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to not let my dd have her ears pearced

122 replies

libbylobs · 04/06/2011 20:10

my dd has come home from a playdate, and now wants her ears pearced, she is only 6 and i think its to young ., what do you think? x

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GypsyMoth · 04/06/2011 20:10

i think its pierced!!

BelovedCunt · 04/06/2011 20:10

no, do it, and her nips

GypsyMoth · 04/06/2011 20:12

lol beloved,why stop there??

Jonnyfan · 04/06/2011 20:12

Pierced. And I think 6 is too young.

FabbyChic · 04/06/2011 20:12

Far too young. Tell her when she is 13 you will consider it.

Original poster
libbylobs · 04/06/2011 20:13

thanks tiffany, shows how thick i am .x

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yankiedoodledandy · 04/06/2011 20:14

No way, it's so chavvy on little girls, and don't get me started on babies with pierced ears!!! 10 at least I think, when she goes to high school.

WorzselMummage · 04/06/2011 20:14

I think it's up to you. I was 8 when mine were done and my 6 year old has asked for hers done and I have said not yet.. no doubt i'll let her when she pesters me into submission and can appreciate the pain etc.

6 is maybe on the edge of being to young but no-where near as 'too young' as babies and toddlers.

shirleyshortcut · 04/06/2011 20:14

pierced and i had mine done at 6 and was fine and not mentally scarred

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libbylobs · 04/06/2011 20:15

yep i think 13 is about right age. oops a sulky 6 yr old. x

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TheFlyingOnion · 04/06/2011 20:16

nope too young

unless you are a chav, in which case, go for it Grin

beesimo · 04/06/2011 20:17

I pierced my DDs ears a month before their 7 birthday so they could have their first important piece of jewellery on their 7

Using the cork method DD1 and 2 never shed a tear DD3 screamed the house down 'stop Mammy' then 'no Mammy I wants them' then 'stop Mammy'

Tortoise · 04/06/2011 20:18

My DD's, ages 6 & 8, have been told they can have them done at the start of the summer holidays before secondary school, so around age 10-11.
DS2 wants his done this summer! He's 11 so i can't really say no when i have told DD's that age.

usualsuspect · 04/06/2011 20:18

chav responses standard

slartybartfast · 04/06/2011 20:19

she has got to be able to take care of her pierced ears herself.
11 i would think, depends on her ability to look after herself

cannydoit · 04/06/2011 20:21

did both mine when they were 8, thats when i had mine done.

GingerWrath · 04/06/2011 20:22

I had mine pierced the first time at six..in 1978..my grandmother took me to have them done without my Mum's permission, then had them done a second time at 13, with my aunt, without my Mum's permission! I think if they are old enough to ask, and they are old enough to understand it will hurt then it is fine.

fifi25 · 04/06/2011 20:26

I have 3 dds. Eldest 2 got their ears pierced in yr1 as all their friends were getting theirs done. They couldnt do PE for nearly 12 weeks as they do not heal after 6. I got youngest's pierced when she was 2.5 so they were healed and i wouldnt have to go through her missing PE. Big mistake they got infected and had to be surgically removed.

I wouldnt advise her to have them done as they have to remove them for pe by themselves as the teachers are not allowed to.

timmysamba · 04/06/2011 20:27

My 7 year old dd's friend is having her ears pierced. Dd now wants hers pierced - no way. Far too young imo. They have to take them in and out for pe. I told her 11 at the earliest, well, when she starts secondary school so 11.5.

I can't understand why anyone would want their ears pierced. Mine are still virgin!

GingerWrath · 04/06/2011 20:31

timmysamba...I am glad mine are pierced as I inherited a pair of very nice vintage platinum and diamond earrings from a great aunt that would be sat in my jewellery box otherwise!

giveitago · 04/06/2011 20:32

As her parent you need to decide when you think it would be acceptable. Go with your gut instinct and think about who would do it for her - how it would heal if she's very active and into rough playing etc.

Do not worry about people thinking is chavy - why would you care about what other people think?

Back in my day it was 16 yet my junior school had a policy of only allowing small studs at school so there must have been younger girls with earrings.

I had mine done around 4 and it was considered very late. That's my mum's culture. My dad's english and he was happy enough with it as he thought that most girls want them done eventually so why wait.

I'm glad she did it as I'd have been too much a coward to have it done as a teen.

We're nothing like chavvy. If you worry about people thinking your child is a chav child then that's a pity.

Having said that if I see a european child very young with piercings I do a bit of a double take only because it's rare.

You don't sound keen so don't let her.

pointythings · 04/06/2011 20:44

I had mine done at 13, both my DDs want their done but later - I explained how it would feel (had 2nd ones done in my 20s so remember it well) and they decided to wait until they are older - probably when youngest is 11 and at the start of the summer holidays.

I've just inherited a lot of lovely earrings from my late lovely MIL, I think of her every time I wear them and am glad I have the pierced ears for them.

squeakytoy · 04/06/2011 20:49

I had mine done during the summer holidays before going to high school. I think that is the right age to be mature enough to look after them properly yourself.

As for piercing your own kids ears Beesimo Hmm

A1980 · 04/06/2011 20:51

I had mine done at about 9 and that was too young.

It does hurt and it has to be cleaned twice a day for at least 8 weeks. I was too scared to cahnge them after 8 weeks and wouldn't let my mum do it either. They got massively infected and had to come out. I got them done again at 17. Tell her a few scare stories Grin

nooka · 04/06/2011 21:01

I got mine done at 16 and really regret it. They got infected and have never properly healed (almost 25 years later!). Turns out I can't wear earrings in any case as I have a metal allergy. I can manage very pure gold for about half an hour before they are weeping and angry.

I've told dd not before 16, although I might relent and let her get them done when she goes to high school (13 here). I don't think she has any need to wear earrings, and she can always wear stick ons/clip ons/magnets if she really feels the need.