AIBU?
To be upset by actions of next door neighbour?
mo3g · 06/05/2011 19:00
We have lived in this house for 5 years and never had a problem with neighbour before this lady moved in and has made our life a nightmare.
She built a wall between our gardens [front] and if my dd's go near it she complains so have to warn them off when we go out in case she comes round to complain again.
She doesnt like it if we have people over that park outside our house and parks there not in drive so they have to go else where.
She had work done in her house and the builders walked through our front garden so as to not walk around her wall i didnt say anything so not to be petty.
She blocked our sky dish so had no sky for 2 days when getting the work on house done told her about it was very off with me.
She took down the fence between out back gardens again for this work and dd's couldnt play out for weeks again we never said a thing even though the scafolding was in our garden.
I hate upseting people as do get walked over but this week after i put up my washing line on my side of the fence she came round to say she didnt want it there and i had to remove it now its small just for dd's clothes i was shocked but couldnt see the problem i didnt have a chance to do anything as came home today to see she had cut it up with scissors and it was laying in bits in my garden. We live in a nice area/street and i cant work out why she is being so nasty dont know what to do as she said at the door it may damage the fence but she has a huge bush bursting throught the fence at my side from hers and that doesnt bother her wwyd thanks
MrsMeow · 06/05/2011 19:05
I think you need to stop being so accommodating to this woman as it seems as though she is walking all over you. I know confrontation isn't nice (have been there with crap neighbours myself) but if she thinks she can do what she likes and you won't comment, then she'll keep doing it.
The other things are a pain in the arse for you, but cutting your washing line really isn't on at all! I would go round and ask her what the hell she's playing at.
I hope you get this sorted. I assume her house is privately owned?
Pancakeflipper · 06/05/2011 19:10
Blimey - I would have knocking at her door informing her I presume she is responsible for the cutting of the washing line following her recent communication and this is trespassing and vandalism and I would be informing the community police and have recorded all events in recent months since she moved in.
Then I might breathe in, exhale then inform her that I expect her to replace my washing line and to give my family a very wide berth.
poor you! I'm with the others that have suggested getting police and/or council involved. I would stop being quiet and not being petty, it's obviously not working and start being firm!JaxTellersOldLady · 06/05/2011 19:13
so, grow a back bone and TELL this woman to get you a new washing line. TELL her not to speak to you in that way and TELL her to sort out her bush so it isnt pushing on your fence.
She does this because she sees you as a walk over, dont let her do this to you. Toughen up!
going · 06/05/2011 19:14
You've allowed her to control you too much. You have to tell her how unhappy you are the moment she does something that inconviences you otherwise she will keep taking advantage.
It does sound like an awful situation but being nice is only going to make things harder for you and easier for her.
EmLH · 06/05/2011 19:16
If she'd even moved my washing line I'd be furious but to actually cut it up?!!!! You should go round immediately and ask her what she thinks she was doing and demand that she replace it. Ditto threatening to call the police should she enter your property again. You don't have to scream or swear (usually taking the moral highground makes you feel better) but it sounds like she definitely needs to hear some home truths! Do keep us posted if you do go round :)
HecateQueenOfTheNight · 06/05/2011 19:16
Don't tether the washing line to the fence. Get a post put in, or one of those round ones that spikes into the garden.
When you say she complains if your daughters "go near" the wall - do you mean go near it or do you mean climb on it? if you mean go near it, as in walk or play within 5 ft of it - ignore her. if when you say "go near" you actually mean "walk along" - then don't let them. cos I've had kids walking up and down the wall outside my house and it's a bit irritating.
If something is not fair - speak up. If you choose to say nothing then yes, people will walk all over you. You could have told the builders to stay off your property, you could have let your children play out.
You are going to have to grow a pair with this woman or she will walk all over you. Be calm, be firm. Be assertive.
FabbyChic · 06/05/2011 19:19
Are you seriously going to stand there and take this womans shit?
She is bullying you.
Tell her to fuck the fuck off.
Tell her it is your garden and if it is your fence you are perfectly within your rights to attach a washing line, tell this bitch that you allowed the scaffolding in your garden without batting an eyelid.
Please don't let her walk all over you, you make a rod for your own back, why let her intimidate you.
Do you not have friends with the balls to tell her she is out of order.
I'd call the fucking police about the washing line, she trespassed in your garden to cut it for god sake.
2BoysTooLoud · 06/05/2011 19:22
Do you feel threatened by her? Would confronting her be difficult for that reason? Have you a partner who could help deal with her? It sounds like she has problems with dealing with people and is not particularly rational. I can see that could be scarey. Like others have said write everything down and perhaps chat to community police if you feel things not going to improve.
A horrible situation to be in. Take care.
BabyDubsEverywhere · 06/05/2011 19:28
Right love, time to man the fuck up!
You are being walked over by a petulant bully, turn the tables on her. dont be nice, dont even be polite, tell her you have hadenough of her attitude you are prepared to take and that your washing line was the final straw - then with a crazy glint in your eye and a hushed menacing tone a simple - ''watch your back bitch'' should do it
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