... to create a thead to ask very specific, nosey questions aimed at specific posters?

[fgaaagh]

I still don't know how the private message area works on MN ( sorry! keep meaning to try a few tests rather than embarass myself by getting it wrong some day when i try it - it took me about 3 weeks of constant attempts to learn how to strike things out and make them bold). And I think some questions might be interesting to see the response publicly anyway.

So, here's a thread to ask specific questions about certain posters if you think it will be publicly interesting, not upset/offend the poster it's aimed at, and if you also wish to hide your lack of IT skills like me Prompted by a little "I wonder if she'd mind if I derailed the thread to ask...." moment on another thread.

So: my (vvv nosey) question.

At SpringchickenGoldBrass.
Q: Do you have children, and if you do, how do you reconcile your interesting views on sexuality, or do you raise them in a much more traditional environment than your posts on here would suggest? Your posts have opened my eyes to a very different set of social values than I grew up in, and I find myself nodding along with many of your posts. but I can't imagine holding some of your views with 1 husband and 3 kids and living what you preach. Do you? Are there any conflicts with that? What's the reality of thinking what you do and living life with all of society's judgements/norms?

Feel free to post your own questions if you've ever wanted to derail a thread with a nosey question aimed at another poster! No guarantee of a repsonse from any of them of course!

Well that does answer my question. BTW, I wasn't trying to insinuate that any values SGB has posted are incompatible with raising a child - not my intention. I was just curious about the practicalities of it based on my own traditional upbrininging and attempts in my own relationship to break some of the moulds my parents tried to instill in my own social values (marrying = good, 1 mum staying at home = good, children outside of wedlock = bad, same sex relationships = not neccesarily bad but just not done round here, and so on!).

Thank you for not being offended and giving a bit more insight

And, anyfucker, I mucked that previous one up on purpose, see? it's all part of the plan

I'd like to ask MdeLindt (?) if she's actually made of chocolate, like in my head?

Hmmm message for anyfucker.. I'm sure I saw u post a while back that ur leaving us? Did that not happen

P.s I hope I am royalty like you one day! (Bows gracefully)

hi spoony

no, I didn't leave, I namechanged for a while, but then reverted back to this name

err, you don't wanna be like me, I promise ya

Sgb, while you're there. I have two Ds' aged 14 and 12. The eldest one in particular uses "gay" as an insult. I pull him up every single time because I hate it, with a passion. Can you, or anyone else give me a really convincing, applicable reason to enforce my view that it is not to be used as an insult.

Dh is with me on this and they are generally extremely well behaved kids. All input gratefully received.

Tell him that using 'gay' as an insult will give other people the impression that he's a homophobic bigot, and that most people do not want to be friends with bigots, as bigots are stupid, obnoxious and not at all sexually desirable. .

If I ever got called "gay" I'd just grin and say "yes I am happy thanks! Glad to see your vocabulary expanding!"

[Starts to think there really was a reason I got bullied...]

Thanks SGB.

Also a bit odd that inanimate objects are "gay" Ffs, since when has writing thank you letters been "gay" or green beans

The boys school is full of 'gay' and 'retard'. No idea what to do about it. They suspend for racist words, even if used in fun but not these.

Wonder if girls use those words in the same way? I've only got boys so I don't really know.

Do people really PM questions like that to people?

I have had a go at dd for saying crap like 'new look is gay'.

I tell her it makes her sound like an idiot.

Offensive boy language is jumped on in some schools. Banter can be close to abuse. It depends on how the target feels about it .the abuser is almost irrelevant in the debate.....study the targets response

PaperView, isn't that what a forum and opening your (my/our) narrow world view via the internet all about? If SGB was offended by my question, I'm sure she'd have posted nothing, or posted a snippy reply. Since she hasn't, that's fine, I found out more about something I was curious about on a topic she's been happy to discuss publicly before now.

If that isn't the ultimate good use of a public forum, I don't know what is.

As for the "gay" thing, I've had this with DS on occasion - I find these things go in trends, one week it was some word to do with facebook that i thought sounded odd, until i asked him what it meant and he explained it. i've not heard him use it in weeks though. so in my experience, i've found that keeping a nonchalent demeanour in general can sort of work - i.e. don't highlight that it annoys you, my DS has been known to do something because it annoys one of us despite not enjoying doing it, IYSWIM. i know you said you hate it and pull them up every time - but are they just using it to annoy you? to "get a reaction"?

However, if i was in public I would have to say something.. i've used phrases like "Stop that, it's inappropriate and you're showing how immature you are" to some effect with DS - not specifically for language tbh - but his latest thing is wanting to show us how he can be trusted to look after DCs when we're out for a few hours, and i've said if he can prove he's responsible enough then we'll think about it (so far he's been too unreliable, generally get neighbour or GPs to watch them all) so that seems to work well recently actually. is there some similar thing you could identify with yours i wonder?

I'd like to ask Gabby whether he/she is actually two people. One a bit confused, the other quite wise. A retired couple, perhaps, who recently invented the internet?

Gay has been used in Norn Iron for ever to describe specifically awful crappy things.
I will not have it used in this context in my company

A retired couple invented the internet?

I want to know why I insist on reading AlouiseG as A Louise Egg. It drives me insane! :o

I just thought that i would throw in that I have met SGB's lad and he is the most adorable little man.

As for the "gay" thing i think you should ask what he means by "gay" when he tells you it is because it is bad/rubbish/unliked etc. Then you can ask him if he thinks that being gay is bad/rubbish/not to be liked? You need him to understand WHY it is wrong, not just that it is.

iyswim

Gwendoline - I used to read mamag as Ma Mag!

also mama 'z on

ie on the blob, with mooncup..whatever the term is these days

at Mamazon. Not all the time he's not...

perry - that pronunciation makes seasonal namechanging easier Mamazontopofsanta mamazonarocket mamazonabroomstick etc

ah so not m'amazon as i imagined?...

a gloriously tall lovely, biting of wit, brimming with intellect

just a name to add stuff to...

crestfallen

well M'amazon is how it should be. Very much with your description, it is spot on

But mamaz 0n makes for lazy name changes.