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I am BU but this has pissed me off for ages

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thefruitwhisperer · 18/05/2011 14:00

Please excuse this moment of bitchiness but Im in a really grumpy mood and I had to get this off my chest. (Baby teething, no sleep,

SIL 'makes' banoffee pie. I say 'makes' because she opens a tin of biscuits, a tin of premade caramel, peels a banana and tops with a carton of cream. VOILA. Ive just received word that she has spent hours doing this and so we are expected to drop everything, go round tonight and sample this canned delight.

Ive no problem with this banoffee method usually, in fact sometimes when i have nothing in the house, I may make it myself. But she proclaims that she makes the best pie shes ever tasted, and knocks all others with 'Yeah, not as good as mine though...'

I hate boasting. Esp when the boasting is about something a ten year old could make. Rant over. Flame me now.

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WhollyGhost · 18/05/2011 18:41

One of my inlaws used go on about her amazing custard. When my dd was six months old, she suggested that custard would be a great weaning food, and asked if I knew how to make it. I said I had tried once years ago, but it had curdled. She offered to show me how, using her recipe. And then brought me into the kitchen, pulled out a packet of Birds' custard, and talked me through preparing it in the most patronising tones possible.

Afterward, I half expected to see a thread on here complaining about the idiot step-DIL who did not even know how to make custard!

saidthespiderwithahorridsmile · 18/05/2011 18:42

Lonnie, I forwarded this thread to my dh as well Grin

best laugh I've had in months

sharbie · 18/05/2011 18:45

op are we related Smile or does every family have the banoffee bore in it??????

WhollyGhost · 18/05/2011 18:57

Same inlaw who showed me how to make custard lectured me for feeding DD from a jar, and showed me how she made all her purees from scratch - using tinned food, and then froze them.

I did not have the heart to say that such was my pfb madness, that DD was generally only fed the freshest organic food, mostly BLW. The jar was stashed in my changing bag for anytime I was caught out, and it was the first time DD had some processed food. Every time said inlaw saw me for the next few months, she asked had I tried making purees in the way she had shown me.

I am sure that she thought I was lazy and neglectful for not having found the time.

saidthespiderwithahorridsmile · 18/05/2011 18:59

Wholly I do remember a childminding thread on here where someone was complaining about her CM not providing fruit and vegetables

and another poster said "that's terrible I always provide fruit and veg how hard can it be to open a tin of peas"

I was Shock and then Grin

JeremyVile · 18/05/2011 19:04

Good of her to make a pie and invite you round though? She must like you, which is nice.

BendyBob · 18/05/2011 19:13

I am interested in this tinned caramel. Dh loves Banoffee Pie but on the two occasions I tried to make it the caramel I made turned into rock hard toffee Blush

Sil sounds a pain. Ask her to take you through the recipe veeery slowly, stage by stage (in front of her 'impressed' fan club) Then say 'Oh is that IT??'

LadyInPink · 18/05/2011 19:24

Grin at Banoffee Bore!!! Grin

Please, please tell me you have been round there, don't chicken out cos of us..............

ShowOfHands · 18/05/2011 19:35

MIL makes something called chocolate dollop. It's chocolate angel delight, dream topping and sprinkles. Your SIL would find it a wonderful challenge I'm sure.

Lonnie · 18/05/2011 19:53

MIL makes something called chocolate dollop. It's chocolate angel delight, dream topping and sprinkles. Your SIL would find it a wonderful challenge I'm sure.

Dont you think that might be a bit to fancy for her??

(still crying with laughter over this thread and hoping OP has been to sil so we can get Banooffeegate the sequel

hugglymugly · 18/05/2011 19:57

I'm not sure that this is the quite the same sort of "cheating", but may I tell you all about my mother who apparently always knew better than anyone else, including how to make custard. This was using a well-known brand of custard powder. But she couldn't be bothered to do the gentle heating and careful mixing and rolling boil. Instead, she doubled the quantity of powder and sugar, heated the milk until it boiled, then poured it onto the powder and mixed enough to get out the lumps. The resultant custard had to be poured and eaten quickly ? if left a little while it set so solid it could be sliced. It also looked orange.

Many years later I had my own home and learned to cook. It was only then that I realised that the proper taste of custard wasn't that of undercooked cornflour.

youmeatsix · 18/05/2011 20:01

nestle do sell the caramel already made in a tin or you can boil one for 3-4 hours, but its not a reliable method

caramel is easy to make though and takes less than 15 minutes

175 g butter
175 g caster sugar
4 tbsp golden syrup
1 x 397 g can condensed milk

place the butter, sugar, syrup and condensed milk into a saucepan and stir over a low heat until the butter has melted.

Bubble the mixture gently for five to eight minutes, stirring all the time until thick and fudge-like

WholeLottaRosie · 18/05/2011 20:08

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pantaloons · 18/05/2011 20:41

At school the first thing we made in home ec was a biscuit base topped with angel delight with sprinkles on. I really think this would trump her banoffee any day. Next time take one round as your contribution. Tres chic! Grin

NorksAreMessy · 18/05/2011 21:13

Stillfrazzled PLEASE tell us more recipe's from Granny's cookbook. I absolutely love them and I am still chuckling Grin

carabos · 18/05/2011 21:43

OP that's what's known in our house as a "technical pudding". Technical because its created on an assembly line.... Nothing wrong with that but I wouldn't brag about it! Make Eton Mess via the same process as Hullaballoo and strawberry flan likewise - buy flan case, strawberries, ready made jelly and cream, assemble, serve, applause.

stillfrazzled · 18/05/2011 22:15

I can't think of any more mad combinations - she didn't try out exotic food too often (prob just as well for my stomach at the time, although more anecdotes for now would have been good Grin).

Her pastry and cakes and pies and things were genuinely brilliant, really wish I'd got her to teach them to me while she could still make them Sad

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thefruitwhisperer · 18/05/2011 22:28

Ok, it went like this...

We arrived, she said 'You came because I did banoffee didnt you? Dont lie!'

Something about DP's stern face made me submit. Yes. Yes I did. Thats why I came. He gave me a bit of a talking to on the way home as well. He knows its simple, but its nice so cant I just stop chuckling to myself.

Ive been told! Blush

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Notanexcitingname · 18/05/2011 22:36

my only comment

Dropdeadfred · 18/05/2011 22:58

bt did you ask her how she made it? Grin

MadamDeathstare · 18/05/2011 23:21

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diddl · 19/05/2011 06:46

I can´t believe you went tbh.

Is it usual to do this?

BitHmm at your husband "gave you a talking to"

If he likes the pie-let him go-if you don´t, don´t bother!

If you were due to go round & she made it, fair enough, but to go just because she´d made itConfused

iscream · 19/05/2011 07:26

'You came because I did banoffee didnt you? Dont lie!'

She sounds hilarious!

"Yes. Yes I did. Thats why I came."

That cracked me up. Just told dh as he heard me laughing.

Librashavinganotherbiscuit · 19/05/2011 07:37

OP I started off thinking YABU but actually I have revised my opinion to think you are a smug unpleasant person, it's banoffee pie not the cure for cancer if she can make a nice edible version which she likes (and apparently other people do as well) quickly then who the fuck cares how it's actually made.

diddl · 19/05/2011 08:14

Well, this is the thing-if people like the thing, and keep telling her, & make rush round when she has made it-what´s she supposed to think?