Ok so I know the answer. I have 3 kids from 3 marriages and I don't love my husband. In fact, I'm in love with the husband of a friend.

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I know, I know. Bad person. I don't think he loves me though, so I will carry on throwing myself into my small business and living the best I can with (d)H.

Or should I?

I think you should un-link the two things.

You don't love your husband.

That's something you need to address.

Forget about this other bloke. Not being able to be with him does not mean you must remain in a marriage with someone you don't love. You have another choice.

Sit down and talk to him. Don't flit. Things can be worked out, but you have to try at the very least.

Sorry, you don't quaify for anything as I know someone with 5 DC, by 4 different fathers, and is now married for the 2nd time. And she's not thirty yet.

blimey, sounds complicated...

I don't see why you bother getting married TBH, you sound like a regular Polly Garter. If children and serial relationships make you happy, then keep going. Although I'm not a fan of poachers.
How do your children feel about their lives with you?

Definitely think you should steer clear of your friends husband.

As for your own, if there really is no way to repair the marriage and life is intolerable together, then you are best to go your separate ways,I think.

Until you sort out your existing relationship, you are in no emotional state to embark on a new one. If your friends husband has given you an intimation that he is up for an affair, then he is no good and you are better off without him.

Do you know what Goblin, nor do I.
!st marriage = I was only 17, did it cos I could. Didn't last.
2nd = did it for money and security. He was a lot older. Didn't last
3rd = I don't love him, but he makes me laugh and is lots of fun. And a great dad/SD to the other 2.

Stay away from your friend's husband

Do what you like with your own marriage.

I think you need to grow up, tbh.

You think a fourth marriage would be better, or are you just planning a fling?
How old are your children?

how awful marrying him when you didn't love him

gosh.

Don't know what to say, except (obviously) leave the OM alone. Why would you want to hurt everyone (including you) like that?

also. You are brave to post on here (and maybe a bit of a masochist)

If you're that unhappy, leave. Spend some time on your own with your children WITHOUT a man in your life, you don't need one, you will survive. Ensure that your childrens' relationships with their fathers is uninterrupted and easy.

I don't want to sound judgemental but I probably do; your children need stability and your life sounds unnecessarily dramatic. Concentrate on what their needs for a bit rather than your relationship(s). You might decide that you enjoy being single after all.

OH SHITE. You are all taking it seriously. It's meant to be a spoof thread.

I haven't even namechnaged!

Sorry . I was being Scarlett O Hara.

I think you need to find other ways to be happy. Clearly going from relationship to relationship isn't working. It wouldn't work this time either, if you were to be with the friends husband.

Oh NO!. It will run and run and you'll have to keep coming back to tell people (in Capitals, because many of them won't bother reading the thread)

What expat said

Ha! She could have done with taking that advice too.

You think we give a damn?

This isn't funny.

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HTH

did you love him when you married him?

have you been scared of being alone? it sounds like that might be your issue.

i agree witht he people who said you should stay away from your fiend's DH... probably not a normal healthy case of 'falling in love' anyway is it?