to feel like my friend manipulated this to make me sound like a food militant

[knittynoodle]

She said 'my friend only gives her 3yo jam sandwiches for dinner, every night as thats all he'll eat'

I said, 'I dont think DS will ever be anywhere to try jam until hes older, I dont like it and neither does DP. In fact I dont think Ive ever seen my mum or DP's family eat jam?' [ponders jam]

Friend, out of nowhere : WELL! Id like to think Id let MY child eat anything they wanted. At least let them TRY things!

She set me up! I wasnt saying he couldnt bloody TRY jam! Just that I couldnt think of a situation where he would get to try it seeing as no one in our families eats it! Other than me buying a jar just for him to try and then it going off because no one else will eat it.

Shes always doing things like this, starting to critisize someone else (I couldnt care less what her friend or anyone gives her kids to eat) and then when I say something back, making out like Im a food militant.

That was passive aggressive of her, wasnt it?

sorry, but in the nicest possible way, : you need to get out more, really

I know, I really do. It just wound me up because shes done it a few times about toys/activites etc. Its not really just about the jam

You have 'friends' who you argue with? About jam?

If you find yourself arguing and feel she's 'setting you up', it's probably best for you to spend time with some other people instead.

It's child abuse is what it is . Go and buy your ds some jam you cruel, cruel woman.

Or you could just have a night out with some better mates and get pissed instead. It's upto you. I'd go with the latter option, personally

Not sure about your friend but morrissons sell mini individual jam pots.

Really? Individual pots? Thats good to know, maybe I could even try it myself!

I need to get out more. Point taken

guess who is feeling guilty about her childs eating habits?

hilarious reaction to your innocent statement. do you think you touched a sore point?

I think she needs to get out more.

Would it be more acceptable if you'd said that your DS probably wouldn't get much chance to try Marmite because your family are all Marmite-haters? (disliking jam being more unusual)

sorry, but in the nicest possible way, : you need to get out more, really

I agree ( in the nicest possible way too! )

"it's not just about the jam"

for some reason I find this very funny :o

'It's not just about the jam' should've been the thread title.

You should get some jam. It's lovely. Steer clear of the marmite though. Vile stuff.

Good grief woman, get over it! Although if she does it a lot then YANBU. But I'm afraid we need more examples to help us decide. :o

There are quite a few things that DD has no knowledge of simply because DH and I don't like it. No big deal IMO - I don't think she's going to suffer from not trying marmite even though we both love twiglets

[ponders condiments]

Reminds me of a quote from Friends:
Joey: hey Chandler, howcome we never have jam at our place?
Chandler: because the kids need their shoes!

DD had never tried jam till we came to live with my mother.

I swear the woman puts a spoonful of jam into most food - most recently a sausage casserole

Was that jam, or was it something like redcurrant jelly? I can't imagine having floaty lumps of strawberries in a sausage casserole..?

Jam you say? We have several jars in the fridge. I think there is cherry, raspberry, gooseberry and mulberry. We are quite berry heavy. I know there were four different types because DD and I got them together when we first moved here in anticipation of visitors.
In minkreech land, you must be hospitible. I am almost certain that they are in the fridge. There is a lot of other shite in their too.

I think it may have been her homemade damson jam. She is a jam fan!

She is also very keen to spoon jam directly into the baby!

Wow. Did you grow up with sasage-and-jam casserole? Do you get other delights such as fish and jam and chips or chicken kievs with a jam inner rather than garlic butter?

Definitely odd.

You can use Damson jam / jelly in the same way you would redcurrant :)

Pump up the jam

Tank fly boss walk jam nitty gritty
You're listening to the boy from the big bad city
This is jam hot
This is jam hot

how does bob marley like his doughnuts?
wi' jam in

(sorry)

Voulez Vous couchez avec moi (Lady Marmalade)

Pump up the jam LOL

I really fancy a jam sandwich when I get home. Actually it's quite nice with cheese.

Would he have jam in one of these? . or is it about biscuits too?