To wonder why people let themselves get fat?

[Judgeywedgiepants]

I am frequently amazed at the number of women at 15/17/20 stone who suddenly realise how fat they are and want to do something about it.
Why do people let themselves get so fat? It's unhealthy, unsightly and very life limiting.
Why not just keep an eye on your weight and keep it nice and steady?

I have a feeling that the OP is very ugly, inside and out, and knows there is little she can do about it. What better way than to lash out at others?

I'm going to try to ignore the fact that I think you are trying to antagonise and give you an honest answer; the thing is this, people who were once 9 stone (which I think is a reasonable weight) do not suddenly wake up to find themselves at 16 stone. It is a gradual process that creeps up on them.
They may not even realise they are overeating but just a few hundred calories a day can lead to a stone weight gain in a year or so.

I don't think you realise this. You do lack empathy and imagination.
There may be apathy; when a person is fat, a weird thing tends to happen i.e. they sort of believe they have always been fat. It can be a shock to look at a picture of yourself 10 years ago and think, 'I was actually quite slim!'.
Sometimes, this acts as a pleasant surprise and makes them think, 'I can be slim, again'.

And of course we are biologically disposed to guzzling and storing fat whenever it's available and don't work in fields all day any more.

If I tried to answer your question seriously, I would say it is because as a society we have a fucked up relationship to food and this is inculcated into girls particularly from a young age.

I do not judge you for thinking being fat is a negative thing. It is. I do judge you for not having imagination and empathy to see how people get fat in first place!

What Chaos says. That is how I became not fat, per se, but 2 stone over fighting weight.

Plus I have an un healthy fear of food caused I think from a weightobsessed mother who ridiculed me if I ever put on a pound. (Binge starve binge starve)

because life is too short to eat salad...

Posting before reading thread.
OP you sound like a bit of a nob.

I used to weigh 8 and a half stone, was a lovely slim size 8. Then I started on some medication that has seen me shoot up to over 11 and a half stone and a size 14/16. My diet and exercise levels remain exactly the same as they were when I was skinny (healthy diet and exercise levels). I cannot shift my weight gain because I am still on medication and cannot come off it yet, and while I'm on it, I will continue to get fatter, it's a side effect! I would LOVE to be my previous size.

I know I'm not 15/17/20 stone like you said in your OP but even those people may be having issues with medication causing them to gain weight. It isn't necessarily a case of "letting themselves get so fat".

Stop being so fucking ignorant.

OP, some people realise that beauty is only skin-deep.

To para-phrase Winston Churchill:

I may be fat, but I could lose weight. You'll always be a twat.

I'm fat purely so that people like you can feel better about themselves from their judgey position on high.

Gives me a nice warm glow.

because we are less perfect than you, OP.

Oh, and I agree with Wamster. i read something years ago called 'the single cookie theory'. The theory was that if you ate one extra chocolate chip cookie a day, assuming everything else is the same, then you put on something like 18 pounds a year.

That shocked me. Although i found trying to eat 150 cals LESS a day did not then rsult in an 18 pound weightloss.

Because food is an ?acceptable? comfort. Some people drink, some take drugs, these are not things that most people can do on a daily basis, so you have some chocolate or a biscuit or a cake or add some extra chips on your plate and no one bats an eyelid.

If I?m having a bad day all I want to do is eat comfort food and after putting on weight years ago, I know I have to battle that urge, but I am in a good place in my life so find it ?easy? to resist. Food is cheap, especially the crap stuff, and does pick up your mood, however as a consequence makes you put on weight, that makes you feel down, so you eat more to cheer yourself up. You get caught in a vicious circle.

No one (well most people!) wants to be fat or unhealthy, there are usually underlying factors to weight gain.

And Fuckmuncher is my word of the day now

OP, not very carefully worded OP.

But surely, I cannot be the only person who sees where you are coming from?

I see some huge people, and I wonder how they got to be that way. I am curious, in a way I wonder if it could happen to me. I don't know the answer.

I do know however that these days a lot of people do not seem to take (or accept) responsibility for their own lives, be it debt, weight, health. Too many people on TV and in magazines saying things like: "When I was 11 someone called me fat. I have had eating issues ever since and am now 16 stone", or similar. Or people who blame their genetics, their parents, their unhappy lives. As you can see from the responses on this thread, it is a highly emotive issue, and you'll get lots of hate mail.

When really, it's a valid question. You don't suddenly wake up size 24 one morning, you must have gradually had to buy bigger size clothes right?

A friend of mine who has studied Obesitas says that it is inevitable that we all get bigger, with the easy availability of (junk)food everywhere. Most humans when having to choose between short term reward (tasty treat) or long term reward (being slim and healthy) choose the short term reward because humans are wired that way. Having abundant cheap food available is a fairly recent phenomenon for mankind (and not everywhere in the world!).

The really interesting question is, IMHO, "Why are there still so many people who are NOT too big?!"

A friend of mine who is "effortlessly slim" says her being a size 10 is a decision she makes every day, involving saying "NO thanks" to lots of biscuits, cake, and fast food.

I think the only thing that will stop widespread obesitas is for food to become scarce.

Yes, people just don't realise the weight creeping on by just an extra biscuit a day. They go into denial, it's not as if they are pigging out every day, is it? The scales can't be creeping up.

I am fat because I like to make other people feel good about themselves

Yeah, not really. But at least I can change being overweight more easily than you can change your attitude OP.

Now, do be a love and look the other way later on when I have one of the gorgeous coffee kisses I made yesterday.

I used to agree with you. I had anorexia for years and wouldn't let myself get above 6.5 stone. My discipline was solid as a rock. I didn't understand why people would eat if they were overweight already.

Then my control broke and I became bulimic with occasional periods of plain binge eating without the throwing up. I gained 3 stone in less than a year. I wanted to die and hated how I looked (still a healthy weight but very high for me and poorly distributed). But my ability to do anything about it literally seemed to have gone.

I can now well understand how people can get to any weight and feel exactly the same. Plus, get to a certain point, and there's a sort of 'fuck it, I'm fat anyway, I might as well stay fat and enjoy what I'm eating' type attitude.

Also, the more you have to lose, the harder it is to find the motivation to get going, surely.

Nowadays I manage 4-5 weeks of very very controlled eating and lose a stone then lose it and gain the stone back. Repeat and repeat and repeat.

I no longer judge anyoen's control or lack of it around food.

I do know however that these days a lot of people do not seem to take (or accept) responsibility for their own lives, be it debt, weight, health. Too many people on TV and in magazines saying things like: "When I was 11 someone called me fat. I have had eating issues ever since and am now 16 stone", or similar. Or people who blame their genetics, their parents, their unhappy lives. As you can see from the responses on this thread, it is a highly emotive issue, and you'll get lots of hate mail.

Chandon, you speak a lot of sense.

Because I got blinded to my fatness. It's still a shock to look in the mirror and see the truth.

Because, like a pp I am a recovering bulimic who had cbd and now can't be fucking sick any more even though I still try sometimes.

Because sometimes a packet of biscuits has been my only friend.

Because I have chronically low self worth.

Ok. Have I debased myself enough for you?

if it was easy, Weightwatchers et al wouldnt be the billion dollar business it is

im fat, mine went on when i was very unhappy with things at home

i ate too much, i exercised too little :(

mines glandular

nout to do with the babies ive had or the food I eat

Why do people have to 'blame' anything though Chandon? Why should anyone have to justify it? Live and let live! Why do we never see so many threads saying 'omfg I cant believe how skinny some women are it makes me sick' ?

What im trying to say is why do some peoplem expect others to justify/give reasons for being the way they are?