I am BU but this has pissed me off for ages

[thefruitwhisperer]

Please excuse this moment of bitchiness but Im in a really grumpy mood and I had to get this off my chest. (Baby teething, no sleep,

SIL 'makes' banoffee pie. I say 'makes' because she opens a tin of biscuits, a tin of premade caramel, peels a banana and tops with a carton of cream. VOILA. Ive just received word that she has spent hours doing this and so we are expected to drop everything, go round tonight and sample this canned delight.

Ive no problem with this banoffee method usually, in fact sometimes when i have nothing in the house, I may make it myself. But she proclaims that she makes the best pie shes ever tasted, and knocks all others with 'Yeah, not as good as mine though...'

I hate boasting. Esp when the boasting is about something a ten year old could make. Rant over. Flame me now.

I'd like someone to make something and invite me over. Or open a packet of biscuits, or put the kettle on.
But alas I am far too germy at the moment for any sort of company.:(

Send me round. I am not keen on sweet things, and have an almost phobic dislike of crumbled biscuit bases. A dose of me either picking out and eating the bananas just to be polite, or forcing it all down then being horribly sick would take the wind out of her sails a bit.

YANBU to be annoyed. It is one of those situations where a white lie is called for as it is not really worth making a fuss over, but it leaves one feeling increasingly dishonest to have to sustain the lie.

Aww bless her, sounds like alot of people have made a fuss of this, probably nice tasting dessert.
She doesnt sound smug to me, she sounds like someone who has had one of her puddings complimented alot and now mentions to people when she has made it because she knows everyone likes it.
And the one in the restaurant probably didnt taste as nice. Just because it was sold in a restaurant doesnt mean it is automatically better quality.

I'm still wiping tears from the sweet and sour with mash comment though!

OP is it possible that she is joking when she says she has taken hrs when she clearly hasn´t?

Oh-Movinggal-you can come here & keep my germy daughter company!

What a complete let down

I am half way through making banoffee pie .

How the tide has turned!!! This woman is unreasonable for thinking that she is MAKING a dessert when she is simply putting prepared food into the same bowl.

If she accepted this instead of hurling her smuggery at everyone on how astonishingly talented she is I am sure the OP would be far more gracious and grateful for the now infamous banoffee pie.

Please make something sensational OP and invite her round...

I dont deny its nice! I make it that way myself sometimes as Ive said. What is the annoying thing is the grand way we are invited round (2 weekly mind!) to sample it!

Even if she's had compliments (which she seeks out btw : Its lovely isnt it? Would you like to take some home?) doesnt mean she should put down other peoples. If she'd not done that, Id be very happy to go and stuff my face. But you dont just get banoffee, you get a side dish of self satisfaction!

LOL
I have a FB friend who boasted about her dd making cupcakes, from a packet mix with smarties on top.
Is she 10 by any chance?

This thread is gold

I'm no food snob (the only gravy in my house comes out of a Bisto tub) but the mental image of your SIL grandly inviting everyone round to pay homage to a dessert that, frankly, a five year old could put together is hilarious.

I really fancy some banoffee pie now.

Ive never had banoffee pie!

Will always think of banoffee pie as banoffee ting from now on.

Oh good, LadyC - I'm glad it's not just me.

Maybe a drizzle of rum on the banana would add to the Jamaican vibe?

Jamaican banoffee ting! I can't think of a more splendid pudding.

If I make anything sweet for the children, they say it tastes lovely. Even if I made a hash of it, which is most of the time. I wouldn't go around saying it is fab though, and would feel embarrassed to present it to discerning adults.
I would die of shame if anyone came round to see and taste.
She must be extremely proud

OP-next time, either don´t go or ask her why it takes hours to make?
(Unless she´s boiling the condensed milk?)

TBH, if she´s usually looking for compliments I´d just ignore & not be drawn in.

Two methods, can be used together or separately:

1. Every time you eat her banoffee pie, gush about how gorgeous it is, in a "bad for me/badly made/but gorgeous" sort of way.

1. Either get involved with (or learn enough to lie VERY convincingly) some gourmet activity. Watch Masterchef, read articles, etc, until you can come up with the following scenario:

You've been invited/won tickets/etc to a gourmet lunch/dinner/etc and it's for two/four (depending on whether you'd naturally bring your DHes or anybody else - the important thing is that the number of tickets is one fewer than she'd be in this equation). Gush to her about how much fun you and XX person(s) are going to have/have had at this function. Repeat a often as it takes until she raises a "why didn't you invite me?" sort of query, then give a totally innocent shrug and say "oh, I just didn't think you were into that subtle stuff, what with your palate and all" or something similar.

Let us know how you get on!

And, FTR, YANBU. Banoffee pie is nice, but nobody should brag about opening a tin.

why not just be honest and say 'it's nice, i know how you make it, i often make it myself like that if in a hurry but usually prefer the proper method'

or just grin and bear it...?