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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be annoyed that i have no idea where my hubby is?

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fostermumtomany · 31/05/2011 10:35

i woke up at half 7 this morning. hubby is not in bed, not downstairs and after several frantic phonecalls, nowhere to be bloody found.

my daughter heard him leave the house at 5.30am as the door closing woke her up.
he has left his mobile at home, no note nothing.
aibu to want to kick his head in?
he has never ever done this before and i am worried as last week he got very upset over something my son said and hasnt really been right since. although when i have tried to talk to him about what is wrong he just says nothing.
i am not impressed!!!!

OP posts:

FabbyChic · 31/05/2011 10:41

Is he depressed? Could he have harmed himself in any way?

Have you tried all his friends and family?

Did he take the car?

AuntieMonica · 31/05/2011 10:43

have you checked the garage etc?

he might have gone out for a bit of fresh air and got locked in/fallen?

SunshineisSorry · 31/05/2011 10:44

oh, that is worrying - i would feel exactly the same. Think of anywhere he might be and call them. Is he meant to be at work by now? could you call to see if he pitched up. Maybe he just needs some space, but if you are worried and this is out of character, im sorry to say this, but id be calling the police.

NunTheWiser · 31/05/2011 10:45

Does he have any friends or family that he might have gone to see if he's a bit down and needs a chat?

AgentZigzag · 31/05/2011 10:46

Yes, I'd be worried too if it's not his usual behaviour.

Can I ask what your son said last week?

It's quite a long time to have it pent up inside and only be acting on it this morning.

Has he got a job he should be back at today?

sausagesandmarmelade · 31/05/2011 10:47

I would be worried sick...

Hope he's ok and that you hear from him soon.

Rapaccioli · 31/05/2011 10:50

Might he now be at work?

Would he have gone to somewhere where he can clear his head, where he goes fishing, plays golf or walks the dog for example?

Other family members? Friends? Has he got a childhood place where he might go to think?

I agreed with the poster above in that if, failing any of these bringing an answer, you're still worried call the Police, if only for your own peace of mind and sense of being able to 'do something'.

PrincessJenga · 31/05/2011 11:03

Oh how worrying for you!

Could he have a work meeting or something that you didn't know about? I often wake up confused about where DP is, then remember he's gone to X city for a meeting. Does he have a car and is it there now? Was he due at work today & have you called to see if he's there?

I agree with the others. Call everywhere you can think of. Then call the police (local number, not 999)

I hope he turns up (&apologises!!!) soon.

ticklebug74 · 31/05/2011 11:03

Is this out of character for him? Did he take his keys/wallet? Any idea what he was wearing? And what the other posters have said - is he meant to be at work and a no show? And I agree if you have no joy in tracking him down notify the police of your concern. Not sure they can do anything at first but at least you will feel like you have done something. Hope he comes back soon and has a bloody good explanation for going awol!

nometime · 31/05/2011 11:07

Call everywhere start with work even if he's not supposed to be there and then anywhere you can think of. How old are your DC, can you leave them with somebody and have a drive around looking for him. Hope he turns up soon. Good luck.

SunshineisSorry · 31/05/2011 11:49

Please let us know what happens OP.

grovel · 31/05/2011 12:52

No news?

Mumofaflump · 31/05/2011 13:27

Oh, I feel for you. I hope he is ok. No new advice I'm afraid. Agree with all that has already been said.

COCKadoodledooo · 31/05/2011 13:31

Has he not simply gone to work? Take it you've called there? Friends, family?

Hope he turns up soon.

mousymouse · 31/05/2011 13:31

agree with others, call his mates, work, a&e of the local hospital.
check if the passport is there.
hope he turns up soon!

AgentZigzag · 31/05/2011 13:42

You alright there fostermum?

PigletJohn · 31/05/2011 13:45

"annoyed"

TheReturnoftheSmartArse · 31/05/2011 13:47

Hopefully she's found him, they've had a massive barney, they're both now sulking and she's forgotten she was worried enough to post!

Threads like this always make me a leeeetle anxious, though ...

BradfordMum · 31/05/2011 13:49

Any update?

kreecherlivesupstairs · 31/05/2011 13:50

Bump

Badgerwife · 31/05/2011 13:59

I do hope you find him, I would be beside myself with worry too, especially when it's completely out of character like this. Good luck and keep us posted

Moodykat · 31/05/2011 14:04

Still no news?

PrincessJenga · 31/05/2011 14:11

I'm also hoping ReturnOfTheSmartArse is right. OP's found him and is so busy screaming at him and pulling the face that there's been no time to update the mumsnet worriers.

elephantpoo · 31/05/2011 14:54

hope you and DH are ok OP x

mrsjaja · 31/05/2011 16:33

Any news OP??

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