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Does anybody actually know anyone who had an ELCS just because they thought they were "too posh to push"?

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InAStateOfReflux · 24/05/2011 10:22

Just watching the Wright stuff. One of the hot topics is that apparently ELCS rates being performed by the NHS are rising because people are deciding they are "too posh to push" and it's costing the NHS lots of money. Hmm

They are suggesting that these women should be offered psychiatric counselling to bring them round to the idea of having a vaginal birth.

Now correct me if I'm wrong, but I was given an ELCS because my dd was breech and was in fact strongly advised to (not given much choice in fact) and anyone else I know who's had one has been offered it because of significant trauma or complications in a previous birth.

I have never however met a woman who insisted on one on the NHS just cause she didn't fancy pushing it out of her fanny, and I doubt the NHS would go with this anyway tbh...

And if they're talking about women who have real fears and emotional distress regarding child-birth, then yes of course lets force the hysterical wench to push it out, does she not know how much money she's costing the NHS? Hmm

Oh how I love the way the media portray these issues...[sigh] Yes perhaps ELCS rates are rising and perhaps this should be addressed in some way, but to suggest it is for such fickle reasons is so juvenile. Angry Perhaps it is the HCPs fault and not the whole female population who are apparently too cowardly to push their babies out?

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lockets · 28/05/2011 20:08

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thisisourtime · 28/05/2011 20:10

Wow, congrats on your DS2 Lockets!

Great that you had some good support. I think it can make all the difference.

teaforone · 28/05/2011 20:10

I had stitches and was sore of course everyone is and its very shocking and very very painful but at the end of day it all goes when your baby is with you at long last
But women should not be offered a section not at all its sometimes needed yes when mother or baby are at serious risk but just because they are scared thats stupid i was terrifeid of course i was but you have to do it to get your baby..
Whats more important Not going through labour or getting your baby..
If you really dont want to go through labour then quite clearly you really dont want a baby .. As mothers you have to go through life doing things you dont want to for the sake of your children and yes the first of many is getting the little angel out

K999 · 28/05/2011 20:11

Xstich...that is truly fucking awful. Sad.

teaforone · 28/05/2011 20:13

haha yes my was very tramatic to i think everyones ones love.
The different comes when they think baby is too big and belive you answered your own question on that one but congrats anyway

thisisourtime · 28/05/2011 20:15

Teaforone, I'm not going to talk to you any more, I hope you don't mind Smile

Xstitch, that really is awful. What was the result of the case in the end? I hope he didn't get away with that.

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teaforone · 28/05/2011 20:20

I read the question gave my thoughts its not my fault you feel you have to defend yours..........
My answer to the question was no i dont think c section should be used unless its a serious case
What is wrong with that

teaforone · 28/05/2011 20:22

and i was just saying that somone said they had one because of trama and then to say o and the baby was found to be too big then its not right to say its was because of trama because it wasnt it was for her safety because the baby was a big one
Thats all i was saying

xstitch · 28/05/2011 20:27

Teasforone I suggest you read the thread first then come back and tell me I shouldn't have had a C-section if you still feel that way. If you do would you please tell me what I did so wrong and what exactly I need to get over myself about.

I didn't lose full custody thisis but I have to stay in this god forsaken village, need XH's written permission to tak dd over the county border for so much as day trip and am leagally obliged to do what his family want me to.

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teaforone · 28/05/2011 20:30

pardon me??
I did not say you didnt need it i actually said you needed because of size of baby
I was talking about women who willing get preggers and then demand a csection i think you need to chill out it isnt all bout you :)

K999 · 28/05/2011 20:30

Xstich. Your situation sounds awful. You come across as a strong cookie though. Smile

teaforone · 28/05/2011 20:31

no being traumatises should be no reason
its tramic for everyone its life

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xstitch · 28/05/2011 20:32

teaforone I suggest you read the thread, it really does help to understand where people are coming from and I really can't be bothered repeating myself again. My dd wasn't especially big btw well within average range.

xstitch · 28/05/2011 20:34

lockets No time soon I fear dd is almost six so I have to live under XH's control for at least 10 more years and he is aiming at 12.

lockets · 28/05/2011 20:35

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thisisourtime · 28/05/2011 20:35

I'm so sorry xstitch, that sounds truly dreadul Sad

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xstitch · 28/05/2011 20:37

I do lockets. I defied XH on Thursday night so I am waiting for my punishment. Could be a report to SS or anything.

teaforone · 28/05/2011 20:39

shoulder dystocia, baby's heart rate plummeting

Really what do you not understand these are all PHYSICAL reason as is babys sized mothers space etc These are facts that a mw will take under consideration....
This is not because you had a traumatic birth .....
Its totally differnt

sungirltan · 28/05/2011 20:39

i have a friend who had 2 elcs and advised me 'dont worry sgt, just tell them you're too posh to push like i was'

i don't have a problem with her. i do have a problem with jeremy vine though

K999 · 28/05/2011 20:40

Xstich. Don't mean to pry but why does he have such control over you? Do you have joint custody? I am presuming that he just likes to make your life as difficult as possible, for his own selfish kicks...

Tell me to mind my own if I'm crossing the line...Smile

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