To kiss my children on the lips?

[ilikeyoursleeves]

I was reading a thread yesterday where a lot of people were talking about how inappropriate it is to kiss children on the lips, I have always done this & kiss my ds's many times every day. They are only 1 & 3 years & I imagine I won't kiss them as much when they are older, but I am now wondering if I'm weird in thinking there is nothing wrong with this? From a parent anyway, I wouldn't feel comfortable with anyone kissing them but their grandparents kiss them on the lips too & i think that's ok. Apologies if this is a thread about a thread, but I'm genuinely interested in what others think.

Dds are 5 and 3 here and we all kiss on the lips. Very normal IMO.

I kiss my children on the lips, they are only very little though. I hate the idea of anyone other than DH kissing them on the lips though.

I also still kiss one male friend on the lips when we meet/part, always have, know each other since we were 3, would be strange not to iykwim?

I kiss both mine on the lips! They are 3 and 7. And a lot of our friends' kids offer their lips for kisses and I don't mind kissing them on the lips... I kiss my mum and dad on the cheeks tho, now, tho they kissed me on the lips whe I was a child.

I kiss both mine on the lips and they kiss me on the lips. I love that! Its a demonstration of love and i come from a rather undemonstrative family so I am very pleased we share this connection.

YANBU absolutely!

yanbu. I don't kiss DD on the lips very often now (she is 4) but mostly because she goes 'bleugh; . I absolutely love the sweet kisses of little ones. Just makes me melt.

I cannot imagine it not being so. I will stop if and when the kids don't want me to any more.

On the 'it's for lovers' view: I think the same about saying "I love you". I was astounded first time I heard it used for family members.

My DS's insist on lip kisses. Perfectly normal in our house.

I never went to bed without saying "I love you" to my mum, while I lived at home... And when I phone her, or vice versa, then it's the same.

same here, always told my family members that I love them. And tell my children the same, AT LEAST 5 times a day. As often as I can.

exactly don't and schroedinger. I adore that my DS will grab me by the cheeks to make sure he plants one on the lips. Its nothing to do with 'lovers' its just touchingly lovely. I want my kids to grow up feeling they can express love in a way I just don't with my parents.

I tell my Mum Love you everytime we speak on the phone/say goodbye in person. I tell my boys many times a day. They also get kissed on the lips - and kiss each other on the lips. In fact huge picture in my front room is them kissing on the lips on dS2's 2nd birthday last year.

DS get's "I love you" first thing iin the morning, when I drop him off at the nursery, when I pick him up, at bed time, and random little intervals. I remember one time when I was about five, I pissed my mum off that much that when she put me to bed, I didn't get a good night kiss or "I love you"... I sobbed my little heart out

I am a lip kisser, well my dd aged for is so adorable, nothing else will do. I will have to give it up when she gets a bit older though.

My mum does this to me as a greeting each time I see her and I really dislike it and constantly try to avoid it (which then makes me feel bad).

We've always kissed both DCs on the lips, DH's family are more cheek kissers (apart from when MIL is pissed, then you get one on the lips!) but my family have always kissed on the lips. I still do it now with my mum and dad, not all the time though, usually if they're kissing the kids bye they'll just move onto me and do the same. I'd say I kiss my parents on the cheek as much as lips but lip kissing was normal when I was younger. Usually only kiss my sisters on the lips when a bit drunk, usually hug/kiss on cheek.

I kiss my younger nieces and nephews on the lips and older ones on the cheek (18/19yo). Nephews on DH's side you're lucky to get more than a quick 'bye' but they're all aged between 8-11yrs so understandable!

I don't find it strange or inappropriate at all, only really peck DH on the lips day to day - proper snogs saved for the bedroom so to us it's a really normal way of showing affection.

Good to see that most people think it's normal! The whole kissing is for lovers thing, I was talking about a peck on the lips not a snog so imo that's totally different. And btw I came from an extremely unaffectionate family so although its unfamiliar to me to be so tactile & openly living, I love kissing my boys & i' d be really saddenedif some people didn't do this for fear of it not being ' normal'.

I kiss both my girls on the lips..actually tbh they kiss me on the lips! they are 9 and 7...

I kiss my children, my mum and my grandparents on the lips. I tell them all I love them too (my dad is funny but does kiss my girls). My nieces and nephews I follow their lead. Obviously they're from the same family so used to kissing on the lips anyway.

I can't call kissing my nurslings on the lips too intimate. I know many people who think their breasts belong to their partner too.

My youngest isn't much of a kisser, she likes hugs and kisses and lots of other play - like having being "eaten" - but she will only give kisses when it suits her. Apart from my belly, she loves kissing her baby sister!

"On the 'it's for lovers' view: I think the same about saying "I love you". I was astounded first time I heard it used for family members."

Me too, ResurrectionByChocolate

YANBU

I find it really odd that people see something other than affection between parent and child when they exchange a kiss on the lips. I've never met anyone IRL whose mind it crosses to call someone out, gove a dirty look to someone or get embarrassed for kissing their child on the lips.

Resurrection and Hormones Do you guys not say "I love you" to your kids then??

"On the 'it's for lovers' view: I think the same about saying "I love you".

To me that reads present tense, as in they only think its for lovers like a kiss on the lips.

If so, thats quite sad.