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Ok so I know the answer. I have 3 kids from 3 marriages and I don't love my husband. In fact, I'm in love with the husband of a friend.

67 replies

sassyTHEFIRST · 15/06/2011 17:41

I know, I know. Bad person. I don't think he loves me though, so I will carry on throwing myself into my small business and living the best I can with (d)H.

Or should I?

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FlamingFannyDrawers · 15/06/2011 17:55

Firstly, grow up.

Secondly, if you don't love your husband, leave him. Let him be with someone who will love him.

Thirdly, sort your life out before embarking on another relationship with anyone, nevermind your friends husband.

You sound like a fab wife and friend btw. Hope your mothering skills are better.

Goblinchild · 15/06/2011 17:55

Really? Well I've known a lot of parents like your spoof, and the sad, angry and confused children with fucked-up understandings of relationships.
So of course I took you seriously, I've met you dozens of you, living at various economic levels in my career.

knittedbreast · 15/06/2011 17:56

i think i fall into your third marriage, never marry a friend. its like living with a women, youl always crave more and it shows the cracks when you see a sexy man who catches your eye.

I dont know what you can do, the problem is every new relationship you have will inevitablly become more boring and routine as you get used to each other. thats the hard part, thats what you need to work on. each relationship will end up similaly so it seems to me you are attracted to the excietment o new relationships.

but what will you do when you are old and grey and there are not the same options for exciting new relationships? then you will wish you still had your husband, more than sex and romance but as your best friend you have seen through your life with.

GypsyMoth · 15/06/2011 17:56

it really isnt funny.....some people ARE in this kind of situation

mocking people...bit low isnt it? (thinking about some of the recent relationships threads)

sassyTHEFIRST · 15/06/2011 17:56

Argh.

Squirm.

Spooffffffff

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BluddyMoFo · 15/06/2011 17:56

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Pancakeflipper · 15/06/2011 17:57

Scarlett O'Hara and trolls are poles apart

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 15/06/2011 17:57

OP... Don't try your luck on the stage... yikes. Confused

JamieAgain · 15/06/2011 17:57

Lighten up everyone. She was being Scarlett O'Hara (although - 3 children???)

Omigawd · 15/06/2011 17:57

3 kids is terribly unbalanced i think, far better completing the set with a child from the New man?

You get an extra goat allowance too :)

sassyTHEFIRST · 15/06/2011 17:58

Tiffany - not aimed at anyone. Don't DO relationship threads really and in - what? 9 Years of MN - have NEVER started or joined a piss-taking thread abouot another thread.

Come on.

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sassyTHEFIRST · 15/06/2011 17:59

Jamie - thanks.

(yes, in the book she has 3 - one from each husband)

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TheMagnificentBathykolpian · 15/06/2011 17:59

Grin ahh, I see.

Your mistake was not namechanging to something scarletty. It didn't read at all like a spoof.

First rule of silly thread, have a name that gives a clue. Grin

JamieAgain · 15/06/2011 18:00

Oh1 Have not read the book. That's really surprising.

ReadyToDrink · 15/06/2011 18:00

Ooh, how unfortunate. I don't think that OP was trying to cause any offence though - it was supposed to be one of those guessing / spoof type threads which often go really well, but the tone obviously got lost somewhere. Let's not all pile on & make this more uncomfortable than it needs to be Grin

JamieAgain · 15/06/2011 18:01

Yes, we must stop piling in

herecomesthsun · 15/06/2011 18:06

Why not head over to style and beauty for some advice on accessorising your curtains?

kerrymumbles · 15/06/2011 18:06

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JamieAgain · 15/06/2011 18:08

kerry - read the thread (and my very helpful Capitals)

sassyTHEFIRST · 15/06/2011 18:09

ERRRR think I have if nothing else conclusively demonstrated that Mnetters only read the OP.

Tsk. Lazy.

(NB. Think I might have name-changed if it was for real...)

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JamieAgain · 15/06/2011 18:10

sassy - just report yourself. Honestly.

EdwardorEricCantDecide · 15/06/2011 18:11

Shock there is a book of gone with the wind and she has 3 kids????
Grin

fedupofnamechanging · 15/06/2011 19:57

Aahh. most people have only seen the film, so wouldn't 'get' this. Mind you, i have read the book and still fell in Blush

kerrymumbles · 15/06/2011 20:03

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FabbyChic · 15/06/2011 20:14

You seriously ought to consider contraception, or spending more time with them before having children.