to feel like my friend manipulated this to make me sound like a food militant

[knittynoodle]

She said 'my friend only gives her 3yo jam sandwiches for dinner, every night as thats all he'll eat'

I said, 'I dont think DS will ever be anywhere to try jam until hes older, I dont like it and neither does DP. In fact I dont think Ive ever seen my mum or DP's family eat jam?' [ponders jam]

Friend, out of nowhere : WELL! Id like to think Id let MY child eat anything they wanted. At least let them TRY things!

She set me up! I wasnt saying he couldnt bloody TRY jam! Just that I couldnt think of a situation where he would get to try it seeing as no one in our families eats it! Other than me buying a jar just for him to try and then it going off because no one else will eat it.

Shes always doing things like this, starting to critisize someone else (I couldnt care less what her friend or anyone gives her kids to eat) and then when I say something back, making out like Im a food militant.

That was passive aggressive of her, wasnt it?

[zipzap]

A whole load of replies on this and not once has anybody explicitly commented to say jam sandwiches every night?!?!?!

what is MN coming to? (wanders off shaking head and muttering...)

[Lizcat]

Surely this is possible to discuss with any food stuff. I don't like plain eggs (they are okay in cakes) so didn't feed DD any kind of egg until she was 5 and went to stay with my mum who gave her boiled eggs. I do occasionally cook these works of the devil though I can't cooked a soft boiled one - can make a souffle though.

[Journey]

You definately need to get more.

I think your reply to your friend was a put down which is why your friend said what she did. It implied (to me) that you thought jam was disgusting and that you would never let your child near such a horrible item!

[Scholes34]

Oooh, had a jam sandwich as an energy boost before a race on Sunday. Lovely. Just go and get some jam! It's especially nice on brown bread with salted butter. And in a victoria sponge with some buttercream. And in tarts. And in rice pudding. Not to mention doughnuts.

[droves]

Every night i cook various ,nutritious meals for my children.
Almost everynight the twins refuse to eat .

ds4 has chocolate spread sandwich instead or jam instead, as i scrape the untouched meals into the bin.
dd4 has a cheese sandwich/cheese & toast instead.

Its driving me nuts , but they have to eat something !

.I think your friend is more pissed off with the fact her child wont eat anything else and is resigned to it.

[superjobeespecs]

haha haha pump up the jam made me laugh your friend sounds mean and like she's trying to be better than you, maybe she's jealous of you and wants to belittle you ? next time even when you know she's winding you up just agree with her and go 'my, how terrible let us all take a trip to tescos so my DC doesnt miss out!!' and watch her face fall flat (evil ) hate stupid friends like that i do

[AlsoAvailableSober]

Would he have jam in one of these? . or is it about biscuits too?

[Gingefringe]

Pump up the jam LOL

I really fancy a jam sandwich when I get home. Actually it's quite nice with cheese.

[GetOrf]

Voulez Vous couchez avec moi (Lady Marmalade)

[CatIsSleepy]

how does bob marley like his doughnuts?
wi' jam in

(sorry)

[GetOrf]

Tank fly boss walk jam nitty gritty
You're listening to the boy from the big bad city
This is jam hot
This is jam hot

[GetOrf]

Pump up the jam

[Soups]

You can use Damson jam / jelly in the same way you would redcurrant :)

[Bluemoonrising]

Wow. Did you grow up with sasage-and-jam casserole? Do you get other delights such as fish and jam and chips or chicken kievs with a jam inner rather than garlic butter?

Definitely odd.

[TheCountessOlenska]

I think it may have been her homemade damson jam. She is a jam fan!

She is also very keen to spoon jam directly into the baby!

[constantlywrong]

[kreecherlivesupstairs]

Jam you say? We have several jars in the fridge. I think there is cherry, raspberry, gooseberry and mulberry. We are quite berry heavy. I know there were four different types because DD and I got them together when we first moved here in anticipation of visitors.
In minkreech land, you must be hospitible. I am almost certain that they are in the fridge. There is a lot of other shite in their too.

[Bluemoonrising]

Was that jam, or was it something like redcurrant jelly? I can't imagine having floaty lumps of strawberries in a sausage casserole..?

[TheCountessOlenska]

DD had never tried jam till we came to live with my mother.

I swear the woman puts a spoonful of jam into most food - most recently a sausage casserole

[fuzzpigFriday]

Good grief woman, get over it! Although if she does it a lot then YANBU. But I'm afraid we need more examples to help us decide. :o

There are quite a few things that DD has no knowledge of simply because DH and I don't like it. No big deal IMO - I don't think she's going to suffer from not trying marmite even though we both love twiglets

[ponders condiments]

Reminds me of a quote from Friends:
Joey: hey Chandler, howcome we never have jam at our place?
Chandler: because the kids need their shoes!

[DamselInDisarray]

'It's not just about the jam' should've been the thread title.

You should get some jam. It's lovely. Steer clear of the marmite though. Vile stuff.

[SoupDragon]

"it's not just about the jam"

for some reason I find this very funny :o

[valiumredhead]

sorry, but in the nicest possible way, : you need to get out more, really

I agree ( in the nicest possible way too! )

[Trills]

I think she needs to get out more.

Would it be more acceptable if you'd said that your DS probably wouldn't get much chance to try Marmite because your family are all Marmite-haters? (disliking jam being more unusual)

[blackeyedsusan]

guess who is feeling guilty about her childs eating habits?

hilarious reaction to your innocent statement. do you think you touched a sore point?