Over accusations of "Stealth Boasting".....

[MsToni]

....being thrown at random on MN?

I see this in a lot of threads.

An OP comes on to ask for opinions or insights, and provides "relevant" information pertaining to his/her situation, perhaps adds one or two details which may be above the norm (whatever that it) and someone sneaks in.......oh so self righteously...."I wonder if this is a stealth boast". [Eye Roll]

If anyone needs opinions or insights, of course they will try to include as much helpful details as possible. If they don't, they are accused of lying, if they do, they are accused of boasting. If you do, you're damned. If you don't, you're damned.

There are over a million of us, MNers. Is it beyond the realm of possibility to imagine that some will be significantly well off than others, and that it (their lifestyles) will be reflected in their threads?

So, why accuse them of stealth boasting?

It makes me very very unreasonable!!!!

Oh stop boasting OP.

Why can't you just ignore, for example, the lone poster who suggested Q was boasting about all her dd's electrical gadgetry, and instead see the thread for what it was - lots of help and advice and straight talking for the op.

I think you just have to accept that amongst the 600,000 or so registered members of Mumsnet (of who perhaps 50,000 post regularly on the boards) there will be some silly people who wholly miss the point of the thread, or who are jealous, or who are over-sensitive, or who are basically just a wee bit dim. At other times people are DEFINITELY boasting, by stealth or otherwise, and they probably won't get away with it here.

Farrow and Ball? Paint? I must look that up!!!! :) :)

Nothing to boast about Hully. You need them to balance out yer arse.

That is very kind.

I have missed all the boasting

Scat?

No, don't tell me.

Not you Jeremy, that is very rude and untrue. Many people admire and look up to my arse. Fact.

I am a wee bit dim

I look up to your arse hully.
It is looking around it I struggle with...

MsToni you got that mail from NETMUMS .

I know because I received one also

I agree with your post though :)

It's amplitude is a source of joy and eclipses. I often rent it out to astronomical societies in areas of low eclipse incidence.

doley! Really??!! Now, I'm mortified!!! :)

You are right...bittibitti something.....:) Apologies

MadamDeathstare You owe me a new key bored as I just sprayed my hand picked limited edition Columbian blend espresso which was just made freshly by my au-pair/gourmet chef/personal trainer all over it!

(Hahahaha such hovis music, I can't get it out of my head now!)

If you want to see competitive poverty-ing, start a thread about the cost of a wedding. It is AWESOME fun, especially when people pile in and say things like "oh, your wedding cost more than 50p you obviously don't love your DH and are a materialistic and shallow. Mine cost 10p and I stole my dress from a tramp. My wedding was about true love, unlike yours".

I love those threads. LOVE them

Aksherly, it's been a while since we've had one ...

can I see your weddings thread and raise you a crap birthday presents thread.

"my dh gave me a turd for my birthday"
" well at least he remembered. I don't get the whole birthday thing. Dh just says - another year older and uglier - and that is enough for. Some people are just up themselves"

It all just seems so petty! Yuck.

Indeed OP, but too far advanced a concept for some posters I feel.

Its a bit like a version of dumming down, isn't it? Everything has to be brought down to the lowest common denominator.

although I have to admit that when an acquaintence I hadn't seen for a few years told me, not that he lived in X street or X town but that he had a "detached 4 bedroom house in X" I could have done with a bit of dumming down.

It is rather superb that you talk with regret and a hint of superiority about "dumming" down.

I was pleasantly surprised by the lack of competitive poverty-ing on a thread about how much people spend on children's birthdays.

Something's Not Quite Right.

AIBU To Be Angry That I Got IDd Even Though I'm 55 - those annoy me.

*dumbing down

I hear you Pag. There's one going at the moment in Chat, isn't there?

To be fair, some posters in AIBU deserve a slap upside the head for their smug smugginess (e.g. messy play thread).

Maybe I'm spending too much in another forum where it's all pink, there's tickers and people have names like xxhunnybunnyxx. I'm being lulled into a false sense of luvviness

AIBU that we are too poor to afford to get married as we have spent every last farthing on bettering our children's lives but the local orphans were so touched by my beauty and kind heart that they stayed up all night handstitching a wedding for us and all our friends who wept with pleasure, so pleased they were at our deserved fortune?