Ok here is the backstory.
She was 92 and lived in a home 100 miles from us. In the 3.5yrs we have been together we have visited her once.
She died last week, and the funeral is Monday.
My dd (4.5), has preschool on Monday. We also have a DS 2.5yrs who I cannot find childcare for.
The funeral isnt local, so we would be out from 8am-4pm at least.
I want to say, sorry but my children come first, DD must go to preschool and nonetheless its not suitable for them to go to a funeral.
My DH is insistant that he isnt going on his own, and we must all go and support him.
Help mumsnet! Am I being a bitch or am I being sensible?