To feel uncomfortable about teenagers and brazillian wax?

[ajandjjmum]

Genuinely interested in feedback. Needless to say, stems from an appointment DD has asked me to make for her. I'm quite comfortable with a bikini wax, but not a full brazillian.

Depends how old they are, under 16 no way, over 18 fine but 16-17 I'd be open to discussion.

I had my eyebrows waxed at 14 but anything inthe bikini area is too far IMO.

Over 16, fine. Under 16, no way! I also had my 1st eyebrow waxing at 14...nothing else though!

I wasn't even allowed my ears pierced or any make-up until I was sixteen, I just can't imagine daughters asking their mothers to book them an appointment for a brazilian. I haven't got girls so obviously completely out of touch but would be a big NO from me (even if they are over 16). Also are you expected to pay for this brazilian? I'm actually quite shocked.

YANBU - I completely understand why you are uncomfortable.

Hmm, how do you know its not all shaved off already anyway?

18 and over is fine by me, younger than that and I would say HELL TO THE NO!

Unless she is paying for it? Then I think she can legally do it after 16 herself.

Great, now I'm thinking ahead 17 years and imagining future me reacting to this type of request from my LO. Arrrrggghhh!

Why does she want a brazilian? How old is she?

Well it's up to you but for me, my full waxing is far more intrusive than any gynae exams I have ever had. If you decide to allow her, be really choosy about where she goes. The first time I had a full wax I ended up with a monumental urine infection. I am in my thirties though and able to make an informed decision. I do it for my sex life and only in the last few years have thought about it, maybe a bit sexual for a teenager? Up to you though, don't want to judge.

Not sure I'd have any interest in it tbh.

It's not like you can police it so I wouldn't worry.

If my d was a swimmer I might say yes to a sideboards wax

But would baulk at a full brazilian

why wouldnt it be okie under 16? I would rather it was done professionally than a diy job like we did when we were younger. I will be taking dd to the salon to have waxing done as soon as she wants it, but not before 11. brazillian from about 14 onwards i have not problems with.

I'm not in favour, but "everyone does it these days" and she'll probably do it with or without your consent or approval.

Or do you mean she is underage and the place insists on parents consent? You can certainly say you don't approve and won't be encouraging her by making the appointment.

"not before 11"

A 14 year old with a brazillian

I've heard it all now

I had a brazillian at 13.

A diy jobby though, not at a salon.

My parents did not, and had no reason to, know.

As far as I know a reputable salon will not give a Brazillian wax to anyone under 16 without parental consent. I'm sure other places might, but not good ones. It might not be a legal issue but rather more of a health and safety/ moral and ethical issue.

She's 18, she's going on a 'girls holiday' and doesn't want to feel stupid because of course, everyone else is having one! She's had one before - I happily booked a normal bikini wax before but she apparently had a brazillian - she's only just told me. It just doesn't seem a big deal to her - and yet I'm uncomfortable with. At the end of the day, she'll do what she wants (and pays for!!!), I'm just wondering if IBU.

Nah 18 is okay

18?

Yabvvu

take the sexual element out of it, whats the problem?

For her part its what everyone else had, its all gone so no paranoia of a odd stray hair or dark wet hair showing through a pale swimsuit (that, for me, was a very redfaced moment )

18, then yes YABU, she is a grown woman. I had a mortage at that age and the idea that my mother would think anything about what was on my fanjo is a bit odd

My DD16 and I had a conversation about this recently - it really is normal among her age group to remove nearly all of it down there, whether by waxing or at home. Once I realised that it was something that everyone her age does do, more or less, I also realised that there is no actual moral value to it one way or the other, providing the girl is doing it of her own volition and choice, and that really it was her business, not mine. So I shut up. Personally I do as little as possible down there, but there are worse things for her to reject my attitudes about, after all.

OK - fully accept IABU.

When anyone talks about their 18 year old daughter, you think in your own mind of a young adult making their own decisions, some right some wrong.

Unfortunately when it comes to your own DD - and I'm sure I'm not alone here - 18 doesn't actually seem that old at all!

I'm still not paying for it though!!

Thanks all.

Oh 18 is fine. I was doing my own personal waxing at that age, although I have never been the 'all off' kinda girl.

At 18 I wouldn't give two hoots TBH.

OP she is a grown up now, I think it is actually quite nice that she is comfortable enough to involve you things like that, some 18 year olds don't have that kind of relationship with their mothers so I would be chuffed if anything.

If it helps you at all then think of it this way. At 18 there is no way in hell I would have been telling my mum anything, and I mean anything, about what I did with my body.

At least your DD trusts you and respects your relationship with her enough to feel that she can involve you (although I'll gladly admit that sometimes it must be nicer not to know!!).

She's 18, she can do whatever she wants! Why doesn't she just book it herself though? If you are old enough to have a Brazilian and go on a girls' holiday, surely you're old enough to make an appointment yourself? I can't see the problem with her having it, though, it seems to be the thing these days. I feel old now, as when I was 18, nowhere did Brazilian waxes, that I know of.