to hate shaving my lady garden, but do it anyway because DP likes it

[passivelyaggresive]

Its awkward, it itches like a bastard when it grows back and looks daft but DP REALLY likes it, and it has a forgone conclusion AIBU to do something that i dont particularly like to arouse my partner - akin to making him a cup of tea, its nice to do things for people you love. Or am i letting the side down?

OP I wouldn't do it for him, do it for you if that's what you want. So what if he gets a gobful of hair, he's not gonna die. And no personally, I wouldn't do something sexually that I didn't want to do, wouldn't expect dh to either.

I keep my lady garden tidy but that's cos I swim. A bare hoo ha is an absolute no no for me and even if dh wanted it (which he doesn't) he wouldn't get it.

passively it does hurt, I'm not gonna lie. But I have tried shaving and waxing, and wax wins. It hurts less the more you do it, and it's just so worth a few minutes of pain!

my question was more along the lines of, do you ever do something sexual that you are not that keen on, just because your partner likes it

No. I don't need to make myself feel uncomfortable just to turn him on. And he wouldn't want me to either.

So asking as some one who has shaved in the past but now, have no clue I'm just a trimmer! How does one veet it all off? What's best to use? Does it work well? Burn? What's teh regrowth like when creamed off?

What's the thing about spraying deodorant on to avoid ingrown hairs?

dont know cook cleaner - im not about to try!!

differentnameforthis There is a world of difference between doing someting your not keen on than doing something that make you feel uncomfortable, unless you mean the sort of discomfort you get when you pubes grow back!

The making a cup of tea analogy is crap. This is your body which you have to live in all the time. I think it's a bad idea to do things to your body which you hate.

I'll cheerfully do things for DP which don't particularly do much for me - BJ's for example - but I wouldn't do something I hated. I think it would damage my self esteem and breed resentment.

What is this 'deodorant' trick?

I have a shaven haven because I much prefer it, DP has no input but I like it to be all off for cunnilingus, and that works well for us both.

I get ingrowing hairs (which I rather like plucking out ) so to minimize that would be wonderful.

Just spray aerosol deodorant on immediately after shaving. Something to do with the pores but it works

aeresol on my puss? i don't think so - that can't be healthy

Shave with talc.

Never itches after. Ever.

Not with talc FFS, not down there, you are not supposed to put talc down there!!!!

You want an itchy fanny or not?!

Im not poofing it up there, just a light dusting.

I think YABU sorry. I shaved my foof many moons ago (I was only 22) and it looked like a fucking raw chicken fillet! It was bloody horrible, itchy as hell and then a got a shaving rash! [urgh] DH didn't really like it either, TBH. Now I have a full bush 70's style, it's much more comfortable.

I do, do stuff sexually that I'm not really that in to though. I'll give him a BJ every now and then even though I hate them. [gag] But I'm not going to do anything that makes me physically uncomfortable anymore.

YABU unless he has a back, crack and sac wax in the name of equality.

I do it for my DH, but likeswise he does his for me :)

Ho hum.... I may possibly be the only woman in the world to say this but... hair has never been a problem for me when it comes to BJs. Like doesn't one's oral instrument bypass hair??

err well yes, no problems with BJs, but its different for girls, or um, men - i think

YANBU to do it, up to you. Most of us do some stuff to keep the peace or keep others happy. DH came to see Dolly parton, he watches Footie scores on a Saturday, etc.

I do think all shaved off just looks 'wrong' but that's just my opinion. I wip off the underneath with immac though but leave the frontal bushage alone.

Also at pussy -

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I do it for my DH, but also cause i like to look trim get yourself one of those lady trimmers, does the trick for me, and then i razor the sides off! My Dh shaves his for me too, i find it quite sexy it makes the dick look bigger!

lol domedon - would you prefer i say cunt

Put it this way, id rather shave my um, undercarraige for my DP than iron his shirts, some things are a step too far!!

tried veet its not for me. made me sore for about 3 days. even the sensitives
stuff

Cunt is acceptable - glad we're all agreed

I NEVER iron either - there are some things that are beyond the call