aibu to ask what you really think of nurseries and their staff

[questioningmouse]

honestly

Smokey - I hope you are as happy with your decisions.Then we can stop these pointless barrage of shit conversations.

that is a good point smokey, some children would do better at nursery than at home, and i suppose, if the mother is unhappy regardless of class/socio-economic status, then it probably is better for it to be in a good nursery.

I just snorted water out of my nose at "It sounds like a boarding school or an orphanage. Yeuch."

[gets violin out and plays it while looking pointedly at uncaring parents of babies in nursery]

Weloveguineapigs - you attacked first check back.

"They are all different. If your son isn't yet sitting at tables and joining in picnics etc then I can see that he probably wouldn't thrive so well in that group environment - some children just get there at a different time to others."

Really, she's developing VERY well, thank you. Lovely dig though, v funny.

Exactly my point smokey - the timing of free places is based on generalised assumptions and not on any actual evidence. Right up your street I guess...

Where pomme? Because that certainly was not my intention.

Exactly Tatty - I hope to have a dc2 who may be totally different to dd and nursery may be a terrible option for her/him.
However I KNOW that dd and her nursery work amazingly well. if I didn't she wouldn't be going. No study knows that better than me so the '3 year old' shit is not applicable here.

Oh fgs ladies - read the thread title "to ask what you really think of nurseries and their staff"

Why are you reading it when you KNOW some people will be less than complimentary. Seriously? Do what you like with your own children, I could not care in the slightest. I've said already that I've never voiced these opinions before because NO ONE HAS EVER ASKED FOR THEM. BUt now they have, and I'm voicing them.

And the only person who has said anything REMOTELY sensible to me is reallytired, which was interesting.

But really, why do you care what I think. WHY??

'i will add my other babies also seemed to really get alot of having other children around from..well..from whatever age they were capable of looking at them!'

they definitely love to see other children from a young age, but i think a lot would benefit from an hour or two then home for lunch and a nap or whatever rather than 8-10 hours...

I had decided with DS to use a childminder when I went back to work. however she let me down at the last minute and I decided to go with a well recommended local nursery having done the rounds of the other nurseries.

Honestly it was the best thing I could have done for both my children. I work shifts and so pick them up/drop them off at irregular times so am happy that the level of care for the children does not vary. There is a regular core of older/experienced staff with younger staff who are learning the ropes. My children love all the staff there, so much so that DS begs to go and see his early years teachers when we pick up DD (PITA as it is another building!)

However on viewing other nurseries and seeing some of the staff and their attitudes I would not have been happy leaving my children there. Everyone has their own opinions on how to bring up children and you pick your childcare accordingly

kungfupanda

weloveguineapigs - who is feeling sorry for themself? And I presumed you meant a local one off gym type not a regular occurence. However that nursery sounds shit.

I am confused as to why people who don't use nurseries (and are supposedly not bothered if other people use them) are on this thread...

'I think nursery care is stressful for every person involved, child, mother, staff and I feel very lucky it is not a choice I had to make.'

Smug, wrong and designed to get peoples backs up Weloveguineapigs.

to those of you use nursery
is this really 1st time someone has had a go or made the orphanage/institution quip?its up there with i know someone who knew someone who works in a nursery and she says they beat dem kids

really do grow a thicker skin. its no odds what someone who doesn't use nursery thinks

lol ive heard all those quips ad infinitum
heard all the quips and met too many precious moments mamas

Why do I care? I don't really - am just confused as to how someone can have such clearly strong opinions on something they have very strongly skewed ideas about.

peppapig, i'm here cos i worked in lots and felt i had something to contribute but really you are right, why on earth am i here and not in bed where i should be! byeeeeeeee

DS first nursery was in Spain. It was fabuloous. The staff cared so much and loved DS (did help he is strawberry blonde with big dark blue eyes so a bit of a novalty!)

I remember the guilt they felt when he was biten by a 2yo (DS was 18 mths) even though I just said these things happen.

DS UK nusery he started at 2yo had 2 absolutly lovely employees who did the care in his room. They sadly left to move up the career ladder (and I expect did very well). The next carers were lovely but seemed to lack 'the certain something' iyswim? Can't complain about what they did/ how they cared for DS at all though.
The nursery manager was a bitch. Didn't realise this was the general consensus between most parents until after they had left and started school.

I am a higher level nursery nurse btw. (soon to be teacher when I finish this blardy degree)

"I am confused as to why people who don't use nurseries (and are supposedly not bothered if other people use them) are on this thread..."

Because the question was "AIBU to ask what you really think of nurseries and their staff"

NOt - "AIBU to ask what you really think of nurseries and their staff in your capacity as a nursery user".

Why shouldn't we have an opinion?

Bollocks, it was my opinion and I stand by it. Wasn't designed to get anyones backs up at all. I believe that to be true and stated so on a thread that asked for my opinion.

Slow handclap for those that bleat that they are "entitled to their opinion" and who continue to spout claptrap in the face of evidence being given to counter their "facts".
As I have said, I don't care what you do with your children, but do get irritated by people who present their prejudices as fact and who can acknowledge that maybe their "opinions" may need shifting.

Has it ever occurred to you that some people might think you're spouting claptrap clemette?

peanut stay! You are as entitled to your opinion and to be here as much as anyone else on this thread.

I am beginning to think that you all deep down feel a bit shit about your choices or you wouldn't feel the need to defend them quite so aggressively.

It's rubbish though. I nor dd or her carers have ever found nursery stressful. Therefore it is wrong as you have made a generalisation that is just not true. You have also never used a nursery so how would you know??
A more truthful 'opinion' would be - in my imagination I think nursery must be stressful...'.

[plays violin particularly loudly and pointedly at scottishmummy]