to want to take nanny to court for £40.25

[VentiPeppermintMochaWithWhip]

Long story short:
Nanny of 9 months announces she is 6 weeks up the duff to the guy she broke up with late last year... (it's one of those "If I get pregnant, he'll stay with me" babies that I think she is now regretting)

Got a text yesterday in the middle of a uni lecture from said nanny:
Cnt get kids 2day I quit

I immediately leave uni to collect kids from school, ask her what is going on, she says it's confidential.

Then last night, I tot everything up for her last wages and discover that she's taken too much holiday by three weeks this year. After deducting this month's wages, etc, it turns out she owes us £40.25

I inform her of this yesterday. She then has the gonads to text me this morning asking if she can work her four weeks notice?!?!

I very politely but sternly tell her no, that she quit, that she is no longer welcome here, and requested that she return her key today whilst I'm at uni.

I spoke to a friend who is also a solicitor last night, who has agreed to send a letter requesting the money.

I KNOW it's only £40 and it's not the money I'm pissed off about... it's the fact that she flipping TEXT an hour before the kids were due to be collected, that she gave no notice, never came to speak to me about any of her issues, nothing!!

AIBU?

[Needanewname]

I also cannot understand why the nanny is being defended.

Who cares what words the OP used. I have worked for a controlling and bullying boss (not saying thats what I think the OP is by the way!) the dad was awful, the mum threatened suicide, I was signed off work with stress. I remember one (actually several) times having to turn the TV or music up really loud to drown out the parents screaming at each other - it was horrendous. I also had some personal problems in that job, however not once did that affect the care of the children. The only mistake I made in the job was not calling SS.

Whatever was going on in the nanny's life, she should have put the children first.

[SnuffleTurtle153]

OP, thought I recognised this story from somewhere else - you posted the below in the childcare section a little while ago:

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VentiPeppermintMochaWithWhip Sun 01-May-11 18:06:41
Right! Nanny of 6 months announced that she is approx 7 weeks pregnant... and I'm just not sure... I was hoping someone more experienced would be able to answer some questions please...

1. I know if told my employer I was pregnant, they'd have to do a risk assessment. Do I need to do the same? And if so, how? Is there a template?
   
   
2. DH and I have already decided we don't want her to come back with her baby. Are we able to tell her this now or must we wait for her to give us her MatB1? Do we need to put this in writing with our reasons?
   
   
3. Am I allowed to request she schedules antenatal appointments during school hours as she only works before and after school?
   
   I'm sure there is loads more I need to know, but at the mo, I've drawn a blank. Feel free to share anything you think is useful to know.
   
   Cheers in advance! =-D
   
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   As you were planning to get rid of her anyway - and were intending to do so when she was six months pregnant!! - what's your problem with the fact that she quit? Sounds like you're just narked you didn't get the opportunity to dump her first. Threatening her with court over a measly forty quid when you were intending to fire her FOR BEING PREGNANT is absolutely pathetic. Grow up.

[KiwiKat]

one hour notice to arrange an alternative pick up is NOT plenty of time - I would be furious.

[beesimo]

Needanewname

That is a very peculiar post from you, the kids always came first but your only regret is not calling social services????


Snuffleturtle153

Thanks for that post the plot thickens. As my DM used to say remember B people only tell you what they want you to know

[MarinaIvy]

Am I the only one who thinks UnlikelyAmazon is actually the [now] ex-nanny?

[trixymalixy]

Where does that post say she wants to sack the nanny?

I think you haven't read it correctly.

She says she doesn't want the nanny to bring the baby to work with her, which is fair enough, not that she wants to get rid of the nanny.

All that post says to me is that she is anxious to treat the pregnant nanny correctly.

[springbokscantjump]

Snuffle I actually think that post paints the OP in a better light. If she was the callous hard-nosed bitch people are making her out to be, I don't think she'd give a flying figg about risk assessments. I also read that as she just doesn't want her to bring her baby to work.

