To be upset by actions of next door neighbour?

[mo3g]

We have lived in this house for 5 years and never had a problem with neighbour before this lady moved in and has made our life a nightmare.

She built a wall between our gardens [front] and if my dd's go near it she complains so have to warn them off when we go out in case she comes round to complain again.

She doesnt like it if we have people over that park outside our house and parks there not in drive so they have to go else where.

She had work done in her house and the builders walked through our front garden so as to not walk around her wall i didnt say anything so not to be petty.

She blocked our sky dish so had no sky for 2 days when getting the work on house done told her about it was very off with me.

She took down the fence between out back gardens again for this work and dd's couldnt play out for weeks again we never said a thing even though the scafolding was in our garden.

I hate upseting people as do get walked over but this week after i put up my washing line on my side of the fence she came round to say she didnt want it there and i had to remove it now its small just for dd's clothes i was shocked but couldnt see the problem i didnt have a chance to do anything as came home today to see she had cut it up with scissors and it was laying in bits in my garden. We live in a nice area/street and i cant work out why she is being so nasty dont know what to do as she said at the door it may damage the fence but she has a huge bush bursting throught the fence at my side from hers and that doesnt bother her wwyd thanks

First, get rid of the scaffolding on YOUR property.
Stop parking your car on your driveway, park it in front of your house and let your visitors park on your driveway (we had this problem too but solved it by doing this).
Then g round to her house and give her a good slap.
Talk about taking the piss.

I'd post the cut up washing line in an envelope with a note saying
'Please do not destroy My property, please replace this or i shall take it further'

Stop letting her walk all over you!!!!

Why is scaffolding for her property in your garden?

Why did she take down the fence?

WTF does it have to do with her you hanging washing out in your garden?

I would love to come and visit you and park outside your house, would love her to come and challenge me! Where abouts are you, maybe we could all come and visit at the same time [eveil grin]

Its not about you upsetting her, its about her respecting you and your property.

Also what example is this setting to your dauguhter about accepting other peoples attitudes.

You need to get some replies in your head for things you know will happen, practise them and say them to her as and when needed (i.e this is a public road, anyone can park anywhere, you destroy any of my property again, I will contact the police, you don;t ever talk to my daughter like that do you understand etc, etc, etc)

Theres another thread at the moment with a woman driver (maybe its your neighbour!) who has bullied her way through the roads, the mnetter (kind of) confronted her and all is now good. Seriously you will feel better for it.

Thanks everyone, have had a chance to think about it and i do agree with some posters who say maybe i should not have had a washing line attached to a shared fence it is a solid double panelled fance and been there years never had a problem till she moved in maybe i do need to get a pole to attach it to but what she did cutting it down was wrong and i will get a grip and have a chat with her tomorrow will be as nice as possible but will let her know that is not on, I have 3 dd's and they are all strong confident little girls take after dh i think but yes those of you that said what example am i setting are quite right that has struck a cord with me i am going to do it and will post back when done will be tomorrow as to late now wish me luck.

And she just parks in the street all the time so no one else can ??

She took down the fence so the scafolding could be put up and there was not enough room in her garden to build it so used ours, she did remove it and have the fence put back up she was having the roof done.

dont expect to have too much of a civilised convo with her as she sounds bonkers. If you find it hard to talk to her face to face you could always put it in a letter,she is a bully tho,you can tell her that and that she's lucky she doesnt live by someone a little less passive-like me

maybe she parks on the street because she is incapable of reversing like me

good luck for tomorrow, let us know what happens! make sure you video it

I am with Needanewname mass pom bear throwing and children standing near the wall should resolve the issue

Wow she is a mad bitch.

Go round and tell her if she damages your thinks again you will smack her silly report her to the police. Also stop letting her walk all over you.

Do not let her workman on you property, you have the right to refuse them entry.
Cut the bush that is on your side of the fence and chuck it back over.