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to not let my dd have her ears pearced

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libbylobs · 04/06/2011 20:10

my dd has come home from a playdate, and now wants her ears pearced, she is only 6 and i think its to young ., what do you think? x

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happybubblebrain · 04/06/2011 21:03

Far too young, it looks awful on kids, I think. Tell her she has to wait until she's 18. I was told the same and then when I got to 18 I decided it was far cooler not to be a sheep and I never got them pierced.

HSMM · 04/06/2011 21:03

I told my DD 13 - she is nearly 12 and has been nagging me since she was 2, but 13 it will be :)

JenniL1977 · 04/06/2011 21:03

Beesimo you pierced your own kids' ears?

I got mine done when I was 10 - my mum said 13 but my nana talked her into it. Got the second ones done at 13, 3rd at 14, nose pierced at 15, eyebrow at 16, belly button at 20... I'm a bit of a rock chick tho :) although I don't wear any of them now except my first earrings.

HappyMummyOfOne · 04/06/2011 21:04

Far too you, it looks horrible and tacky. Tell her to ask again when she's 16.

ajandjjmum · 04/06/2011 21:06

DD was always told 16 - even when loads of her friends were having them done at 11. She plays a lot of sport and it would have been a pain.

She actually dropped the idea for two or three years, and then asked again when she was 15, and we were happy to agree. She's always been responsible and never had a problem with them - I suspect this wouldn't have been the case if she were much younger.

DoMeDon · 04/06/2011 21:12

Mine were done at 2- not chavvy at all where my mother came from - quite standard on young girls. It seems a bit of a Brit obsession to label piercing chavtastic.

DD can have hers done when she wants - no big geal, only earrings.

DoMeDon · 04/06/2011 21:13

geal ?!? deal

2tired2bewitty · 04/06/2011 21:14

I am 30 and my dad still won't let me have mine done

beesimo · 04/06/2011 21:15

Of course I pierced my own DDs ears who better to do it than their Mam I wanted it done right. Who do you think used to pierce bairns ears before they had those gun things. My DM did mine, her DM did hers back and back through our family. Are you allowed to do nothing for your DCs now?

My DM was the first of our line whose own Mam didn't birth all her bairns.

Meow75 · 04/06/2011 21:15

I first had mine done when I was 15 without my parents' permission. My mum didn't speak to me for nearly 2 weeks, she was so upset.

As it turns out, because I have psoriasis behind both ears, the presence of earrings - even ones that don't have backs - just causes the skin to build up and get all sweaty and horrible. I let them close up and repierced them twice more right through to my mid-twenties. I have now given up on the idea, and as I prefer short hair, I don't really like dangly earrings as they make my fat face look even more hamster like!!!

JoySzasz · 04/06/2011 21:23

Here in the US the doctor can do it for you when they are babies!

There is a school of thought in these parts, that if they are done as a baby the child will not fiddle with them and will accept them as part of their bodies.

My DD2 has not had them done:)

More shocking,and slightly funny ...my DH got his done at 50 in Walmart.

It actually looked very nice(surprisingly), He is very young looking though and that did help I think?

GingerWrath · 04/06/2011 21:31

I had mine done in JC Pennys!

thumbwitch · 04/06/2011 21:33

YANBU. I think I wanted mine done when I was about 9 or 10 - Mum said I had to wait until I could legally get them done by myself, which is about 14, isn't it? By then, I couldn't think of anything worse and 30 years on they're still not pierced.

She'll thank you one day, maybe. Or get them done as soon as she's old enough.

wigglesrock · 04/06/2011 21:35

My dd1 is almost 6 and has asked a few times. I had mine done when I was 8, I actually don't have a huge opinion on it. I've told her we can think about it when she's 8. Agree with previous poster the "chavviness" of ear piercing seems to be peculiarly British.

piprabbit · 04/06/2011 21:35

I've told DD she can have them done at 13 (if she still wants to).
I may relent at let her get them done at 12...and she will think I am the best mum ever (perhaps ).

This is a long term strategy as DD is only 7yo.

thumbwitch · 04/06/2011 21:36

oh and I managed fine with screw-on earrings - I used to buy standard dangly earrings and transfer them to screw fittings, which I could buy in bead/craft shops easily enough. Clips hurt my ears, unless they're adjustable.

PonceyMcPonce · 04/06/2011 21:37

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Seona1973 · 04/06/2011 21:58

I had mine done aged 7 so wouldnt be bothered if dd wanted hers done just now (she is 7.7 years). She isnt interested in getting hers done as it 'might be sore'

TeaOneSugar · 04/06/2011 22:06

My dd had hers done recently at 7, just very small silver studs, doesn't look chavvy at all.

She wears plasters over them for PE, so there's no issue with being old enough to take them out herself.

petitepeach · 04/06/2011 22:17

It dosen't seem to be in 'fashion' as much now to get young girls ears pierced.....got mine done when I was 16, my eldest dd isn't the least bit interested.
I was slightly at my sister-in-law who got her babies ears done at 5 weeks...the poor thing was a prem baby aswell, she hunted round until she could find someone to do it.... just about sums her up really, the poor thing has got some fake diamond monsters in it looks horrid and tacky imo...

crazycarol · 04/06/2011 23:03

I told dd she had to be 21 to get them done. She is now 15 and asked again. Truth is I am scared of the pain etc! Yes me! No doubt one day she will come home with them done, or alternatively - my worst nightmare - only 1 ear done as it hurt too much and she couldn't bear to have the second one done.

TidyDancer · 04/06/2011 23:10

Six is too young. I think teenage at the earliest (so 13).

Earrings on babies or toddlers look horrific.

Julesnobrain · 04/06/2011 23:13

13 is about the right age, before that it just looks yuk and tacky.

LordOfTheFlies · 04/06/2011 23:18

My DD hasn't asked but I would make her wait until she was old enough to take care of them herself. I was 14 but my mum didn't want me to have them done.I had trouble putting the new ones in after the 6 week healing period and she wouldn't help me,so had to let them heal up.Got them re-pireced at 15.

DS asks because his mates have them.I've told him over my rotting corpse when he's 16 if he must.Hope he's given up the idea by then.

onceamai · 04/06/2011 23:27

I told dd she could have hers done when she started her periods expecting her to be like me. She started them at 10.5 and I kept my word. It was lovely, no problems at all until she went to secondary where the PE commandant teacher insists all earrings are removed every torture PE session. With fiddling and faddling and lost earrings they were closed by February. Very sad and I'm really quite cross about it.

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