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To want to throttle women who talk their kids in REALLY LOUD VOICES

369 replies

bbird1 · 29/05/2011 21:55

in public for no apparent reason. It's just bloody annoying. Just pipe down ffs!

OP posts:
HeadfirstForHalos · 30/05/2011 01:05

I speak like this to my 4th dc. He is 3.7 and has very delayed speech, I do it for him, not for the benefit of anyone nearby criticising listening.

I often feel like a nobby in public if that makes any of you feel better?

HeadfirstForHalos · 30/05/2011 01:07

He has poor muscle control, very weak mouth muscles, and I have to really articulate the sounds, and clearly, so that he will copy.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 30/05/2011 01:08

Hear hear fearne

scottishmummy · 30/05/2011 01:16

others do braggy loud well done darling russian literature at 5yo splendid
i do put it down,down, no dont eat that. no i said DOWN

MumblingRagDoll · 30/05/2011 02:26

YANBU! There are a few of them in my DDs school at pick up time...one of them is like "Oh my GOODNESS! Did YOU make that??? ALL BY YOURSELF MY DARLING??!!"

The boy is 8 ffs.

MumblingRagDoll · 30/05/2011 02:39

Northern It's not about talking to your DC...but doing it in a voice that would serve a theatrical performance well....we ALL talk to our DCs ffs.

MumblingRagDoll · 30/05/2011 02:41

I think I would know if a parent were talking loudly or in a particularly pronounced fashion to aid their DC in understanding them....and can tell the difference between that and some woman who wants everyone to notice her.

5DollarShake · 30/05/2011 03:33

Ohhh, we haven't had one of these threads in ages.... They always end well. Grin

The OP is quite clearly about ostentatious, needlessly loud, attention-seeking parents. If I recall correctly, the thread starts with a load of people coming on to say, quite rightly, YANBU.

And then a load more people come on to spectacularly miss the point and say how horrible you're being about people who - gasp - talk to their children. Shock No, it's not about talking to your children, which every fucker does, but talking 'for show'. And of course special needs are excluded - surely that stands to reason.

Anyway - good luck, OP. Grin The people who want to miss the point you're making will continue to miss it, no matter how much you try to explain yourself! They're clearly the shouty types you're referring to and don't like being rumbled.

And once again, for the hard of hearing at the back - this isn't about talking to and engaging with your children, it's about banging on at the top of your voice in an obviously attention seeking way.

5DollarShake · 30/05/2011 03:33

Ohhh, we haven't had one of these threads in ages.... They always end well. Grin

The OP is quite clearly about ostentatious, needlessly loud, attention-seeking parents. If I recall correctly, the thread starts with a load of people coming on to say, quite rightly, YANBU.

And then a load more people come on to spectacularly miss the point and say how horrible you're being about people who - gasp - talk to their children. Shock No, it's not about talking to your children, which every fucker does, but talking 'for show'. And of course special needs are excluded - surely that stands to reason.

Anyway - good luck, OP. Grin The people who want to miss the point you're making will continue to miss it, no matter how much you try to explain yourself! They're clearly the shouty types you're referring to and don't like being rumbled.

And once again, for the hard of hearing at the back - this isn't about talking to and engaging with your children, it's about banging on at the top of your voice in an obviously attention seeking way.

5DollarShake · 30/05/2011 03:33

Ohhh, we haven't had one of these threads in ages.... They always end well. Grin

The OP is quite clearly about ostentatious, needlessly loud, attention-seeking parents. If I recall correctly, the thread starts with a load of people coming on to say, quite rightly, YANBU.

And then a load more people come on to spectacularly miss the point and say how horrible you're being about people who - gasp - talk to their children. Shock No, it's not about talking to your children, which every fucker does, but talking 'for show'. And of course special needs are excluded - surely that stands to reason.

Anyway - good luck, OP. Grin The people who want to miss the point you're making will continue to miss it, no matter how much you try to explain yourself! They're clearly the shouty types you're referring to and don't like being rumbled.

And once again, for the hard of hearing at the back - this isn't about talking to and engaging with your children, it's about banging on at the top of your voice in an obviously attention seeking way.

5DollarShake · 30/05/2011 03:35

Eek, didn't need to say that 3 times... Hmm

DontCallMePeanut · 30/05/2011 03:43

YAB a bit U...
I'm dyspraxic, and sometimes have difficulty controlling the volume at which I speak. Add to that the point I'm rather well spoken, and sometimes it does sound like I'm in teacher mode.

I also talk to DS almost all the time... How else is he going to learn to talk?

