To kiss my children on the lips?

[ilikeyoursleeves]

I was reading a thread yesterday where a lot of people were talking about how inappropriate it is to kiss children on the lips, I have always done this & kiss my ds's many times every day. They are only 1 & 3 years & I imagine I won't kiss them as much when they are older, but I am now wondering if I'm weird in thinking there is nothing wrong with this? From a parent anyway, I wouldn't feel comfortable with anyone kissing them but their grandparents kiss them on the lips too & i think that's ok. Apologies if this is a thread about a thread, but I'm genuinely interested in what others think.

The thing that really pisses me off about "lips are for lovers" and "breasts are for sex" is the implied ownership by the male partner of parts of the woman's body

My body part aren't FOR anything in that sense, they are mine to do with as I feel appropriate

I find it very sad that anyone thinks it is weird or wrong to kiss children or tell them they are loved

Shatners, your poor dh

having said that I do think when children are a bit older one should try to be sensitive to what they want in terms of physical affection

my nearly 9yo ds would be really horrified and hurt if I suggested toning down the physical contact in any way - he needs it

my stepfather insisted on wet, over-intimate slightly-too-long mouth kisses which made me feel sick and I dreaded hello and goodbye moments because I knew I would have to deal with the kiss - and he knew damn well that I didn't like it as well

but for the parents who think it is inappropriate even when the child is happy with it - why?

I kiss my son on the lips and also my niece and nephew. I think it's strange that people find this odd. If I saw a mother insist their child kiss them on the cheek I would think they weren't affectionate as a person

I kiss my LO (only just turned 1) on the lips, and cheeks, and forehead... Actually, anyway I can on her chubby little face
I also kiss my 7 yo niece on the lips, as you get no choice, she just comes over to you with her pout and plants one!

I don't kiss anyone else's children on the lips, purely because I know some families don't do it and don't want to make other parents uncomfortable. Now I think of it, it's only the 2 little girls in our family who get kisses on the lips. My nephew is 15 and avoids most kisses and cuddles from the family, like most teenagers do!

Yanbu, I always kiss my kids on the lips.

oh my god. people seriously object to you kissing your own children on lips?

As long as children know they're loved, it doesn't matter whether the kisses are on the lip, cheeks or tops of their heads. Everything is normal and fine, whichever, parents happy/kids happy - great.

I get a bit irritated with people who say thinks akin to 'We do it this way, how sad that you don't'. It's actually judging people who haven't asked for your option.

Youaretoonice, if you're still around, I spent years working with adults aged 18-65 with severe SN, I frequently visited them at home and most of them kissed their parents on the lips. I never once thought it was the slightest bit weird from a professional view. I have a son with severe SN (9) and will not stop kissing him on the lips until he doesn't want me to anymore.

I kiss all 3 of my children on the lips, neices and nephews too.

i kiss both my children on lips yes lovers kiss on the lips but i know they arent my lovers they are my children so it isnt comparable at all

Lots of lip kissing here too - except my smallest daughter (3) who hates kisses in any form but loves a cuddle instead. Smallest son (2) would be happy to kiss all day long

My grownup children dropped kissing along with ANY type of loving behaviour during the nightmare that was their teen years but all are now happy to kiss us on the cheek (or top of the head in my case as I am much shorter than them all!)

They kiss their smaller sibs on the lips though - but often use a babywipe first

If the child doesn't like it it's not appropriate otherwise it's fine.

Assuming we are talking about a quick peck not a snog!

genuinely shocked by anyone who hates to see children being kissed.

melikalikimaka, I'm looking at you

I still kiss my mum :)

If the DCs like it then why on earth not.

What I don't get however is people who kiss their dogs on the lips.

Kisses on lips and cheeks for my DS (12) and DD (4).

Kisses in public for DD but not for DS since he was 7 although he's now more agreeable to the idea so long as there are no other kids around...

They kiss each other on the lips too.

And that's how we like it.

I kiss my children, my parents and my best friend on the lips. I'm a lover, not a fighter.

I kiss my children on the lips (5,3 and 11 weeks), so does my husband, grandparents, aunts and uncles, anyone that they usually kiss, gets kissed on the lips.

I kiss my Dc on the lips, well Ds1 doesn't want kisses anymore but he is 18 now! (Still hugs though)
Dd is 7 and Ds2 is 2, they both kiss me on the lips as do my nieces and nephews.
I kiss my friends on the lips too.

Kissed on the lips, Googomuck!

Dont make me out to be strange, I like kisses on cheeks, hands etc. but not on the slobbering lips.