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This is taking a bit far, aren't teacher allowed to have any innocent fun outside school

219 replies

pigletmania · 21/05/2011 10:05

I am [shocked] that this is a story tbh, just a group of ladies having fun on a hen night in their own time, there are no children or animals involved, and nobody is having sex in the photos so what! The parents reaction is too strong, as long as the teachers teach their children well so what! So they sit at home and have no fun then! Don't tell me that they have never had any fun themselves! So teachers should sit at home watching Embarassing Bodies on a Friday and Sat night then, to have fun and laughs with their mates would be Shock, really the mentality of some peopl.

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1389292/Disgrace-drinking-pole-dancing-primary-school-teachers-published-pictures-Facebook.html

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saffy85 · 21/05/2011 10:36

Blimey! Can't believe these parents are up in arms over these pictures!

"Children could have seen these pictures!" Yes children could have, seeing as you printed off said pictures and posted them through peoples' doors you sad cunt. If you'd kept your beak out your children would have been sheilded from their teachers having, shock horror, a good time. Hmm

manicbmc · 21/05/2011 10:39

So a parent is outraged at some grown ups out having fun and not doing anything illegal?

There are some very strange, vindictive people out there who need to get a life.

GrownUpNow · 21/05/2011 10:40

Some of the children have seen the pictures? No bloody wonder if a parent printed them off and shoved them through letter boxes.

Primary school aged children are what? 11 and under?

Facebook is what? 13 and over?

Parents are what? Supposed to supervise the things their children have access to on the internet? Thus all primary school aged children should have no access to a teachers pictures posted on Facebook of a night out not on school hours, which to be honest are not really all that bad anyway.

That parent was out looking for something to get offended about. No wonder kids are out of control young these days. Instead of parents and schools working together, you have parents trying to blame schools and looking for trouble instead of taking responsibility for what their children see.

Stupid, totally stupid.

/rant

nijinsky · 21/05/2011 10:40

Because its such a well paid job that it warrants living like a nun, never socialising or having fun in public, and being put through public humiliation? I wonder whether they would have a right of action based on libel or human rights (the right to private life) or similar against the parents and those who put the photos through people's doors.

Just last weekend, I took a very similar photo of a male friend "pole dancing". Said male friend is a Deputy Chief Executive of an oil company, and all his friends have similar sorts of photos of people having fun on nights out. No-one would dream of making an issue out of it!

ChaoticAngelQueenofAnarchy · 21/05/2011 10:42

YANBU It's nobody's business what teachers get up to outside of school so long as it isn't illegal.

"?My children have left school now, but other young children on the estate have seen the pictures.?"

Wrt to this, well they would do if the pics have been shoved through people's letterboxes Hmm However, if, as I suspect was meant, they meant children had seen them on fb then what were the children doing on fb? The age limit is 13.

soverylucky · 21/05/2011 10:44

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goodegg · 21/05/2011 10:46

I can only echo what others have said - teachers are allowed a life, the mistake they made was not setting their privacy settings. And what a bitch the parent must be! Absolutely right and great of the school to support the staff whole-heartedly, I bet they'll get a talk about social networking in the next INSET!

A fellow teacher was falsely accused of hitting a student and dragging him along the floor. The parent believed the child's story and posted death threats on Fbook about the teacher! Luckily they had an open profile and the school printed it off and threatened the parent with legal action. Did that make national news, despite being incredibly distressing for the teacher involved? Did it jeff.

stoatie · 21/05/2011 10:46

It is pathetic (the parent's reaction) and very petty. Of course we are all entitled to a social life which is of no consequence unless the teachers are rolling into work still hungover from the nightbefore.

However it is not just confined to teachers, health care professionals are also warned about "professional behaviour on social networking sites" as we are also expected to live the perfect life and never ever do anything. I endeavour to keep my privacy settings private and am selective about who I accept as friends - however FB is for ever "tweaking " settings etc.

