i didnt mean it litterally).

PMSL worra , sorry. That should have been clear. Full stop. :o

So do I need my shin pads or not when I go to America Cheerful?

Probably full on body armor, worra ....our kids are brutes.