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AIBU?

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To want dh not to take my best mate out with his work colleagues

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Hormonalmoaner · 07/06/2011 23:00

dh told me that a group of his colleagues were going to go and watch the motor racing at the weekend and asked if I minded him going too. Of course I said I didn't. Then, later, he apologised for not inviting me and asked if I wanted to go. I do like motor racing but we couldn't take dd (she would freak out at the noise) so I said no as I'd rather not abandon her for the only full day I get her in the week. Then he tells me he's invited my (gorgeous single) best friend along. (he's gone to races with her before and I haven't had a problem with it) The other guys going are taking their partners along. They have never met me as he's only been in the job a couple of months.

AIBU to not want him to take her? It will cause a fuss if I put my foot down on this, But it feels like a couples thing to me (obviously not to him) and I'm gutted that he's invited her.

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coppertop · 08/06/2011 17:04

The OP knows far better than we do about what her dd can and can't cope with. Just because some/many children with ASD are able to be taken out of their comfort zone, it doesn't follow that they all can. You pick your battles. At that age it was difficult to do much even with my very passive ds1. With ds2 it would have been a hundred times worse.

The OP has already said that she can't always physically manage her dd by herself. I guess only the OP can say whether her dh is someone who would work with her to enable them to go out as a family.

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