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to think this was ungrateful and maybe a bit snobby?

133 replies

LifeIsButtercream · 07/05/2011 18:50

I friend recently had a first birthday party for her DD, I have a limited budget but found a really gorgeous outfit from Asda which had a character on that my friend's DD is 'obsessed' with, and posted this over to them as a pressie.

I spoke to said friend a few days later, and she was blah blah about her DD's birthday and all the lovely clothes people had given her. She then went on to say that some people had only given clothes from Asda or Tesco, and these 'had to go straight in the bin', as her DD only wears clothes from 'Next, and above'.........

I was a bit hmph, and didn't mention the gift I'd sent, but made my excuses and left the conversation. I felt a bit grrrrr that not only had she chucked my gift away, but she hadn't even remembered what I'd given (it was a week ago) - call me mad but I make a note when DD opens presents so I can at least pretend I have written thank you cards and thank people.

Besides, Next and above? Do labels really matter at 1yr old?

Or am I on another planet?

OP posts:
expatinscotland · 07/05/2011 20:13

She's not a snob, OP. She's a trashy chav. Tell me, what do you want to do with such low-rent people?

I would be pressing the 'delete' button left and right and the 'block' button with the other hand.

southeastastra · 07/05/2011 20:14

next would be chucked out too judging from some of the posts on this website Wink

expatinscotland · 07/05/2011 20:14

X-post with edam. I know some pretty posh people who wouldn't hesitate to put the kid in ASDA clothes if they liked the look of this.

This person is straight out of a reality TV show.

Delete and move on.

blondepinhead · 07/05/2011 20:14

Bit off-topic, but please what is Lelli Kelli?

My DD goes to nursery in her cousin's hand-downs. They're boys. I don't think anyone judges me for that, especially after they see her climbing into the mud and rolling in it. YANBU. Your 'friend' is mental.

RockStockandTwoOpenBottles · 07/05/2011 20:16

Only wannabes are snobs.

olibeansmummy · 07/05/2011 20:24

Good on you for saying something. I can't believe she's so rude! My ds wears lots of asda stuff and people are always commenting on how nice he looks. On a different subject, my grandad worked with George Davis and he asked him to go into business with him to do next, asda etc and he said no. I could have been riiiiiiiich! :(

nailak · 07/05/2011 20:26

i think she is a weirdo, next time buy somethin from next in the charity shop and send it to her, then after she wears it tell her its from the charity shop,

but at least its not asda

(btw not dissin charity shops in any form or fashion)

breatheslowly · 07/05/2011 20:31

I would be so tempted to tell her what a twat she is, just to demonstrate to her what it is actually like to be offended. My DD wears everything from recycled Matalan to some designery stuff she got as gifts. The supermarket stuff is great and you can't tell where it comes from without looking at the labels. Does she really think that other people are going to start looking down her DD's collar to work out where her clothes are from?

Kirk1 · 07/05/2011 20:31

Christ, she's a real pleasant person isn't she. I'd be inclined to tell her "Sorry, but if you think people giving you nice presents is offensive then I really don't think I can be friends with such a snobbish twat."

BTW, my kids go to a private school. They and all their friends wear clothes from Asda, Tesco, Matalan etc. They also have designer stuff for parties and special occasions, but I wince at the thought of spending £40 on an item of clothing that'll be worn once and then outgrown before they get the chance to wear it again.

Tidey · 07/05/2011 20:32

Lelli Kelly are over the top, overpriced, revolting, sequinned shoes that little girls seem to adore, blondepinhead.

I can't believe that anyone would a)be so rude, b) be so ungrateful and c) be so wasteful. What a horrible horrible woman.

Flisspaps · 07/05/2011 20:34

She should go and make friends with the woman discussed in this thread, ungrateful cow!

