To feel uncomfortable about teenagers and brazillian wax?

[ajandjjmum]

Genuinely interested in feedback. Needless to say, stems from an appointment DD has asked me to make for her. I'm quite comfortable with a bikini wax, but not a full brazillian.

At 18? YABU.

At 18 I'd think she's old enough to book her own appointment.

Her only mistake has been to ask you to book it. Why can't she book it herself?

Facinated reading this. I have an 18 yo DD who likes me to go with her when she has to back to the docs to renew her pill prescription! She tells me everything and it IS nice to be involved in their lives, and consulted about things personal (i too would NEVER have told my mother what i was up to from about 14 yo) - but sometimes i think to myself "do i want to know this ? - its only yesterday i was buying you the latest Barbie Doll". lol

Totally agree with OP when she says discusing other peoples 18 year olds feels like discusing adult women - but when its your own 18 yo it does your head in a bit. We know they're adults - but when they're asking for your blessings on some things its hard to be objective. You're doing OK, OP xxx

I'm also wondering why she would ask you to book her appointment for her. I was paying my own bills in my own rented flat at that age.

And why is there any question at all of you paying for it?? She's 18!!

I'm quite horrified by the idea of hot wax going near my legs never mind anywhere more sensitive. Honestly I don't know how people do it!

But if she's 18 it's definitely up to her.

Thanks misty for the support!

I'm a bit gobsmacked with all the 'why can't she do it herself' comments. Of course she could, but she's in the middle of A levels, and was asking me to help her out, which I'm very happy to do. We're family - when any of us is under pressure, we do what we can to ease the strain.

I'm a little bit gobsmacked that you're uncomfortable about your 18 year old daughter having a brazilian. It wouldn't even be an issue to me, it would be exactly the same if she asked me to make her an appointment for the hairdresser or the dentist.

PMSL @ 'ease the strain' by making the thirty second phonecall required to book a wax

OP, my 18 yo is my eldest so this is all new to me - and we seem to be at an odd stage where a loving, family orientated and gentle teenager is going through the last stages of passing into woman hood, and all its private stuff - while still living at home, and, like you say, when they ask for help you want to help, just like you always have.

Last time she wanted me in the docs with her for the repeat pill i drove her there, cos we live in the countryside and busses are few and far between - but i sent her in on her own. And she did fine and was glad of it i think. She deals with her own bank account stuff - phone calls ect. but gets our take on most things before dealing with them herself. She deals with her own college business and part time job. But wouldnt book her own driving test!

Its the last little stages of her childhood - i dont begrudge them. As i say i couldnt talk to my mum about stuff when i was her age, and still cant. And she's the one missing out now. Its a balancing act - and as i say, i think your doing fine x

OP, if she's 18 and this is the most uncomfortable thing that has arisen then you have been a wonderful parent and she a wonderful daughter. Well done, really. So relax and let it go is my suggestion.

It's not the most uncomfortable thing tinker , but I was surprised at how wrong it felt! I realise that I am being unreasonable. I have apologised for questioning her about it.

Snickers - as well as coping with A levels, the death of an aunt and her impending funeral, a part-time job and the response from a job interview that she really wants, she's under a fair bit of pressure, and I certainly will never resent helping my DC in whatever way I can, nomatter how small.

misty - it's a funny balance isn't it. Having a close relationship, but encouraging them to make their own decisions whilst still being supportive. DD still likes us to support her decisions, but is happy to fly across the world changing flights in Johannesburg, without a backwards glance. I wouldn't swap our relationship for the world though - hope it always continues.