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AIBU?

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to not want DH to dress DS like this for a wedding...

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TwigletMonster · 11/05/2011 19:57

DS will be 6 months on the occasion of BIL's wedding. DH wants him to wear this or similar.

He is half-joking, half-serious - I am taking the bait and duly appalled by the notion! DD will be a flowergirl, and I think it's a very silly idea to put DS in a fancy dress outfit.

AIBU? Will DS look "cool" or a bit silly?

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sparkle12mar08 · 12/05/2011 07:36

No, people won't judge the six month old. But they will judge the parents for lack of taste and lack of respect for the occasion, depending on how they dress said child. It's still a wedding and all guests should be dressed appropriately but with regard to their own age and circumstances There have been some lovely outfits suggested so far. That categorically does not include the OP's husband's suggestion!

CurrySpice · 12/05/2011 07:38

akissisnotacobtract no, I wouldn't judge the baby. Just the parents

KaraStarbuckThrace · 12/05/2011 07:45

It's sort of funny... and if you did wear it,take pictures, keep them safe and then you can use them when your ds is a stroppy teen for bribery purposes - threaten to show them to his mates/gf if he doesn't toe the line

oh you could try something like this

AKissIsNotAContract · 12/05/2011 07:45

I'm just very surprised that anyone would care how a 6 month old is dressed for a wedding. If people really are that judgemental then they'll be judging you based on whatever you put him in, and probably what name you picked, how you are feeding him and anything else that might not be done the way they would do it.

ellifino · 12/05/2011 07:53

It's a bit silly because people don't wear a tux to a wedding. If it was a babygrow morning suit (or is it mourning suit? I am never sure) then okay.

A onesie with soft knit dungas over would be much better.

DilysPrice · 12/05/2011 08:17

Whatever you do, don't get anything very expensive, because if you do he will inevitably cover it in bodily fluids the instant the vicar says "Dearly Beloved".

Get at least 3 nice smart baby blue outfits from H&M or an NCT nearly new sale (always v good for this sort of posh outfit) for the same price, pack the spares and then you can relax without worrying as he pours grandpa's glass of red wine all over 60 quids worth of Monsoon cream linen.

FreudianSlipper · 12/05/2011 08:24

sorry i think its a little tacky

at 6 months i would put him in soft trousers and a cute top, nothing too formal looks uncomfortable on a baby they do not need to look smart

DillyTantay · 12/05/2011 08:30

i put mine in a little pair of trews and soft shirt for baptism

like this?
www.next.co.uk/shopping/boys/newbornboys/15/4

bronze · 12/05/2011 08:32

I would go for the brights colours if you want to. I was trying to work out whether it was ok to put my son in bright purple for his christening when a friend said "reminds me of the wedding in Harry Potter when Luna says it's lucky to wear sun colours to a wedding." so since then I have decided to wear bright colours to all events

ChaoticAngelQueenofAnarchy · 12/05/2011 08:57

I like iscream's suggestions :)

inthefashion · 12/05/2011 09:20

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ettiketti · 12/05/2011 09:24

I hate it, sorry.

fatlazymummy · 12/05/2011 10:04

I would just dress a 6 month baby in a normal nice baby outfit for a wedding. I wouldn't buy anything special but my babies didn't wear babygros during the day so they did have already have clothes to wear.
I also can't believe people who say the family would be judged over what the baby is wearing. I'm glad I don't know people like that.

CocktailQueen · 12/05/2011 10:20

It's horrible. Sorry. Why not put him in a nice comfy bodysuit with linen dungies over the top?

Twowillbefine · 12/05/2011 12:09

Tbh I think it's hilarious how much people care about this and how worked up they get. We bought exact "suit" for DS2 to wear on New Years Eve this year. He was 4 months and looked very cute.

I cannot see the point of paying for an "outfit" from Monsoon or John Lewis or anywhere frankly for a baby who will wear it once. And your linen trousers, shirt and waistcost combo thing looks just ridiculous on a tiny baby. And surely the OPs DH will know whether or not his brother will enjoy it?

And to all those who say "well of course a tuxedo wouldn't be worn at a wedding anyway.." - get over yourselves, do you have any idea how preposterous you sound?

oranges · 12/05/2011 12:13

does it matter? I spent ages choosing just the right babygro with a rocking horse on it for ds at 6 months for a wedding. it lasted 10 mins, till he pooed and got changed into a white vest.

CurrySpice · 12/05/2011 12:13

twowillbefine I think the people saying about a tux at a wedding were joking

and fatlazymummy cm'on! Most of the fun of family weddings is secretly sniggering and bitching about admiring the fashions on display :o

fatlazymummy · 12/05/2011 12:20

curryspice it may be for you. It's not really something that would occur to me. As long as people are comfortable then I couldn't care less, and that included my own wedding.

GandTiceandaslice · 12/05/2011 12:21

It's horrible.
My ds was 7 months ay my SiLs wedding.
I bought him a nice dungarees outfit.

CurrySpice · 12/05/2011 12:22

Quite clearly I am a bitch fatlazymummy

Leapoffaith · 12/05/2011 12:34

I like it! We bought one for DS when he was 2m because we were all going to a black tie party. H&M sell them.

Didn't even cross my mind whether it was tasteful or not, it actually seemed appropriate, and I thought he looked fab!

Anyway you need some embarrassing baby photos for when he's a teenager

Quenelle · 12/05/2011 12:49

I hate it.

I like the rainbow striped one, I bought the same for my friend's DS when he was born.

The little sailor suit ones are nice but I love the Bamboo Knit all-in-one that HerRoyalNotness chose. He would be able to wear that again too.

QuackQuackBoing · 12/05/2011 13:31

I think it's really cute!

Lucifera · 12/05/2011 13:51

Vile. Rather like putting a baby girl in a "low-neck dress and jewellery" babygro.

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TwigletMonster · 12/05/2011 14:26

Thanks everyone, I have enough here to beat DH into submission .

I really like the Lille Barn Bamboo Knits, the look comfy and quite smart. Sold out in anything bigger than 0-3 unfortunately.

Also really like the purple romper that nooka posted, and that would do for everyday wear too.

inthefashion I didn't object to the suit itself, more it's appropriateness for a wedding

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