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to suggest that my sister could cover boobs with a scarf....

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chocolatehobnobs · 31/05/2011 22:13

Sister has 2 DC 2 and 5 months. I am pg. She reckons she is the world expert on child rearing, never afraid to comment on other's parenting. We went for lunch at the weekend at Wagamama's. Staff were lovely and helpful offered highchair etc sis was vocally demanding a certain table and being a bit precious IMO. We were sitting next to 6 young guys (same table) Sis whips boob out and BF baby. I (and our neigbours who were eating) could see boob, dripping nipple. When she announced loudly that baby had bitten nipple I offered to pass her a scarf to save the boys blushes. She refused and said she was often complimented on being a good role model for BF. AIBU to want to do things differently or is she right?

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Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 23:13

because if she was talking to me its a bit rude not to look at her and by looking at her you couldnt not notice her whole boob out!!!...had she not tried to talk to me i wouldnt look at her.

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 23:16

as i said its prob because i didnt/wouldnt and wouldnt feel comfortable getting my whole boob out that id be uncomfortable seeing anyone else do it.

TimeWasting · 01/06/2011 23:17

But you realise that your feeling uncomfortable is your problem, and not hers?

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 23:18

well its not my problem...i didnt look but what was i supposed to do when she talks to me not look at her or walk away??

CelebratedMonkey · 01/06/2011 23:20

I've always tried to be discreet while breastfeeding in public, but only because I'm not that confident about my body - not because I think there's anything wrong with having more boob out.

People should bf however they want to, whether it's with a cover, using a muslin, just pulling their tops down. The more women bf in public, the more it's normalised, the more it's just 'oh yeah that's how you can feed babies', rather than ugh someone's got their tits out.

If you personally feel uncomfortable with seeing a bit more boob than you'd like, that's one thing, but don't expect everyone else to think the same way. Boobs were made to feed children. And feeding isn't 'private' - it's just a boring, regular thing that has to be done several times a day. So why not do it in a restaurant? Makes sense to me.

TimeWasting · 01/06/2011 23:22

Teeny, of course it's your problem, you feel uncomfortable, that's not her problem.
You could look away, not talk to her or consider that your reaction may be over the top and try and get over it.

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 23:23

it is your problem that YOU find it uncomfortable. it isn't her problem. it's yours.

think of it thsi way teeny.

i dont like feet. especially otehr people's. i dont like looking at them. people wear sandals. it isnt necessary but tehy do it because it is more comfortable for them. i have no right to ask them to wear socks under their sandals because my dislike of feet is MY issue. i have no right to impose my issue on them.

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 23:23

no its not my problem.....it would be a bit rude to total ignore her and getting your boobs out in public for all to see is ott....

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 23:24

feet??....

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 23:25

it is your problem!! you said you wouldn't do it so that is why you are uncomfortable when someone else does it. that means it is your issue. YOU have an issue with it!! it isn't her issue. it's yours!!

BibaLee · 01/06/2011 23:25

Teeny, of course it's your problem.

There's no need to look at anything around you for longer than a second if it offends you.

Just look away.

You are being very combative given you are a woman who has/does BF.

Not quite sure why you are being such an oddity about it all.

Are you on this thread for a fight?

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 23:25

teeny you sound about 13. really immature.

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 23:27

yeah okay then if covering yourself up as apposed to getting them out for all to see is immature whatever!!!......just relise not everyone wants to look at your boobs not sure why you would start getting all uptight and namecalling THAT is immature!!

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 23:28

your attitude to breasts is immature and prudish.

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 23:28

no it seems everyone else is cos i dont agree get over it fgs....do what you want just dont expect everyone to be exited at the sight of our boobs!!! god

BibaLee · 01/06/2011 23:28

Well if they don't want to look, they don't have to look do they? Hmm

Their eyes aren't magnets, and boobs aren't iron.

No problem there then.

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 23:28

your reactions here are immature.

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 23:29

not its not immature i just dont wish to see a set out and about...if i thought that i wouldnt breastfeed mysekf would i have??

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 23:29

the only person who gets excited at the sight of my boobs is my baby.

BooyHoo · 01/06/2011 23:30

you dont have to see a 'set', look away!!

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 23:30

I DONT LOOK but if someone sits next to you gets their boobs out and talks to you how can you not look??

TimeWasting · 01/06/2011 23:30

Why does acknowledging that your feelings are your problem mean that you have to ignore her? Confused
You could just accept that you feel uncomfortable in the situation and carry on talking to her. Expecting her to change her behaviour because of how you feel about it is unreasonable.

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 23:30

whatever do what you want i choose not to get boobs out it dont NEED to be done but if you feel u have to fine!!!!!!

BibaLee · 01/06/2011 23:31

You might need to reassess what breasts are actually for Teeny.

Maybe too many years of being indoctrinated by the media that they are pleasure things for men (yeuch) has skewed your view of what breasts are actually for.

Teenytiny · 01/06/2011 23:31

what are you on about i didnt expect her to stop feeding i just felt uncomft she started talking and i had to look at her...