I can also understand coming on here and posting in anger and putting stuff in a way that you normally wouldn't. If I was at work, the text probably wouldn't get through, my dh can't always answer his phone, my friends all work and my mom lives an hour away. If my CM quit with an hours notice I'd be screwed.

[beesimo]

Oh for goodness sake get a grip I am sure the school would of looked after the DCs until someone arrived for them. Its years since they stopped selling left over bairns to pie factories.

[UnlikelyAmazonian]

marinaivy

[CotesduRhone]

This is a wind-up, right? Surely NOBODY could be as unpleasant and insensitive as this OP. Wow, aren't you great, wanting to take a vulnerable woman to court for the price of a new handbag.

Slow handclap from here.

[TheFlyingOnion]

Actually, yes they can cotesdurhone, unlikelyamazonian has been doing a spectacular job.

[trixymalixy]

Of course the school would have looked after the kids beesimo, they shouldn't have to though, the nanny should have been a bit more responsible.

[elphabadefiesgravity]

t my children's school they would have put them into after school care and if uncollected after 20 minutes I would have got a bill for £70. If uncollected after 5.15pm then social services would be called as per the child protection proceedings.

for schools that don't have an onsite after school care facility with places available then SS would be called after much less time.

[mathanxiety]

Am I the only one here who thinks there is an element of sexual jealousy among nanny employers towards their nannies? Is there something in the stereotypical nanny image (maybe from The Sound of Music) that expresses a fantasy about nannies being desexed/unsexed/asexual (whatever) -- virginal anyway and somehow devoted to some higher cause? Because it seems to me from a good few nanny threads that the idea of a nanny having a sex life is too much for some employers.

[AlpinePony]

Where can I get those pies?

[TheCowardlyLion]

OK, I began reading this thread feeling some sympathy for the OP - the nanny behaved completely unprofessionally, no question, and I can't begin to imagine the result if I had sent that text to the school I teach in and then texted them the following morning asking to work my notice - but didn't like the way she referred to the pregnancy.

Then there were some such utterly barking posts from people in defence of the nanny (if the OP made you physically sick, all I can say is lucky you for leading such a sheltered life thus far - unless of course, you are regularly throwing up every evening as you watch the news) that I felt far more sympathy for the OP and much much less for the nanny.

Honestly, as someone put it eloquently earlier, there are some absolute loopers on this thread (not mentioning specific names due to MN rules about personal attacks...)

[UnlikelyAmazonian]

The original post is foul:
"Nanny of 9 months announces she is 6 weeks up the duff to the guy she broke up with late last year... (it's one of those "If I get pregnant, he'll stay with me" babies that I think she is now regretting)"

There is nowt professional about this attitude. It's contemptuous. That is my only and single point. But then, obviously, I am the nanny in question

[blueshoes]

Of course nannies only speak of their employers in purely professional and respectful terms. I will only ever speak of my boss in a dutiful and mannerly way because I would never hold any personal opinions of anyone and if I did, they would all be pleasant and totally politically correct.

[elphabadefiesgravity]

But thats just how some people talk. I have a friend who would probably never say someone is pregnant, up the duff is just the way she speaks. Those of you who have only ever known middle class england probably don;t understand.

[UnlikelyAmazonian]

[guffaw]

[UnlikelyAmazonian]

Yep. I only know middle class England. [Feels suitably stung and put in her place]

[guffaw]

[Knackeredmother]

I'm not getting what the op has done wrong?
Her nanny behaved completely unprofessionally. Complete grounds for instant dissmalfor gross misconduct except the nanny had ALREADY quit!

[UnlikelyAmazonian]

.....especially as she was an up the duff flaky showerer.

I quite agree. OP is a model employer and her dcs will never see this thread.

[elphabadefiesgravity]

And as for the comment about using the term nanny without using a personal pronoun. I am friends with two nannies who look after children at my dc's school. They ONLY ever talk about "Mum" they never use her name or even say x's mum or anything else.

Its just the way people talk.

[UnlikelyAmazonian]

Right. I stand corrected again. Thanks. Mrs elephant anonymous.