... to create a thead to ask very specific, nosey questions aimed at specific posters?

[fgaaagh]

I still don't know how the private message area works on MN ( sorry! keep meaning to try a few tests rather than embarass myself by getting it wrong some day when i try it - it took me about 3 weeks of constant attempts to learn how to strike things out and make them bold). And I think some questions might be interesting to see the response publicly anyway.

So, here's a thread to ask specific questions about certain posters if you think it will be publicly interesting, not upset/offend the poster it's aimed at, and if you also wish to hide your lack of IT skills like me Prompted by a little "I wonder if she'd mind if I derailed the thread to ask...." moment on another thread.

So: my (vvv nosey) question.

At SpringchickenGoldBrass.
Q: Do you have children, and if you do, how do you reconcile your interesting views on sexuality, or do you raise them in a much more traditional environment than your posts on here would suggest? Your posts have opened my eyes to a very different set of social values than I grew up in, and I find myself nodding along with many of your posts. but I can't imagine holding some of your views with 1 husband and 3 kids and living what you preach. Do you? Are there any conflicts with that? What's the reality of thinking what you do and living life with all of society's judgements/norms?

Feel free to post your own questions if you've ever wanted to derail a thread with a nosey question aimed at another poster! No guarantee of a repsonse from any of them of course!

YANBU really but you are being daft as the message poster facility is easy. You click on it. In the To box is the name of the poster you have just clicked on in the message poster bar. You type in a title and then type in your message in the box below. It goes only to them and is private. You can block posters from messaging you too which is useful. HTH.

YANBU but as Fab says all you do is click on 'message poster' to the right of the poster's name.

I never think SGB preaches anything.
I think she just gives an opinion.

the problem with this way is, you will never get an answer if said poster doesn't click on your thread

What are springchickens views on sexuality then, just out of interest?

Oh god, i've never actually clicked that link next to the "report" link. i thought there was a Private Message area like on another forum I use - you know, a different mini-board where it logs all your messages like on a private forum. IYSWIM. that is much simpler than i thought.

you are a bit thick

btw, fgaaagh, when you get your reply, would you mind reposting it here ?

AnyFucker, yes I can[smile}. i have asked her to let me know if she wouldn't mind, and i have asked her to let me know if she at least got my PM too. even i can't muck up that form i think though!

you mucked up your smiley there, though

I reckon there is a simple answer though (from sgb)

She keeps her sex life away from her ds, just like we all do

OK, I'm here now. Firstly, yes I am a mum, but as my DS is 6 there have not been any in-depth discussions of sexual lifestyles so far. Though I answer his questions when he asks them (I posted the other day about having to use the phrase 'special cuddle' when asked exactly how the man plants the seed in the woman to make a baby... ). He did ask a while ago if I was married to his dad and I said no, I wasn't, and that not everyone gets married or wants to, and added that men can marry men and women can marry women if they want to, and it's all fine.
DS sees a lot of his dad, but his dad doesn't live with us. This is because his dad is an old drinking mate of mine rather than an XP (to be fair, we did actually date one another about 20 years ago, decided we weren't suited but remained on friendly terms). I intend to raise DS with an open-minded attitude towards other people's sexual choices ie that anything consenting adults want to do is fine and that it's OK not to be like everyone else - and he will not be allowed to use 'gay' as a general insult or make negative remarks about women who have lots of sexual partners or engage in a lot of sexal display.

That do you, OP?

Im now wondering about searching springchickengoldbrass as wondering what the hell OP is going on about.

I don't think her views are incompatable with raising a child! Her son has a dad who's her friend.

Her views seem sound and based on good sense and self-respect to me. But I disagree with her that monogomy HAS to be doomed!

Sounds alright to me SGB? Not sure what your "different social values" are though as the way you are bringing up your DS to be openminded about sexual choices sounds exactly the same as I'm doing. Never thought I was being weird TBF. I also use the term "special cuddle" :o

Does anyone else find that when scrolling down on a touchscreen phone you constantly accidentally report posters?

This seems like a good place to ask, does anyone know if messages catch up with you if you change name? So if someone clicks 'message poster' on an old name does it still get through? And if you block someone do they remain blocked whatever they're called?

I'm curious.

Can't think of any personal questions for other posters that i want to ask in public though

Revoltingpeasant....yes,I do that!

well i name changed but then changed back and still got my messages

Ooops....

i say special cuddles but the other day my 6yr old DD went dont you mean sex mum kids these days