To put a note through my neighbour's door? WWYD?

[MamaLazarou]

Woman across the road has opened her bedroom curtains whilst topless twice while my husband has been alone in the front room. She was looking right at him both times. I suspect she fancies him and is doing this deliberately (she always gives him the hairy eyeball when they pass in the street, but completely blanks me and my son). I think we should put a note through the cheeky bloody cow's door reminding her that we can see into her bedroom, but my husband has asked me not to.

What would you do?

I'm not bothered about walking about wi' nowt on leroy, but I wouldn't in front of a window with no curtains.

Why don't you bother to close yours?

Maybe other people don't want an eyeful.

Draw two giant spooky eyeballs with long spidery eyelashes on two pieces of card and next time she does it hold them up to the window.

No rhyme nor reason to it but hopefully unsettling enough to give her a moment's pause.

Agent - What I would do if a man had a his todge out in the way the OP described the boobies is LOOK AWAY and close the curtains. And assume it's inadvertent. But that's just me. I tend to assume people are silly/stupid in situations like that rather than sinister.

If it happened more than a couple of times or if it seemed like he'd been standing there for some time as if waiting for someone to appear (rather than jsut changing his clothes and moving on) I guess I would consider whether there's anything else unusual about him. I don't really know, frankly, at what point I'd become really alarmed. I would buy net curtains though (they have some trendy ones these days I hear.)

Can someone answer my question please - places to go, people to flash and all that.

"What would your note say OP?"

Something along the lines of - Dear X, just to remind you that your bedroom window is in full view of other houses in the street, regards, a neighbour.

"It seems to come down to whether the person seeing it is offended."

My husband was quite freaked out by it... but then he is a bit weird, tbh.

It's just a pair of tits. Stop looking in your neighbour's windows if you don't like what you see.

"You'd seem a bit of a weirdo if you start putting notes through her door, hopefully that's why your DH doesn't want you to do it."

Agreed. Why on earth would you do such a thing? For a start it's childish - either speak to the bloody woman directly or say nothing, don't stoop to anonymous (or even signed) note-posting. For another thing if I were her and I was doing it for your DH's benefit I'd be pissing myself laughing that his wife is so worked up about it to need to write little notes to me... and noting that the DH wasn't the one doing so with some satisfaction.

If your husband is going to screw her all the notes in the world won't stop either of them. I assume that he's not, in which case there's nothing to worry about... not as if either of you have never seen a pair of tits before. Sorry, but putting notes through the door makes you sound jealously possessive, insecure and as if you might have reason to be so. Not the result you want, I presume?

Just get your DH to point and do big fake belly laughing followed by 'yuck' face.

Take a photo and get it on Facebook!

I agree - take a photo next time she does it and put in on here so we can determine if there is anything to be offended at.

If she is deliberately coming onto your husband then film it and put it on YouTUbe and send her a note with the link on so she can see what a nasty rank hag-bag she is for flashing her melons at neighbours. Cow.

blimey they're only tits.

our neighbour used to wash up topless, we ignored her

Is waiting for an AIBU from the OP complaining about the note from the woman across the road asking that her husband stops looking into her bedroom window when she's getting changed

Ok my two penn'orth

I have always lived by the Rules in My World which dictate that if you dont have nets (or drawn blinds) at your window, you are not allowed to complain when people walking past have a beak in.

I suppose this also falls into the category but the other way round, therefore unless you are willing to put up voiles at your window, you cannot complain about the view out or in.

Don't put a note through her door. If she does fancy your DH she'll love that. "Ooh, I've got his wife all jealos and insecure! Maybe he fancies me back?!" YANBU to be pissed off though- how fucking desperate blatant must she be?! (Not saying your DH isn't a catch or anything, but where is her pride?)

Reckon your husband should ignore it, or better yet, cast a critical eye at her, shake his head in disgust and shutyour curtains til he knows she's gone. But then I'm a nasty cow at times

She obviously knows she can be seen if she's looking at your husband while she's topless so I don't think a note would do any good.
If you really hate it, you could always ask the police to have a word with her.
I know people are saying you should be able to go round your house naked etc but if it was a man standing at the window with his penis out and you had a child in the house would it be acceptable or would he be labelled as a flasher?

Get him to shout you up, then both wave at her with OTT Wallace and Grommit cheesy grins every time she does it

Is she really looking at the husband? How can she know he is there if the curtains are closed? I think you are reading too much into this OP.

No note is reqired. A leaflet for boob jobs/lipo along with a small slip saying compliments of your neighbours should do the trick

so she's lurking around her house waiting for your husband to stand at the window and is then running up the stairs, getting her clothes off and flinging open her curtains?

I am impressed at the speed at which she can do these things without breaking her neck on random crap on the stairs and finding out that her pelvic floor muscles have once again let her down

Please use Hamster's suggestion. I am actually wiping tears of mirth away at the mental image. Genius.

I live in a house much like yours (Victorian terraces) and am always walking round naked. If the neighbours see me, so what? It's my house.

Get some leaflets or fliers from the local lingerie shop (or if you want to be a total bitch, get some leaflets for breast improvement surgery) and pop them through her letterbox with a note saying "You might find these useful"

oops -I should have pressed refresh before posting (X posted with PussinJimmyChoos)

Norbert - roffle at if you want to be a total bitch

This has happened twice in how long? It's not like it's every day is it? Just ignore it and treasure the fact that you have your own "ugly naked guy"