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SIL's wedding list

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ditavonteesed · 21/05/2011 09:01

am currently looking through it and pmsl. and that was before I reached the £1000 telly and £700 stereo system. ffs

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duckdodgers · 21/05/2011 09:05

I hate wedding lists with a passion because of this sort of thing - its like a dictated amount of money that people expect demand you spend on them. Weddings are about good family and friends celebrating your happy day not an excuse to let the greed monster inside out.


ditavonteesed · 21/05/2011 09:08

they are not the cheAPEST items either. am off to tkmaxx to buy them something nice for a reasonable amount of money, that or 1 spoon off their list

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duckdodgers · 21/05/2011 09:09

Grin I was going to suggest get a spoon or something. Usually all the cheap stuff goes first as well.


cannydoit · 21/05/2011 09:10

bloody hell the most expensive thing i had on my wedding list was about 100 pounds i think. did love running around the shop with the gun thing.


QuackQuackSqueak · 21/05/2011 09:13

That's a piss take!

I've only had to buy something off a list once and it was so hard as my friend has very boring taste! So it was manky beige colour bed sheet (expensive so could only get a bed sheet which is shit in itself) or manky beige coloured pillow case, or plain shapeless vase that was loads of money but looked exactly the same as one you'd get from a pound shop. Boring, boring, boring. Sorry off the point a bit.


SpringFollows · 21/05/2011 09:15

I've told this before on MN, but someone I know had their list at Harrods. And the cheapest thing on it was a bloody caviar spoon for 350 quid.

I still marvel at the bare assed nerve.


ditavonteesed · 21/05/2011 09:16

the gift list is printed after the statement that claims your presence is more important than your presents. (or dont buy us any cheap crap.)

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QuackQuackSqueak · 21/05/2011 09:22

350 for a spoon! Did anyone actually buy anything off the list?


TheFlyingOnion · 21/05/2011 09:26

chrissakes wedding lists have just gone berserk. What a horrid grasping, tacky way to begin married life.

I never buy off them, tbh, and anyone who wants money towards their bloody honeymoon will get a £10 book token from me...


QuintessentialOldMoo · 21/05/2011 09:28

I did not even know you could buy kitchen knives for £250 a piece, until I saw my young cousins wedding list. This was the cheapest item on his list.

I went and bought them an Eva Solo water caraffe with insulated matching glasses.

I then thought, it is amazing how you end up buying really nice and expensive stuff to people who are filthy rich, simply because you dont want to be seen to bring "cheap tat".

But this guy just bought himself (and his new wife) a house with a swimming pool in the best neighbourhood in the capital (norway), AND did a weekend trip to London to select his furniture in Harrods.


BarbarianMum · 21/05/2011 09:29

My cousin had no wedding list because she considered it tacky.

She got 27 (yes we counted) vases, numerous dustcatchers ornaments, some books and odd assorted household stuff but had to go out and buy a set of plates/bowls/cups, some towels, some cutlery after the wedding (she and husband were still living t home b4 wedding so had nada). I thought that was ridiculous.

I had a wedding list, given to those that asked. Most did and I got useful stuff that gets used every day. Maybe tacky, but maybe practical.

I think your sister is rather ambitious in her list but I think YABU to object to lists per sec

The cheapest item on our list (and there were plenty) were a £1.99 set of measuring spoons. I use them loads and think of the person who gave them every time I do.


glassofwhiteanybody · 21/05/2011 09:31

Obscene. I hate hearing about lists like that

If they've said that your presence is more important than presents (which obviously isn't true!), perhaps you could call their bluff and suggest you'd like to give a donation to charity in lieu of a wedding present ?


QuintessentialOldMoo · 21/05/2011 09:32

Barbarian, I think it sounds like you had a sensible wedding list. I have personally nothing against sensible wedding lists, but when faced with a wedding list full of designer household goods, silver ware, etc, it gets really tacky.


ditavonteesed · 21/05/2011 09:36

wouldnt actually be mean, they have paid for our hotel and bought the flights between them and pil's. just made me giggle because their real world is so very different to ours. I personally dont object to lists or the honey moon money thing, have had a couple of friends ask for money to honeymoons, when they are not that well off I think it is a great idea. we didnt even have guests at our wedding Grin

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BarbarianMum · 21/05/2011 09:38

Must be the circles I don't move in. Smile Have never seen a wedding list with a £250 minimum. How the other half spends, eh?


Becaroooo · 21/05/2011 09:39

My SIL and (now) exBIL had a Smeg fridge on their list.


No one bought it, oddly.



duckdodgers · 21/05/2011 09:40

Becaroo - oh Shock


ditavonteesed · 21/05/2011 09:40

ohhhhhhhhhhh I want a smeg fridge, maybe I should divorce and remarry dh.

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QuintessentialOldMoo · 21/05/2011 09:44

Dita, why dont you instead send a wedding list to your friends and family, with smeg fridge, etc on it, and say you are inviting them all to your Xth wedding anniversary......


ditavonteesed · 21/05/2011 09:47

like your thinking.

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SpringFollows · 21/05/2011 09:54

Yes, a group of people clubbed together to buy the spoon. I think about 8 people. I am always loathe to just blame the female party for things like that but in this case it was definitely the bride's choice. She was quite avaricious- to put it mildly.


Becaroooo · 21/05/2011 10:07

We had a wedding list (due to much harrassment from family members!) but the most expensive thing on it was an iron...

One of the most useful things we got as a wedding gift was clothes airer! Not exciting, not expensive but very very useful.

Can I ask what people think of BTB and fiance asking for euros for their (already booked and paid for) honeymoon????


ditavonteesed · 21/05/2011 10:09

bec, depends if they are loaded it would annoy me, if like most of us they are struggling a bit I think it is a great idea to be honest.

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dinosaurkisses · 21/05/2011 10:14

To be far, don't a lot of shops offer a discount after the wedding for any unbought items? Maybe they are just stuck the tv etc down so they could buy it themselves a bit cheaper.....

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