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to think this was ungrateful and maybe a bit snobby?

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LifeIsButtercream · 07/05/2011 18:50

I friend recently had a first birthday party for her DD, I have a limited budget but found a really gorgeous outfit from Asda which had a character on that my friend's DD is 'obsessed' with, and posted this over to them as a pressie.

I spoke to said friend a few days later, and she was blah blah about her DD's birthday and all the lovely clothes people had given her. She then went on to say that some people had only given clothes from Asda or Tesco, and these 'had to go straight in the bin', as her DD only wears clothes from 'Next, and above'.........

I was a bit hmph, and didn't mention the gift I'd sent, but made my excuses and left the conversation. I felt a bit grrrrr that not only had she chucked my gift away, but she hadn't even remembered what I'd given (it was a week ago) - call me mad but I make a note when DD opens presents so I can at least pretend I have written thank you cards and thank people.

Besides, Next and above? Do labels really matter at 1yr old?

Or am I on another planet?

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galois · 07/05/2011 19:49

I'm on DC3 now. She has some lovely outfits courtesy of freecycle, which originally came from Sainsbury's and Primark.

Your friend is a right twunt.

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LifeIsButtercream · 07/05/2011 19:52

Ok, I've messaged friend (I'd been umming and arring over whether I was BU or not before reading your replies).

I sent something, not unfriendly, just something along the lines of 'did you receive pressie I sent DD, did that also get thrown away as I had thought that she would have liked that'

Friend responded that she had felt like she should have said something in previous conversation, and that she had been a bit offended that I had thought that she would have dressed her daughter in something from Asda. I had apparently hurt her feelings with this implication.

I think we can safely say that friendship is probably over........

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AyeRobot · 07/05/2011 19:53

Unbelievable!

K999 · 07/05/2011 19:54

What a twat....you're right to ditch her!

Tortington · 07/05/2011 19:56

shes a cunt

OhCobblers · 07/05/2011 19:57

good god Shock

firstly, respond and use the line about George Davis / Next designer that a poster has mentioned above and secondly tell her how utterly appalling she is and that you wish to have nothing more to do with her.

sorry, i know thats being really bossy of me but i'm stunned.

It actually makes me feel sick to think that someone has taken an item of clothing with tags on and put it in the bin. Particularly in this current economic climate. there are not enough "shocked" emoticons!

so sorry that your generosity and kind thought has been responded to in such a manner.

RockStockandTwoOpenBottles · 07/05/2011 19:57

What an ungrateful idiotic cow she is.

What intrigues me somewhat though, is exactly how does a one year old have an 'obsession' with a character? Two, possibly as I have found out with Peppa Bloody Pig in my house but one is odd.

Maybe she'll learn one day that on children under 15 ten, clothes don't stand a chance.

RockStockandTwoOpenBottles · 07/05/2011 19:58

Custy put it so much better than I did Grin I wasn't sure whether we were at cunt o'clock yet!

MrsLevinson · 07/05/2011 19:59

Unbelievable. She's a twat and I hope one day she feels really shit about this.

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LifeIsButtercream · 07/05/2011 20:00

I did actually mention the George/Next connection, my friend said that it wasn't the point, people would know that the Asda clothes were from Asda and she didn't want people thinking that she would have bought her DD clothes from there.

Right, I'm off for another ebay raid........

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jubilee10 · 07/05/2011 20:01

She could have sent them to me! The highlight of my year is getting a bag of hand me down clothes for the dc's. We don't have an Asda but have had some "George" things given to us and they have been really good quality.

You are better of without friends like that.

triskaidekaphile · 07/05/2011 20:01

Bluddymofo- I would guess Peppa Pig or one of the In the Night Garden characters? My friend's 1 year old baby gets blissed out and excited whenever she catches a glimpse of Peppa, even though she has never seen the TV programme. My 1.5 year old has recognised and been quietly pleased at the sight of Peppa for some months too. We occasionally try and interest her in the tv show but she's not very interested- only likes the credits and the song- but she's got a couple of Peppa board books and thinks they're great. While I'd not describe either of them as obsessed, they are certainly both aware of and like Peppa and I expect they might gravitate to products that she featured on. Branding starts very very early these days.

Agree with all the others that your friend sounds incredibly rude, lifeisbc.

DeepPurple · 07/05/2011 20:01

Shock ungrateful cow!

hairylights · 07/05/2011 20:02

Next and "above" ? What phenomenal twunt

saffy85 · 07/05/2011 20:02

Shock Ditch this bitch. Seriously. There is snobbery and there's plain fucking nasty.

Also the supermarket brands wear very well ime. Certainly just as well as Next stuff. I actually prefer Asda to Next as their stuff fits my DD better and it's cheaper for the same quality.

Serenitysutton · 07/05/2011 20:04

Actaully I always had to laugh at people who think they're posh when they shop at next. A high street shop only marginally more expensive tham h&m. Bless her.

saffy85 · 07/05/2011 20:04

"Friend responded that she had felt like she should have said something in previous conversation, and that she had been a bit offended that I had thought that she would have dressed her daughter in something from Asda. I had apparently hurt her feelings with this implication."

Shock Yep, she's a cunt.

nometime · 07/05/2011 20:04

I am so sorry that you have had such rudeness from a so called friend I am that I would have very little to do with he in future. As for hurting her feelings, I wouldn't worry I don't think she has any!

Has she not heard the saying "it's not what you wear but how you wear it!!"

Adversecamber · 07/05/2011 20:05

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missslc · 07/05/2011 20:07

Awful behaviour. I love asda clothes- my mum ( who is post war frugal) sent me a second hand asda rather saggy and bobbly tshirt all in one when my son was born and I made sure he wore it because she had made the effort to buy it and post it. I did not feel any attachment to keeping it once he was too big for it and did bin it as it was just not in good enough nick to recycle.....but I was touched when a colleague got me a sweet asda t shirt for my son.

Very ungrateful and very unpleasant behaviour on her part- what sort of values will she pass on to her kids?

KenDoddsDadsDog · 07/05/2011 20:07

Horrible bitch. Such bad manners,she has obviously been brought up very badly. If she passes on her appalling attitude, people will be commenting on more than what her DD is wearing.

wigglesrock · 07/05/2011 20:08

I was wondering if I could get away with calling her a knob but custardo has done it better than me.

But there are people like this about, my sil won't dress her kids in Asda, Tesco clothes, she isn't as rude as OPs friend but I and mil have bought clothes, jammies etc as presents that have never been seen again.

monkeypuzzeltree · 07/05/2011 20:08

How horribly thoughtful of you to think about what this child might like! For any age does it matter?! Really ungrateful, don't take it to heart, clearly not a very grateful person, or nice friend. My DD has everything from Ralph Lauren to Sainsbury's in her wardrobe, I can't say she could care less, nor could I! In fact it's always the cheapest things that people end up commenting on!

tattycoram · 07/05/2011 20:11

Stupid woman.

edam · 07/05/2011 20:12

She's not really posh enough to be a snob.

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