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mums going ga ga as nursery says no nuts/products

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thekidsrule · 23/05/2011 22:20

hi,this isnt about me but happened at my sons nursery today and not sure if the parents ABU

as we collected are children a worker asked all parents NOT to include any nut products in their childs packed lunches as they now have a child with a nut allergy

Two of the parents went mad and were very rude to the worker about the ban

can see both sides but as my son dosent take in these products (peanut butter) etc it wont effect me and is probably why i cant make an opinion on this

so do you think the two parents who object to the ban are BU

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cazzybabs · 23/05/2011 22:20

They will find most schools take this approach

BooyHoo · 23/05/2011 22:22

so they would rather a child be sent to A&E dailt because tehy don't like the idea of checking the labels in teh morning? selfish gits. tehy are BU.

BooyHoo · 23/05/2011 22:22

apologies. my spelling gets worse when i encounter such extreme levels of stupidity.

hazeyjane · 23/05/2011 22:24

The whole of dds school is nut free, as there are 2 children there with serious nut allergies.

I really don't see why it is a big deal. It is easy to avoid nut based products in packed lunches, snacks etc and it keeps the children who have an extreme reaction safe, why would these parents have a problem with that?!

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thekidsrule · 23/05/2011 22:25

the two women were going potty about it,seemed a bit OTT as i suspect if their child had this allergy theyd want a ban to

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EdithWeston · 23/05/2011 22:26

Yes I think they are BU. For some children it is very dangerous to ingest peanuts, and for the unlucky few even touching a contaminated surface can cause swelling and breathing difficulties (we had a classmate who fell into that category - by the time he was 6 or 7 he was really, really good at policing near food, but that's not something you can expect of a younger child). And there are loads of things other than peanuts that can go into lunch boxes.

Might be worth clarifying if they mean nuts or peanuts (which aren't actually a nut). If they mean the former, or both, remember not to include nutella either!

PigeonPie · 23/05/2011 22:26

I don't think that nursery is unreasonable, I do think that the ones who went mad are.

I would not like to deal with a small child with anaphylaxis.

We have a blanket policy at our Playgroup on no nuts - tbh, it's just easier. What we have done is publicise it in our prospectus and periodically, we put notes into the children's lunch boxes, highlighting hidden nuts, including those kinder bars and pesto.

RhinestoneCowgirl · 23/05/2011 22:26

Our school is nut-free, thought that was pretty much the norm now...

codandchipstwice · 23/05/2011 22:26

There are 6 children in DS5's class with a nut allergy requiring epipens alone (with DS being one) so they are so not BU for this policy

Sirzy · 23/05/2011 22:27

My sister has a nut allergy so severe that just being in a room with them her eyes swell up. When at school her teacher once found a lad eating a snickers in the back of the room as my sisters eyes started swelling. At nursery age the child also won't understand as much so to much chance of them trying someone else's food.

The parents complaining are being very selfish and very unreasonable. I hope they never fly on the same flight as my sister as peanut sales are always stopped when she flies!

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thekidsrule · 23/05/2011 22:28

seems that a ban is very normal then,cant remember any bans but my other to are 12yrs

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TragicallyHip · 23/05/2011 22:29

I think those 2 parents are being idiots.

Their child can do without nuts for the day!

Jaspants · 23/05/2011 22:33

Those parents are BVU

bonkers20 · 23/05/2011 22:33

Yes they are BU. I thought it was standard policy for nurseries to ban nuts - and many schools now as well I think. Silly parents!

thesurgeonsmate · 23/05/2011 22:34

I worked in an office with a ban, as a member of staff was extremely sensitive. It's just a fact of life. No-one in their right mind wants to eat peanuts so badly that they are willing to risk a colleague's / playmate's life.

magicmummy1 · 23/05/2011 22:40

They are BVU. Nut bans are normal these days, and so they should be. Exposure could be fatal for a seriously allergic child.

budgieshell · 23/05/2011 22:49

unreasonable is not the correct way of putting it, selfish and bloody minded is more like it. Some folk are just never happy. They can not possibly understand what would happen if that child came in contact with a nut. How would you sleep at night if you had caused a child to be seriously ill or worse.

scaryteacher · 23/05/2011 22:59

Otoh, there is no nut ban at ds's school, which is a British school albeit not in UK. There does not seem to be so many food allergies here, and I can't work out why. His school has kids from 3 to 18.

bubblecoral · 23/05/2011 23:04

Most schools and nurseries ban nuts.

i can see the inconvenience in it, but I should imagine that these very selfish parents don't particularly want their dc to have to watch their friend go into anyphylactic (sp) shock either.

Honestly, what were they expecting the nursery to do? Illegaly exclude a child from nursery so that their precious offspring doesn't have to go without a tracker bar for a couple of hours? Hmm

foreverondiet · 23/05/2011 23:06

My DD/DS1 between them have attended 4 different schools and nurseries and all had this policy (no nuts or sesame) there isn't even a child in either of their classes with allergies.

They are being totally and utterly unreasonable and selfish too.

FWIW my SIL was told that she couldn't get a place for her DS at a nursery because of his allergies and they threatened legal action (discrimination) - and the nursery caved in but couldn't introduce ban as its eggs he is allergic to (but not epipen for eggs, he does have severe peanut allergy but they weren't worried about that as its not allowed in the nursery.

How would these parents feel if their child had the allergy?

octopusinabox · 23/05/2011 23:08

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LRDTheFeministDragon · 23/05/2011 23:17

What an interesting thread title, it's written just like a newspaper headline.

bruffin · 23/05/2011 23:21

The anaphylaxis campaign advise is not to ban nuts. My Ds has nut and seed allergy and none of his schools have banned nuts

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thekidsrule · 23/05/2011 23:23

well thank you,i have a way with words.lol

anyway thanks seems an overwhelming response thinking the parents were being totally out of order

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trixymalixy · 23/05/2011 23:27

The parents are being unreasonable, allergies are very serious. I can't see the oher side at all either.