To want to throttle women who talk their kids in REALLY LOUD VOICES

[bbird1]

in public for no apparent reason. It's just bloody annoying. Just pipe down ffs!

I was in new look a high quality clothing store only yesterday when a woman started banging on about the outsize range to her DD. " Oh look, here are the clothes for FAT people, why would you wear that if you were FAT." The DD picked up a top and said it was nice so the mum responds with "Well there lots of young FAT people too and they can only wear these clothes. We're not FAT are we? It's really wouldn't be nice to be FAT"
Now whether the DD has SN or impaired hearing or anything, surely anyone must know that hollering about FAT people in an outsize section is pretty fucking insensitive.
I was going to say something to her but I waddled off and bought a pie instead

The fact that this thread has ruffled so many feathers just illustrates that it is true - it has touched a nerve big style. The most annoyed posters are those who now know they have been rumbled for their supercilious style of parenting; so bloody desperate to try make sure their kids 'get ahead' even though they are still in bleeding nappies in many cases.

Pirate, how the fuck you stopped yourself making a snarky comment to that nasty bitch, I don't know! Better woman than I!

differentnameforthis - if the child is deaf, wouldnt sign language be more the order of the day as opposed to a loud voice? Just a thought.

@ perplex
and
at the rude woman

You really are very funny bbird. I have plenty to brag about, speech problems are not one of them.
I'm outta here, thoroughly heartened to see how many intelligent, thoughtful parents there are out there that are not afraid to challenge you. I do not think you have proved anything other than your own stupidity.

bbird1, tbh I think you must spend far too much time thinking about other people's actions and motives to be good for you.

There's different levels of deafness, bbird. Plus, some children can lip read....

Bafuckingjesus, are you that ignorant?

Here have a and twat off.

bbird
All that you have proved, is that you have absolutely no idea what it is like to live with a child with SN.

I don't either, but at least I accept the wisdom of those who are in that position instead of helpfully pointing out that sign language would be better for deaf people than shouting at them.

Pirate
You should have smashed a pie into her face, the cheeky witch. I did laugh at the "waddling off to buy a pie" comment.

Best example of public pat on the bat wanting parenting I saw shot down brutally in the manner only a 3 year old can accomplish. Local park, middle of school hols (before I defected to the OTHER local park no one goes to)... mummy and kiddie in full on "tell me I'm a fabulous mum all of you please" mode:

"Darling do you want a breadstick to eat" (look around for all those people praising her for sensible snacking and not ramming her kid full of the stuff the nearby ice cream van sold)
"NO I WANT A BISCUIT LIKE WE HAVE AT HOME!!!!"

Mummy's volume dropped substantially after that one and she turned an amusing shade of red. I had to giggle.

I have a severely disabled child. Sometimes I had to talk to him in a different way from how I would talk to his sister. I'm quite sure there was much tutting and eye-rolling but I never noticed it as I was concentrating on my son. It wouldn't have bothered me tbh.

I've also seen some spectacular attention seeking parenting at school, where I know neither person has SN, and it makes me laugh.

What gets me most are those parents who totally ignore their kids and then just bellow at the poor buggers.

TheFlyingOnion yes it is rather cute at 3, but at 30?

emptyshell

At playgroup they serve weak, cheap squash and cheapo biccies...custard creams etc...ALL of the breadstick and hummus packing Mummies turn up their nose at this food...and their kids are all sad....longing for a swig of my DDs Juice in a cup with a well-bitten-rim. and a gnaw of her nasty biscuit!

5DollarShake
I was responding directly to the OPs point " as do those women who take their kids swimming and make stupid whooping and swishing noises in the water. Like the kid really gives a shit..."
Yes, the little ones enjoy the motorboat noises, the swooshy washing machine noises, etc. That is why they are laughing, and hollering too.
I get that the OP doesn't like parenting for show, but there is a country mile between ostentatious parenting and activly engaging with a child in a physical activity like swimming.
ffs.

Well not always, my friend was partially deaf & her mum raising her voice was enough for her to be heard.

@ OP telling people how they should be communicating with children with hearing difficulties

So I retract my former cheerful comments and instead proffer a

Just thinking about my friend whose little boy often goes a bit deaf with ear infections and things. Rather than raising her voice when he is in a more deaf state than usual, she should instead teach him and the entire extended family and all his friends sign language. What the fuck?

Such a funny thread.

So many attention-seeking, performance-parenting posters trying to do the OP down by claiming that their actions are for completely valid reasons.

People, if you find that others are staring at you and your DCs in the supermarket or the post office queue or the train or the swimming pool, it is because you have completely lost sight of what is considered normal behaviour and a normal volume, and you should pipe down please.

Beryl, seriously my "performance parenting" is for my son's benefit, not yours. I really don't care what you think about it.

I am probably one of these mothers, I guess. Yes, I talk to my child all the time in public, and yes, I guess, probably other people hear me sometimes and think I'm nuts/precious/irritating. Though I do tend to pipe down when I'm inside - mostly it's when I'm out walking.

You know what? I'm not doing it for them - certainly not doing it for "show" (WTF?). I talk to my son because I like talking to my son, even though he's not even 1 yet. I don't give a shit about what anyone else thinks of me. I certainly think that it's a terrible thing to judge people for, but judge away. I'm going to keep on gabbling.

Far better that, than that he ends up as one of the growing number of children who can't communicate when they get to reception because their parents don't talk to them enough.

And "normal" behaviour towards a four year old in my local shopping centre, from what I can tell from the majority of parent/child interactions I see, is to ignore them while they ask you a perfectly reasonable question ten times and then on the eleventh bawl "shut UUUPPPP" and then stomp away leaving them trailing twenty yards in the rear, crying, whilst parent lights a fag. So I'll not comply with the norm if that's OK.

You know what I hate about life? All the fucking people.

beanlet RTFT