to suggest that my sister could cover boobs with a scarf....

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Sister has 2 DC 2 and 5 months. I am pg. She reckons she is the world expert on child rearing, never afraid to comment on other's parenting. We went for lunch at the weekend at Wagamama's. Staff were lovely and helpful offered highchair etc sis was vocally demanding a certain table and being a bit precious IMO. We were sitting next to 6 young guys (same table) Sis whips boob out and BF baby. I (and our neigbours who were eating) could see boob, dripping nipple. When she announced loudly that baby had bitten nipple I offered to pass her a scarf to save the boys blushes. She refused and said she was often complimented on being a good role model for BF. AIBU to want to do things differently or is she right?

Well i dont see why anyone would wanna see anyone elses boobs and i dont see why anyone would want other people to see theirs either..... :/

Im just saying it is possible to do it discreet or at least try

It's possible to look away Teenytiny, if breasts upset you that much.

Of course the only breasts it's ok to see are the ones belonging to a 20 year old on the cover of Nuts. Seeing the breast of a mother breastfeeding her child is OBSCENE.

seriously though teeny, what is this issue you have with a 'whole' boob being visible?

whole boob, half a boob or just the nipple showing, it makes no bloody difference. we all know what boobs look like so seeing the whole of one as opposed to part of one isn't going to do anybody any harm at all.

and none of the BF mothers i know get their 'whole boob out for all to see' they whole boob out in order to feed their child. if people see it then they see it. i have never met a BF mother who has said "i'm going to get my whole boob out for everyone to see and think i'll feed my baby while i'm at it"

really it's just a boob, there is nothing dirty or wrong with them. we all have them, stop being so childish about how much of one you happen to see when someone feeds their baby.

i managed to do it so im not sure why others are incapible and the op was talking about her sister with her whole boob out!!...

Rita i didnt say its okay to see a 20 year old with them out in a mag but breastfeeding is obcene so please dont say i did say that!

so tell me this then the ones that feel the have to get their whole boob out why?? why do you need your whole boob out for all to see??.....

well done to your sister, if everyine did that, life would be alot easier to bf in public, it would be seenas totally normal, which it is

I personally still wouldnt feel comfortable with getting my baps out for everyone to see....even if it was what others were doing.

If I am unbuttoning a shirt or pulling my top down = breast out. To feed my baby not for "all to see". Much easier than faffing about with a breastfeeding top with holes cut in or scarves/muslins (which my baby doesn't allow anyway).

"Well i dont see why anyone would wanna see anyone elses boobs and i dont see why anyone would want other people to see theirs either..... "

nobody does want to see anyone else's boobs and no-one does want anyone else to see theirs. people don't breastfeed to show off boobs!! they breastfeed to FEED their babies!

can you imagine men having this argument: men should only have the slightest tip of their penis showing when they are peeing in a public urinal otherwise they are whipping their penis out for all to see?

they aren't they are having a pee and no-one really cares how much or little of them is on show, people avert their eyes. of course you get the show-offs who will remain undone longer than necessary but that doesn't mean they all do!! they need to pee they go to the toilet and they pee, nobody feels uncomfortable, nobody suggesting someone hangs a scarf over himself or hides away in the corner while he pees.

it's exactly the same for BFing. a baby needs to eat, you go to a cafe (a place where people eat!!) and you feed your baby. why does there need to be any mention of the amount of feeding aparatus on show?? oh yes, that's right, because breast are for sex and sex is dirty. we mustn't ever see them in public unless of course we are paying to look at them in a magazine!!

"i dont see why anyone would wanna see anyone elses boobs and i dont see why anyone would want other people to see theirs either."

Well, do you want to see someone's face, or someone's hands, or are you just indifferent to whether you see those parts or not? (Basically, I am.) And likewise, I expect we're pretty indifferent about whether anyone sees our faces and hands, though maybe not so for some Muslims.

So if faces and hands aren't things we want to see, I don't see why breasts are so very different. They're OK. You might see them once in a while, and if so, no big deal.

what about pulling your top up enough that your baby can feed by your not showing your whole boob?? why pull it down??

teeny!! you are spectacularly missing the point!!

no-one needs to get their whole boob out, but it is so much easier and more comfortable than faffing about with blankets/shawls scarves. why, should a mother and baby be uncomfortable? why? what is so wrong with someone else seeing a boob? what is wrong with it?

Seriously where are you getting this breasts are for sex and sex is dirty???

NO breasts are for feeding but still dont mean you HAVE to get them out for all to see!!

I'm not going to lift my top up and expose a load of tummy and back thanks.

Well i managed to feed without everyone seeing my boobs and i was comfy its pretty easy if you know how.

"what about pulling your top up enough that your baby can feed by your not showing your whole boob?? why pull it down??"

why not? it's six of one half a dozen of the other. you're going to see flesh either way. it's either boob or belly.

Women don't get their breasts out to show them off Teenytiny, they get them out to breastfeed. If you don't want to see a breast, don't stare at women breastfeeding.

again i managed to feed without showing tummy or back as baby was covering my tummy and my back i was wearing a jacket or cardi...

teeny what is your issue with boobs? you say pull teh top up to expose the belly rather than boobs. why? why is belly preferable to boobs? what is it about boobs that makes them less acceptable than belly? it is all flesh afterall.

i dont stare at women breastfeeding rita i aint a weirdo and as i keep saying you dont need them out to breastfeed!!!

i dont know i didnt show my belly either..

well i just learnt how to breastfeed discreetly, i didnt show my whole boob nor did i belly or back....

you don't need your boobs out to breastfeed? really? have you got a secret outlet somewhere else on your body?