To think it will all kick off on here after this is aired?

[MsScarlett]

My mum just texted me to say that tomorrow there is a documentary on BBC3 at 9pm called, "Is Breast Best?".

I predict a bunfight!

Yes Mollie I don't think you gave up too. Most women find the early days of bf painful, doesn't mean they should give up at that point.

and yes i agree, well done emma. getting over those sometimes hideous first weeks. you go lady.

I only watched the 2nd half and I thought it was OK overall. The reporter had some lovely clothes!
It did show a few too many huge baps though, or maybe I'm just really tiny!
Shame about the wee kid in the dressing room saying it was disgusting. I'd be pretty ashamed if that was my son.

The best best bit was seeing the newborn baby searching around for the breast. It brought tears to my eyes (and not only because I remember that excrutiating nipple grabbing). I don't think I ever experienced seeing either of mine search for the breast because the MWs were too damn quick to "help" latch them on. You give birth, you "do" skin to skin, baby is "helped" to latch on - noooo, too fast! It also made me realise that I had never seen that in two whole series of OBEM.

omg gaelic, i never understand why they don't show bfing intiation on obem!

Not a popular view but I wish I hadn't bothered to bf. As it was I gave Ds one bottle ff a day supplement and that was the only time I looked forward to feeding him.

If this programme was on BBC2, Channel 4 etc, I would agree with the majority of negative comments on here about the doc but it's on BBC3 - aimed specifically at a young adult audience. The mode of address, I thought, was really appropriate.

I liked her, I was strangely gratified by her honesty and her (possibly pseudo) naivety, and I thought it was only a good thing that if any mum to be saw it at all, it would at least make them think more carefully about the whole issue.

I can understand why you feel that way Mollie. Being in pain for 11 months would have been awful. I remember in the first weeks I used to work myself up into a state absolutely dreading the next feed.

Leonie - My dh was pretty impressed at me too. He was glued to the TV (he only saw the second half) when he normally doesn't bother with this type of program.

I am just about to watch it, I had to go to work but wanted to answer some comments ion this thread.

My failure as a mother in being unable to breast feed did in part contribute to my PND. I really do believe that however bf will not make you immune to PND.

To whomever said that those who bf are against bf. Not all of them are. I would still consider myself to be pro breast feeding. It enrages me when mothers are forced into feeling like they can't feed their dc in a cafe etc. I think mothers who want to breast feed should receive all the support they need to do so which all too often I feel they do not. What I do have a problem with is ff mother being told they aren't a proper mother, being asked why they don't love their child, or being asked why they don't want their child to be healthy. It is hurtful and in fact soul destroying when you are in the post natal period when it is normal to feel vulnerable.

I also disagree that breast feeding is more time consuming (at least not when its working because trying to get a latch for 5hrs is time consuming). Having a young baby is just a time consuming business in my experience with lots of new things to get used to.

My DH had to play a computer game as he got too irate at the mis-information plus he cried at Humphrey (Emma's bf) saying how much he loved her at the beginning. He did get cross when Emma was in pain and said 'instead of filming her why don't they arrange help for her??'. He was ever so pleased when they took her to a bfing group .

Can i just say, SirBoobAlot has fantastic tits

very good balanced programme I thought.

xstitch, "What I do have a problem with is ff mother being told they aren't a proper mother, being asked why they don't love their child, or being asked why they don't want their child to be healthy"

But anyone who says things like that needs locking up (and as my Gran would say, 'and they should throw away the key!')

This sort of stupid, unkind comment to a new mother is just the same as any stupid, unkind comment to a new mother - and to object to it is just obvious. It's like saying 'I have a problem with people who tell mothers if they don't have a new pram for every baby, they mustn't love their child' or 'I have a problem with people telling mothers who don't put vests on their kids they must not want them to be healthy'.

That's all to do with the few ignorant people in the world, and nothing to do with bf/ff :)

i didnt' think the lactivists were that well radical, they were just asking cafes etc to display bf friendly notices. it wasn't as if they were hunting down ff'ers and lecturing them!

And Xstitch - you are totally not a failure as a mother for not breastfeeding.

No one with more than one brain cell would think that.

If you really believe that of yourself, then I so hope you can find help to overcome it.

We all need to feel confident as mothers, not failures :( :(

Just watched it, I actually thought it was pretty good. Though they probably could have shown some more 'average' women, I think if I hadn't breastfed I would come away assuming it was always going to be painful at the beginning and my nipples were going to bleed.

I did get a bit teary-eyed at the end credits with all the babies and boobs. And the realisation that one day I might have to stop or I'll be the woman feeding a 5 year old...

Wasn't in pain. Ds just didn't feed well, took ages and then vomited every single feed (severe reflux). Just seemed pointless but felt compelled to continue. If I had had another I doubt I would have bf but the pressure when you have a poorly baby and all the health professionals are saying the same thing is hard to resist. Honestly Ds is nearly 7 and I'm surprised at my strength of feeling.

So it is a sensible thinking to object to then isn't it. Sadly in my experience it is way too many people and I have had it said to me in the last year with regards to the way I fed my daughter so it lasts a long time.

Dee, which one was SirBoob?

Which one was SirBoobalot?

x-post Mollie

In the lactavists circle, Purple top - gorgeous son. Seen speaking and feeding.

Xstitch - 'many' people have said to you that you cannot love your baby if you don't bf? And that you're not a proper mother?

Who are these people who are saying these things to you?? You must have horrible friends and family.....:( :(

Was she the dark haired rosy cheeked lactavist whos baby asked for milk?