Little boys weeing in public...

[MrsFruitcake]

Am I being U? Something someone said on another thread got me thinking about this.

At Kew Gardens on Friday, a little boy, probably about 4 or 5 had taken his pants down and was weeing into a bush in full view of his mother and her friends all sitting very nicely on a picnic blanket. We had to walk past on the path and he was about 2ft away from us.

Maybe I'm a bit old-fashioned, but if your child needs to pee, you get up and find a loo, don't you? Not continue chatting with scant interest in what your beloved children are up to...BTW - the loos were very close, I know, because DS aged 3 saw the little boy, wanted to have an alfresco wee too and was told no, we'd find the lavs.

Its perfectly fine and legal to boot

It helps the plants grow.

If there were loos reasonably close by, YANBU. But when my boys were little I would have let them if we were far away from the toilet, although I would also have been embarassed!

Perhaps they were Europeans?
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my 3 year old pisses everywhere, he is only just Pot Trained in his defence but its starting to get embarassing!

If the loos were nearby then there's no need for it, if they weren't then I have no problem with little ones having a wee outside, but I would take them and do it somewhat discreetly - I would not be allowing them to do it like that, no.

Bogof Op

What do you do if your potty training? your in a park full of trees and bushes.

Now if your in a shopping prescinct then you would have a point.

If there are working toilets then YANBU. But if there are no loos and your child is too young to understand the concept of holding their wee in until their kidneys hurt then YABU.

MrSpoc -I have only very recently potty trained DS and never found a need to do it outside. The child I am talking about was way past the potty training stage (and it's probably just about okay IMO to wee in public then).

If the toilets are nearby, it's unnecessary.

But we were in a shop the other day and I had a trolley full, dd who is 3 had been a bit off colour and was tired (was coming down with chicken pox it turned out) and needed a wee desperately. No toilets in the shop. No toilets nearby. Nearest ones about a 15 minute walk. No way would she have made it.

I'm ashamed to say I had to abandon my trolley, take her outside and down the road, down a side street and hold her over a drain. I genuinely don't know what else I could have done. I was very embarrassed.

YANBU

Dogs piss wherever they like, so a little boy aiming into a flower bed is of no concern to me.

DS does this, when out - in a car park against the car wheels. likewise otherwise he'll find a bush I usually stand behind him thou to cover his modesty.

Also, I'd rather see a child weeing in public than see a child wet itself.

Dogs are dogs though. Surely as a human we should aim a bit higher, as it were?

My DS is 2.9 and he wees in bushes, but I am choosy about where I let him do it!
In fact I am rather as his Granny has him today and she just rung me to tell me he has pooed in her garden, but seeing as he usually does it in his pants, that is a major breakthrough!! She thought so too!

YABa littleU each to their own, I agree if this was a 16 year old I may have a problem with that!

DD aged 3 is held to wee in gutters all the time when there are no loos to be found; don't find it embarrassing in the slightest, and much, much better than the alternative...

shatners agreed!

If I were right next to the loos then yes, I would take DS but I have to say most of the time we pee in drains/the gutter/quiet corners/up trees. He's 4 but still genuinely can't wait.

But if there were no nearby toilets, then is it acceptable?

And some fecker has to say it so I may as well get it over with. He may have had a medical reason for needing to go quickly. And here comes the personal anecdote... My dn has aspergers and a small, sensitive bladder with little urge control. She's 9 but when she needs to go, she needs to go.

Oh dear, my son aged 3 did this in the park the other day before I could get to him. I was chasing his sister around the other side of the park. Fortunately some nearby bystanders just laughed, no horrified looks. Not ideal but these things happen. Better than weeing in his pants I guess.

DD still needs the occasional al fresco wee. She is 3.5. Better than pissing in her knickers.

I'm in the "if dogs can why not little children" camp.

I was going to say that if there were toilets nearby then I'd take them there... But just realised that yesterday we were playing in the fields and DD needed a pee, I took her behind a bush rather than tramping home and then back out again.

My 5 year old has a weak bladder and frequently wets herself during the day especially when shes tired. I have to do this regularly and it gets embarrassing as people think she should be able to hold it but she often can't.

Of course all children are different. Different parenting styles I suppose.

Yes, the good parents don't stray more than 20 yds from a public loo