NMC guidance

The difficulty is with interpretation - would the NMC for example consider pole dancing pictures "explicit"

DontHassleTheBOF · 21/05/2011 10:50

You can't control other people's privacy settings though, so pictures always sneak out. Even if you're not on facebook yourself, it is still almost inevitable that if you so much as go out for a meal with friends, some gonad is going to publish a photograph of you on the bloody internet. Hate hate hate it.

unitarian · 21/05/2011 10:52

piglet - ' Was watching a documentary about a couple of months ago about Junior Doctors, you should see what they get up to, they were not plastered over the Daily Mail and other media. '

Not exactly them, but the DM did a spread about medical students in a state of abandon at a London university at New Year.

These teachers' mistake was to put the photos on FB, a point I have been trying to get across to my teacher nephew for a long time now.

oxocube · 21/05/2011 10:54

A pathetic non-story. Typical of the Mail. "Teachers drinking and smoking" - whatever next Angry

squeakytoy · 21/05/2011 10:55

It would only take ONE person (the one who uploaded the photos) to forget to make the album private. (note just the album, NOT their whole profile) Maybe they did it so that the people in the photos could see them if they were not facebook friends. I have some albums on my facebook that are set for anyone to see, and some which are private.. but my actual profile on there is very private.

There is nothing on those photos that identifies the school, or indeed has any connection to their employers, and the parent certainly sounds like a vindictive bitch with a grudge whose actions say a lot more about her than they do a group of young women out having a fun hen night.

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pigletmania · 21/05/2011 11:01

The parents young children should not be on Facebook looking at the pictures then, geeese some people are pathetic.

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ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 21/05/2011 11:05

Women, eh? We just can't be trusted.

reinitindear · 21/05/2011 11:07

Scum??? I can't believe that is what one parent called them. Ridiculous over reaction.
It's no like they are teaching the children how to pole dance.For God'ssake get a sense of perspective.

Birdsgottafly · 21/05/2011 11:08

The pictures don't seem that bad (don't know if they get any worse), but you are warned about what to post and what not to on FB, once you become a professional. It is suppossed to be to keep respect for those that are members of registered bodies, you know the rules of conduct when you apply to do the training. It is now across the board; teaching, nursing, education, social work and the justice system, so they are at fault for posting the pictures, you keep your social life and personal life/views private when you enter a profession.

TheCrackFox · 21/05/2011 11:09

There must be some sort of anti-harrassment law that the parent who decided post these photos all over her estate could be charged with.

She sounds deranged TBH and IMO needs some sort of mental health care.

fedupofnamechanging · 21/05/2011 11:10

I think the parent is unhinged to be trawling their fb in the first place. It would never occur to me to do that. As for printing off pages of photo's and posting them through peoples doors, that reflects far worse on the parent than the content of those photos.

The head should have told the mother to mind her own business and to keep out of everyone else's.

crashingwaves · 21/05/2011 11:10

I don't agree to be honest birds, I think that would be fair enough if a status update was something like "Mrs X fucking hates child Y" or pics of kids or the school but a HEN NIGHT?! lol!

Birdsgottafly · 21/05/2011 11:12

You have to question this need to post their lives on FB above their conduct, tbh. Once you openly post on FB it becomes public property, you have to watch out for vindictive ex's etc, its not worth the hassle. I know someone who has recently been sacked from a well qualified/paid job because of pictures posted at them at an event.

squeakytoy · 21/05/2011 11:13

They are not ALL at fault though. It is beyond anyone elses control what one person put on their profile. It could even be a member of the party who is not one of the teaching staff who took the shots.

If they had all been snorting coke, then it may be fair point, but as there is no mention of that, we can assume that was not part of the fun.

Birdsgottafly · 21/05/2011 11:13

Crashing- i not saying that i agree, i am just pointing out that you are told the rules and some LA's are stricter than others.

crashingwaves · 21/05/2011 11:15

But what sort of event - I mean obviously if they were off work for being "ill" and then posted pics of them at a concert then that's different, or even pics from the convention of bondage freaks in a dungeon ... but hen nights are just so a part of 'normal life' and the ladies were dressed and just clearly having a good night out - I guess I don't see the issue? Or are pics of a bump shot or pics in a bikini also indecent? Genuinely wondering!

Birdsgottafly · 21/05/2011 11:15

That is why certain professions often 'band' together because they know that everyone has to keep their mouths shut about what went on, otherwise they would all be in trouble.

crashingwaves · 21/05/2011 11:15

Oh yes I know birds sorry :) not squabbling with you, just pondering I guess! x

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