AIBU?
duckdodgers · 21/05/2011 09:05
I hate wedding lists with a passion because of this sort of thing - its like a dictated amount of money that people expect demand you spend on them. Weddings are about good family and friends celebrating your happy day not an excuse to let the greed monster inside out.
QuackQuackSqueak · 21/05/2011 09:13
That's a piss take!
I've only had to buy something off a list once and it was so hard as my friend has very boring taste! So it was manky beige colour bed sheet (expensive so could only get a bed sheet which is shit in itself) or manky beige coloured pillow case, or plain shapeless vase that was loads of money but looked exactly the same as one you'd get from a pound shop. Boring, boring, boring. Sorry off the point a bit.
QuintessentialOldMoo · 21/05/2011 09:28
I did not even know you could buy kitchen knives for £250 a piece, until I saw my young cousins wedding list. This was the cheapest item on his list.
I went and bought them an Eva Solo water caraffe with insulated matching glasses.
I then thought, it is amazing how you end up buying really nice and expensive stuff to people who are filthy rich, simply because you dont want to be seen to bring "cheap tat".
But this guy just bought himself (and his new wife) a house with a swimming pool in the best neighbourhood in the capital (norway), AND did a weekend trip to London to select his furniture in Harrods.
BarbarianMum · 21/05/2011 09:29
My cousin had no wedding list because she considered it tacky.
She got 27 (yes we counted) vases, numerous dustcatchers ornaments, some books and odd assorted household stuff but had to go out and buy a set of plates/bowls/cups, some towels, some cutlery after the wedding (she and husband were still living t home b4 wedding so had nada). I thought that was ridiculous.
I had a wedding list, given to those that asked. Most did and I got useful stuff that gets used every day. Maybe tacky, but maybe practical.
I think your sister is rather ambitious in her list but I think YABU to object to lists per sec
The cheapest item on our list (and there were plenty) were a £1.99 set of measuring spoons. I use them loads and think of the person who gave them every time I do.
glassofwhiteanybody · 21/05/2011 09:31
Obscene. I hate hearing about lists like that
If they've said that your presence is more important than presents (which obviously isn't true!), perhaps you could call their bluff and suggest you'd like to give a donation to charity in lieu of a wedding present ?
ditavonteesed · 21/05/2011 09:36
wouldnt actually be mean, they have paid for our hotel and bought the flights between them and pil's. just made me giggle because their real world is so very different to ours. I personally dont object to lists or the honey moon money thing, have had a couple of friends ask for money to honeymoons, when they are not that well off I think it is a great idea. we didnt even have guests at our wedding 
Adversecamber · 21/05/2011 09:37
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Have never seen a wedding list with a £250 minimum. How the other half spends, eh?
Becaroooo · 21/05/2011 10:07
We had a wedding list (due to much harrassment from family members!) but the most expensive thing on it was an iron...
One of the most useful things we got as a wedding gift was clothes airer! Not exciting, not expensive but very very useful.
Can I ask what people think of BTB and fiance asking for euros for their (already booked and paid for) honeymoon????
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