Mermaid2 · 07/05/2011 20:34

Pathetic, at a year old what does he/she know, love Asda, bits always seem to last ages and half the price of Next

Ripeberry · 07/05/2011 20:35

Feel sorry for the child, sounds like one of those mums who wants all the 'best' clothes and the child must NEVER ever get dirty or mucky!
She could have kept the so called 'inferior' clothes for mucky play Hmm

onceamai · 07/05/2011 20:35

She's bonkers. Some of the nicest things and most complimented upon things my dc had were from George and when I had time I used to shop in Asda too (because it's cheaper for the basics). I well remember a pair of soft white Italian leather sandals for 6pds and all the mums at nursery went to get a pair when they saw dd in them. At the time George had a cracking little cotton jersey dress in every colour of the rainbow for 3pds and they all had those too. Those nursery dds are now respectively at: St Pauls Girls, Lady Eleanor Holles, Putney High, Wimbledon High, Surbiton High - shall I go on.

See if you can get your former chum a bit of Burberry on e-bay Grin. I'm really sorry you wasted 10pd and if it's any consolation dd got a pair of trendy denim shorts and a Tshirt from H&M last weekend for 10pds and was more than pleased.

Whaddayouknow · 07/05/2011 20:36

Of course she's not a snob.
She's clearly low rent chavtrash.
Everyone knows the truly top drawer dress their kids in anything, the freer and cheaper the better.

clam · 07/05/2011 20:38

Do people like this really exist?
SO glad not in my world!
Why don't you point out to her that with that attitude, what her daughter is dressed in is probably the last thing people will be judging her on.

clam · 07/05/2011 20:40

This friend of yours sounds as if she'd get on very well with the woman in that other thread recently, who was furious with the (lovely, thoughtful, generous) gifts she received in her baby shower and demanded they be taken back and exchanged for the expensive stuff she'd asked for.

Pussinflatboots · 07/05/2011 20:45

What a bitch. YANBU.

I'm v pleasantly surprised with Tu and George baby clothes - great quality and nice designs. BabyGap is very cute, but very small, IME.

Icelollycraving · 07/05/2011 21:06

IMO she is not a snob,she has no manners & should be grateful for any friends that stick around,no doubt they would deserve each other.
I would text her & say you were very embarrassed that the gift you chose was only fit for the bin. Say you find that extremely rude,ungrateful & it has made you question the person you thought was a friend.
Btw Next? Is that her starting block? Not that special!
I was expecting mini Boden lol.

PinkToeNails · 07/05/2011 21:07

The sizing is Baby Gap is totally inaccurate for my DD.

Your friend has absolutely no manners and sounds to me as though she's aspiring to be something. I know loads of posh people who dress their children in supermarket clothes.

I just Googled Lelli Kelly shoes - they're horrible.

I love dressing my DD in H&M clothes...we don't have an ASDA near us, but if we did I would definitely be shopping there. One of my favourite presents when DD was born came from ASDA.

microserf · 07/05/2011 21:19

goodness me. in my pfb phase, we used to waste money on branded clothes. now it's asda and tu all the way. dd loves them (and shopping for them) and i am so tired of having clothes ruined the first wearing. i [wants heart emoticon] george at asda, and they do wash bloody well.

can i say, even when i WAS in my pfb phase, I would never have thrown away any clothes, that's outrageous. so rude to the giver and so wasteful. i always make sure the kids wore everything they were given.

blondepinhead · 07/05/2011 21:22

Thanks to all who described Lelli Kelly for me. I've just googled it too. Grim.

Seriously OP, I would tell your mate that people are more likely to be looking down their noses at her for dressing her child as some sort of chav fashion plate, and shouldn't she just let the poor kid be comfortable? And then I would run. Fast.

MissMarjoribanks · 07/05/2011 22:15

Offended that you think she would dress her child in Asda?? Shock Hmm Fucking hell. MN always makes me thankful that I have sane friends.

Children in designer clothes is far more chavvy imo than those in supermarket clothes.

DS has stuff from Asda all the way to JojoMamanBebe (there is one round the corner from me). I felt slightly embarrassed sending him to nursery in a Jojo T-shirt but nursery has been hot the last couple of weeks and it has been the easiest place to get a few T-shirts from, last year's not fitting anymore.

ENormaSnob · 07/05/2011 22:26

Pmsl that she thinks next is upmarket.

She's not a snob, she's a wannabe.

Fuck her off.

manticlimactic · 07/05/2011 22:30

Well I hope you said send the thing back to you so you can get your money back and spend the tenner on something for someone who isn't an ungrateful bitch.

That's the reply a 'friend' of mine would have got. In those exact words.

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