To be a bit annoyed that some lads peed in a bottle and then poured it on my DD

[shandyleer]

I'm not BU,I know I'm not. And I'm also not annoyed, I'm spitting feathers, but I don't know what to do about what happened, and I'm hoping for lots of outraged comments from you lot.

Yesterday, Dd (16) went with four of her friends to a local riverside where lots of kids hang out on nice days. There was a large group of 20 or so girls and boys, similarly aged to herself (she thinks). They began picking on her because she has red hair (dyed red). She ignored them, they then started picking on the other girls and surrounded them. Dd tried to reason with them by saying that they were all there for the same reason, and why couldn't they leave each other alone and why were they picking on people when they didn't even know them. Next thing she knows, lad approached with a pop bottle and pours/chucks it over her hair - and it was urine.

Dd and friends left at this point and rang dh from local train station (after having waited for train for nearly an hour). Dh went back to riverside with them but the group had gone. I'm so upset for her, she was more upset last night than I've seen her in quite some time, and I don't blame her at all.

Lots of the young uns go there, Fabby. Its kind of the next best thing to the seaside being as we're nowhere near the sea! However, if there are going to be gangs like that there now, I guess it will spoil it for loads of them.

Oh MollieO, I was kind of hoping you'd show up. Place I'm talking about is very near you. Do you know where I mean?

I think what happened was unacceptable and vile but at the same time I can't help thinking that your dd went to "hang out". Does she know who did this and who else was there. Was it an organised gathering of people she actually knew meeting up to do something constructive? I would be a bit concerned if one of my dc (16 and 12) announced they were going to the river to meet a bunch of people they didn't really know for no particular reason because the sun was out. You go to the river here for a walk, or to row or to meet friends at a restaurant. I'm sorry if that sounds harsh but overall it's not disimilar to going clubbing or to a pub and having a first date with someone you know absolutely nothing about because you havent' been introduced by friends and then finding out you went out with a nutter and wondering why it all went wrong.

Disgusting - I would be furious and want to hire some heavies to smack them around. Oh yes indeed. But since we are law abiding - well done for telling the police and hope your DD is OK.

Teenagers need to "hang out". It's what they do onceamai and they certainly consider it "constructive" so I can't see what on earth is wrong with a 16 year old meeting her friends at a known hang out place. It's totally wrong for anyone to be showered with piss, however so well done for reporting this to the police.

OP

This kind of thing wouldn't happen up for the simple reason the local lads are brought up to look after and protect the lasses. Yes we may be backward according to all the feminists on here but I can guarentee if a blow in did a trick like this nobody would be going to jail but somebody would be going to hospital.

That is disgusting, lowlifes. Same thing happened to me when I was a little girl, this little shite pulled me into a bush and peed all over me, would report to the police

at some posters suggesting the OP's DD is somehow responsible for having urine poured over her because of where she chose to spend her time. The boys who did it are to blame, something like that shouldn't happen, it's horrible; it shouldn't matter where she was and who with.

onceania

It meant to be a free country is it not any lass should be'allowed' to go anywhere see wants without being threatened or harmed. Keep the little twats in doors not the canny bairns.

That is the most horrid thing I have heard in a long time. I am so sorry for your daughter. Maybe she needs some new friends.

"Local lads" are brought up to respect women here too. But for all that, I've never encouraged my sons to deal with issues by putting people into hospital. Violence is never a resolution and I am aghast at the people who are bringing their children up to believe it is.

Gloria

The fact that we will use what ever force is necessary to protect our DDs is the reason that we don't have to. If you can't get that I can't explain it.

I do get the thinking behind this flawed logic, beesimo. But I don't see how threats and intimidation are acceptable either.

For those of you questioning the riverside hangout - its kind of equivalent to going to the beach. Loads of people go there when weather is nice, not just teens. Its not a particularly remote location either, its quite close to a small village and train station etc.

Gloria

Where did I say anything about threats or intimidation? It would come down to actions not words

The fact is woman live peaceful only when under the protection of men, myself and the rest of my female relatives are protected by our menfolk as many women are by their men. Other women are protected by men who are paid to protect them by the state paid for by our taxes.

I have far greater faith in my DH to look after me and mine than in any brought man who we mean nothing to

Thanks BeerTricks, yes she's fine now thanks.

absolute wee bastards. I hope the police catch them. That's just malicious assault. Was shocked when i saw the thread title thought how can you be a wee bit annoyed, I'd of been down there like a banshee screaming at the bastards. I was a "bad" teenager but the group i was in would never do anything to actually intentionally hurt someone physically or emotionally. That's the worst thing about it they knew full well what they were doing and intended to humiliate her. I'm furious, can't imagine how you feel OP.

I'm ok now thanks maighdlin, but yes, I was a tad more than "annoyed" at the time. Couldn't think of a suitable word to convey how I felt when I wrote the post.

What a disgusting, vile thing to do.

WTF is up with some people?

Hope your DD is ok.

Vile, poor girl.

Women live peacefully only when under the protection of men? Bloody hell, what a grim way to think. Don't kid yourself beesimo, your way leads to spiralling violence and precisely the mindless macho aggression that is at the root of the assault that the OP's daughter was subjected to. An eye for an eye and soon the whole world is blind.

Disgusting! I hope they are found and quickly. Poor girl! This is horrifying.
I hate it when a "bad gang" of kids spoil things for everyone else. There is a lovely playground close by but a group of teenagers hang out there, swearing, defacing property, shattering bottles etc. I know a few of them and they were not brought up any better, unfortunately. How sad to have nothing else to do but bully people and wreck places intended for small children.