to think this was ungrateful and maybe a bit snobby?

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I friend recently had a first birthday party for her DD, I have a limited budget but found a really gorgeous outfit from Asda which had a character on that my friend's DD is 'obsessed' with, and posted this over to them as a pressie.

I spoke to said friend a few days later, and she was blah blah about her DD's birthday and all the lovely clothes people had given her. She then went on to say that some people had only given clothes from Asda or Tesco, and these 'had to go straight in the bin', as her DD only wears clothes from 'Next, and above'.........

I was a bit hmph, and didn't mention the gift I'd sent, but made my excuses and left the conversation. I felt a bit grrrrr that not only had she chucked my gift away, but she hadn't even remembered what I'd given (it was a week ago) - call me mad but I make a note when DD opens presents so I can at least pretend I have written thank you cards and thank people.

Besides, Next and above? Do labels really matter at 1yr old?

Or am I on another planet?

I really don't think she had forgotten that it was you that gave that particular present. I would cross this woman off your list.

You should feel sorry for her really....I wouldn't judge someone for what they clothe their kids in but I would judge your "friend" for being a snobby, ungrateful, materialistic bitch.....

Well if she doesn't like "cheap" looking clothes then Lelli Kelly are the cheapest looking shout out imo!!!

Of course YANBU. Absolutley nothng wrong with Asda. We just got dd's friend a top from Asda becasue she likes Hello Kitty.

What a chav-if she thinks Next is posh!!!

I despair for some people. What a complete arse. Remove her from your friend list asap - people like this are toxic.

YANBU at all. Kids destroy clothes and at that age can go through a couple of outfits a day (at least!). You can get some really nice stuff from supermarkets these days and at a good price, my twins live in tesco, asda or sainsbury's stuff (they always seem to have their 25% off thing around their birthday ) and if they get covered in paint at nursery then it doesnt bother me. To say she threw out perfectly good clothes is crazy

I find this incredibly sad and depressing. There is so much desperate poverty in the world. Could she not at the least have given them to Oxfam.

What is the message she is giving to her daughter? One that looks and money count. There is an epidemic of eating disorders amongst girls and this is partly why - a ridiculous emphasis on looks.

I think children have to be purposely taught to give and think of others. My DD goes to a church preschool here in the US and every week they are expected to bring an item for the community food programme. At Christmas they bring in a toy and they do a "backpack" project at the start of the year to give school supplies.

yanbu
that is horrible, she sounds like a bitch and also quite a weirdo. what person in their right mind just chucks clothes away like that, if they dont like then atleast charity shop it but throwing brand new and perfectly good stuff in the bin is simply wrong there are many many people who would b more than happy to have it. and what a cow, she should atleast say thank you.
atleast you know not to bother with her in future.
there is nothing wrong with asda anyway they have some lovely stuff, the quality is fine, i buy from them a lot. this lady clearly has issues sending her child only in expensive stuff just to be painted on at nursery, just incase people will judge her. maybe she needs a bit of self esteem or something, why should she care if people judge for the clothes, unlikely anyway

Wow you're more restrained than I am, there's no way I'd have let that one slide and not said anything! I don't mean I'd have gone mad at her, but I'd have definitely reminded her what I'd bought and told her I thought it was out of order chucking perfectly good clothes in the bin just because they weren't big labels! Oh and that I wouldn't be buying anything else in future if she thought so little of the presents people gave her.

Anyone who treated me like this would not hear from me again. Bin her, would be my advice.

I think that at this point you might want to start assessing the friendship. If she's like that over a first birthday gift what the hell will she be like for her fifth? When most people will have budgets of under £5 for school class mates presents?

And even if she didn't like them, why throw them out? Why not donate them to a charity shop?

Probably clothes all come from the same manufacturing companies that cost less than 99p to make, only difference is label and Mark- up.

I tend to dress DD in stuff from Mamas and Papas and John Lewis, because it's gorgeous and I enjoy it and she's too small to care what she looks like yet (18 months). However, we gratefully receive any gifts - MIL always buys from Tesco and she's come up with some really nice things too, anything I don't love goes in the nursery clothes drawer.

What are you going to do OP, now everyone has said YANBU? Please tell her she's a snob.

I'd say it's a shame she chucked out clothes that could have gone to someone deserving, not very "green " to chuck out stuff she doesn't like. If she'd said the gift offended you would have taken it back no problem

Ungrateful twat
dont ever buy her anything again

I would feel quite angry and offended - snotty bitch.
As a family if the kids have posh labels its hand me downs from a richer friend.
10 pounds would be a lot for me for a friends kid - money is tight.
How dare she.

What a bitch. Tell her that if it's not too late you would like your gift back so that you can return it for a refund. Then never speak to the rude cow again.

The reason the clothing range at Asda is called George is because the guy that designs the range is called George Davies. Tis the same man that used to design for Next.....

DH bought DD a whole variety of clothes from the Arsenal shop and turns out that they're made in the same factory as George stuff, just different patterns and labels, yet about 15 pounds an item more expensive.

It's like Bourjouis and Chanel make-up are made in the same factory AFAIK.

My SIL is like this. It's so irritating and such bad manners. Kids grow out of clothing very quickly and they're always grubbing about on the floor. Characters go out of fashion week to week and quite honestly, anybody that gives a present should be assured that it is valued, whatever the cost of it.

I would ditch this friend, but not before giving her a piece of my mind that if she had any class or character, she would appreciate her friends' interest in her child.

Wow, how ungrateful! Y were being ABU for not saying anything, I certainly would have!
As said above, I love the supermarket clothes, such a bargain and very cute! I have recieved clothes for DD as presents before and not particularly liked them, but always thanked the giver, after all they went to the effort of going out, choosing something and bloody paying for it! (although I would 'use' them by sending DD to nursery in them )

If she really values the cost of a present rather than the thought that went into it then she's not someone I'd want to be friends with. And as everyone else has said, once clothes are covered in sick/juice/mud etc it doesn't matter if they cost £1 or £100, they all look the same.

FWIW, sme of the best t-shirts I had for DD1, in terms of washing and wearing well, came from Asda and are currently being sported again by my twins.

I can be a crashing snob but I'm quite happy to dress my DS in Asda stuff. I also happen to dislike Disney themed things but when we have received them as gifts, they have been worn. Quite simply because they're gifts and the polite thing to do is to say thank you and then use them. Whether they're to your taste or not.

She could at least give the stuff to charity rather than binning it.

some even, oops