To think it will all kick off on here after this is aired?

[MsScarlett]

My mum just texted me to say that tomorrow there is a documentary on BBC3 at 9pm called, "Is Breast Best?".

I predict a bunfight!

Can you see this online somewhere?

Thanks dee.

Yank, yes on I-Player. it isn't available yet, but should be tomorrow.

I thoroughly enjoyed the programme.

Yes quite a few. Family wise mainly now XH and his family though started when we were still together and now worse obviously. A check out operator when I was returning a faulty carton of formula, 2 separate women while in baby changing rooms while dd was still a baby. The most humiliating of all was last year was my XH's solicitor while I was standing in the witness box in court. So my failure is no a matter of official public record :(.

xstitch - that's awful :( :(

They are horrible people xstitch

When DS1 was born, DH's mum was completely the other way, she got up when I started to feed him with a look of horror on her face and went and stood in kitchen.

The programme made me feel quite sad really. Wish bf wasn't portrayed as being so difficult, painful & exhausting. I found it miles better than I expected and a very easy, pleasant experience (not trying to make anyone who didn't feel bad as I fully realise how lucky I am). I am not a 'lactivist' and didn't really have a view on bf before having my dd - other than hoping that's how I'd feed her. However, I really wish it was seen as the norm especially in public. I'm still bf my dd at 9 months & often don't tell people, or don't correct them when they assume she has bottles as I don't know many other people still feeding.

Although I did really like Cherrie, I don't think this programme will have encouraged anyone with doubts to bf as it just made it seem so hard & unobtainable. Sorry if I'm repeating what's already been said- not had time to read the whole thread. Just feel v strongly that bf should b seen as the norm even though there's absolutely nothing wrong with formula if u can't / don't want to bf. Bf shouldn't be portrayed as this 'holy grail' of motherhood - attempted by many, achieved by few.

I dunno, I have mixed feelings about how it was portrayed. The truth is that many women don't get great support early on and DO find it difficult, painful and exhausting. I did - twice. I think if I was still in that place I would have found it comforting in a way that I wasn't the only one finding it really hard. But whether it will put more women off, I don't know. Maybe.

I think people do need to realise it is often really really hard and a lot of the time it's about perseverance. I don't think that is portrayed enough - and that a baby feeding constantly in the first few months is normal!

Leoniedelt - my husband also turned to me and told me how proud he was/is that I bf our dc. He always has done and that is nice to hear, he is passionate about bf because of our two dc and what he has seen! Awww!

I was expecting it to be hard as had only really heard horror stories and when it wasn't it was a big surprise & relief. Gave myself 6 weeks. Maybe I found it easier to continue because I was aware of all the challenges people can face. Who knows?!

I definitely agree that people should be made aware how hard it is but i wish people also got to see more 'normal' women feeding without drama (ie. Not in a toilet or a 5 year old!).

Although having said all that I still thnk support and encouragement are essential. Just having my mum and a hv telling me how well I was doing in the early weeks really helped when other people were suggesting formula ('so we know how much she's getting' and cos she had wind?!!)

my dh told me after a few months of bf that he was really proud of me too. he is now a total lactivist (he is allergic to tact!) and bring it up as often as he can he he

Oh wow.

The ONLY shocking thing in this programme is that the presenter actually started to believe that breastfeeding makes your child love you more.

LMFAO!

BUt seriously sad for anyone who thinks that. In the nicest possible way, wtf is wrong with you?

Sorry, but the 'head patting' from the proud fathers is really patronising and cringeworthy. Is feeding your child really something so extraordinary?

I really do feel for the FF mothers on this board, some of the posters are crashingly insensitive to the feelings of others.

I really hope the next baby feeding threads go on the board they're supposed to be on.

What do you judge them on kerrymumbles By that I mean do you assume that they are too ignorant to research for themselves the benefits for both ff and bf? Or that you pity them for missing out on bonding time? Or that you judge that they are being selfish in putting their own needs ahead that of their child? I suppose I mean do you judge them in a positive or negative way.?

Genuinely curious (sorry if it sounds narky) as 'judging' is such a vague word that can imply all sorts, that I wanted to be clear on what you meant by it before replying to avoid getting wires crossed and pants in a twist with no need for it.

i dont quite get all the fuss. i dont mind if you want to feed your kids vodka and orange through a straw or out of a fruit shoot bottle (dont get the problem with fruit shoots, they are quite tasty). Why make it a TV programme. Why not make a programme about wives who like to give blow jobs and wives who don't. Who gives a flip. Feed your kids what you like and leave me alone. Cheers.

I don't think there's any need for anyone to judge anyone for feeding behaviour/choices/decisions....how can anyone do this, when they cannot know the full story behind anyone's situation, and in any case, I think it's a cheek!

We can judge a society that puts up barriers to breastfeeding, without extending judgement to individual women.

The mature 'thing' is to take responsibilty for one's own decisions, and to feel comfortable about others taking responsibilty for theirs, surely?

IMO eeew i didnt want to. I will have to go out in a while and round up the kids with a lasso. I assume they are drinking 20/20 on the park, possibly having sex or spray painting the local petrol station. This is what happens when you don't BF.

Not reading the whole thread, it will make me

SO much of the program is utter bullshit. I just want to punch the smug cow in her face.

dammit the rozzers have just brought them back drunk and pregnant/having fathered children. oh i lament the day i didnt bf. Zzzzzzzzz