Goodynuff · 30/05/2011 04:07

Hmm I play noisy games with the kids in the lake and at the pool. The love it, any one who is bothered by kids enjoying themselves is a misery guts.

5DollarShake · 30/05/2011 04:15

Yes, everyone is bothered by kids enjoying themselves... Hmm

See what I mean about people missing the point of the thread totally?

BerylPeril · 30/05/2011 04:21

Very good point 5dollar, and in triplicate to boot!

It's the shouty show-offs who are so irritating, not the ones who are merely engaging with their DCs.

DontCallMePeanut · 30/05/2011 04:25

But how do you determine someone's being a shouty show off, and not just dyspraxic, aspergers, bipolar and in a manic phase? These aren't things you can see. There's a million other things that might make someone appear to be a shouty show-off, when that's a million miles from the truth...

nooka · 30/05/2011 04:44

But how do you know why the parent is talking loudly - I think you are making a fairly huge assumption that it is 'for show'. I talk to my children loudly because my dh is partially deaf and I have got in the habit of talking loudly. Plus I have a voice that carries (this should mean I can talk quietly to my dh and be sure that he can hear me, but sadly that's not the case).

I sometimes have had conversations with my children that other people might think were ostentatious because I'm a fairly intellectual sort and tend to get over involved/over think things. Usually I'd have those conversations in my head, but if I have children with me they get the 'benefit' of my thoughts. It might not be particularly for them (although they can generally give as good as they get) but it's certainly not for anyone else because in general I tend to be fairly oblivious to my surroundings. So it might be irritating, but it's not intended to be heard by anyone else.

noid I had a similar conversation with my children about breakfast cereal and got seriously harangued by some bloke who worked for Nestle who happened to be shopping at the time (it was in Croydon).

nurseysclone · 30/05/2011 07:42

EWWWWWW! Seriously?

Animation · 30/05/2011 07:47

I often wonder this myself!

What the hell is going on with them?

I think it's an attention seeking thing - like they want you to take notice.

Bucharest · 30/05/2011 07:49

I sat through a Milkshake concert (bad enough in itself) with dd when she was 4, in front of Mr Moron, Mrs Moron and their family......For over 2 hrs,Mr Moron treated the entire theatre to his I-should-be-a-children's-tv-presenter stream of verbal diarrhea consciousness "Oh! Here comes Pepppppppaaaaaaa Piggggggg! Ha ha ha Mummy, can you remember when we did.....A/B/C" "Would Joseph like some water? ha ha ha ha!"

I felt a bit sorry for Mrs Moron, but figured he was a prat when she married him so has only herself to blame.

Goblinchild · 30/05/2011 08:01

I talk to my children a lot, about all sorts of things.
If I used my teacher voice, they've always objected.
'NO MUMMYTEACHER NO!' with hands over ears. I learnt quite quickly. Smile

Animation · 30/05/2011 08:02

"But how do you know why the parent is talking loudly - I think you are making a fairly huge assumption that it is 'for show'"

I hear it in the tone of voice - talking AT the child, not to the child. And the voice isn't genuine - it's theatrical. And often the parent is looking around as if needing an audience, or audience participation. It's very hard to resist the pressure - but I try to ignore it.

BagofHolly · 30/05/2011 08:05

Oh so annoying! The woman in front of me in the postoffice was CLEARLY doing this when she spoke to her daughter:

"Sofiah, this parcel is for Granny. But we don't write Granny on the parcel, we write her grown-up name, which is LADY Marchmaine. Not Granny Marchmaine but LADY Marchmaine."
And she was gazing around the queue as she said it, totally ignoring her tiny toddler who probably isn't speaking yet.

Ok love, your mum's got a title. Would you like a certificate? Or a biscuit?!

NHScutback · 30/05/2011 08:09

Mummy of 'Otis' did this on the tube the other day. Train was packed, she asked the woman next to her to move up so that 2 yr old 'Otis could have his own seat', then proceeded to ask him did he want to stand up and look out of the window. So he stood on the seat with outdoor shoes on, then kept falling over on others as the train lurched about. Then she parented loudly all the way there, constantly stimulating and reading him books while he obviously wanted just to look around. Finally, she made a huge deal of getting him in his buggy a full stop in advance bossing everyone to move out of her way, and completely blocked the aisle, all the time talking to him in a booming voice.

Goblinchild · 30/05/2011 08:10

Your mum has a title and yet here you are in the post office queue just like the rest of us. Smile
I get the same feeling of satisfaction when I overtake one of our local lotus drivers.