Over accusations of "Stealth Boasting".....

[MsToni]

....being thrown at random on MN?

I see this in a lot of threads.

An OP comes on to ask for opinions or insights, and provides "relevant" information pertaining to his/her situation, perhaps adds one or two details which may be above the norm (whatever that it) and someone sneaks in.......oh so self righteously...."I wonder if this is a stealth boast". [Eye Roll]

If anyone needs opinions or insights, of course they will try to include as much helpful details as possible. If they don't, they are accused of lying, if they do, they are accused of boasting. If you do, you're damned. If you don't, you're damned.

There are over a million of us, MNers. Is it beyond the realm of possibility to imagine that some will be significantly well off than others, and that it (their lifestyles) will be reflected in their threads?

So, why accuse them of stealth boasting?

It makes me very very unreasonable!!!!

i have absolutely no idea what you are talking about!

I agree!
God forbid you own your own house/car/ shop at Waitrose/buy things from a shop etc etc.....does become a tad tedious all this inverted snobbery...
especially as you mentioned they are asking for a bit of support/help

So, your point is people who are fortunate enough to be comfortable do not have issues in their lives that may need some external insights? When has MN become the sole outlet of "people who are not so comfortable"?

Whose point?

Some people are definitely boasting though

Hahahahahaha to OP

Got your fingers burnt did you?

teeheeheeheee @ bluddymofo

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Meh. It happens. Get over it.

was that a failed name change mstoni?

I think "a lot" is over egging the pudding somewhat.

I am mixed.
I think that people do post with great insensitivity at times. I have and felt like a total cock afterwards.

If it is relevant to the thread then " my engagement ring cost £30000" is fine. If it is not relevant then maybe not.

It's like everything else. Depends how you approach it really. There is stealth boasting all over including
'my son is on level 3 ort. Is that about right for his age
'well mine is reading Tolstoy and he is actually still a foetus but I am sure your boy is just fine'

Oh but you went to school Madame. We learnt to read by watching the buses go past.

An instance....An OP in R had a situation with her daughter and it involved Iphones, MacBook etc and while she got good insights, someone says its a stealth boast. I find that really irritating and it is unreasonable yes (on my part), but more unreasonable to think OP was stealth boasting just because her kids have all these gadgets. She was only asking for insights into how DD has behaved NOT posting just to let the whole world know that her kids have all these gadgets.

Its not the first time, I doubt it will be the last - and it irritates the hell out of me!

I got accused of stealth boasting on here after I said that I am so brilliant that I crap diamonds.

lots of boasting on style and beauty

It's not generally the thing being mentioned that people get annoyed by (though, yes there are some who are overly chippy about others' lifestyles) it's just grating when people unnecessarily have to wedge in the fact that they shop in Waitrose (and surely we're over this by now?) or that their walls are Farrow and Ball etc.

It is quite glaring when these details are mentioned unnecessarily and has the effect of making the person seem like they're trying too hard.

SardineQueen :) Nope, not me!!!!

It seems that you cannot do right for doing something wrong on here. If you state your situation you are either boasting or indulging in competative misery.

It is not compulsory to read all of the posts and every thread, on here. I find that people also need to agree to disagree abit more often.

There are not over a million mumsnetters.

bibbity......

Oh yes, there are! I got a mail from MN News just yesterday saying "......I'm one in a million bla bla bla......."

I have quite large feet. Fact.