Are you a Mother/Father of a mixed raced child/different skin colour?

[YouaretooniceNOT]

I am White single Mother. My son is half White and half Afro Carribbean.

My son is 12 years old, very pleasent, clam and really well behaved in public. He can walk and holds my arm whilst doing so.

Over the years i have recieved 'dirty looks', comments. name calling. sniggering from the general public about his SN mainly.

My friend whom runs a group for disabled children and has mixed raced Grandchildren herself says the 'dirty looks' are quite possibly more to do with the fact that my son is half black and is 'quite dark' for a half white child. Not that he is SN.

Can this be true?

I really do not want to start world war 3 over this..please. I'm upset i have explained aswell as i can right now..sorry.

Sorry Is there a problem LND?

Just re-read my post, perhaps I didn't make myself very clear.

When I said I have heard racist comments, they have been the sweeping generalisation sort, along the lines of ?all black men have big dicks? or using non PC terms to describe ethnic minorities, not necessarily to be abusive, just out of ignorance or laziness, the worst I thing has been something like ?all those bloody pakis should go back to their country if they don't like the way we live?, usually by middle aged working class men in their cups in the pub. People who talk like this tend to be ?all wind and no piss? IME, they are peasants with little education and no intelligence.

I have never heard a racist comment actually directed at a specific known person(s) either present or not present. I am not saying this kind of thing is ok, and I would always challenge it, but my point is, no one has ever said anything negative to me, my friends or my family about my family set up, or my son's heritage, or about any other real tangible person in the community.

I am not about to put myself or DS on high alert for every single possible slight or racist comment, as I believe it will make him hyper sensitive and give him a chip on his shoulder. However, if anyone dared say anything racist to or about him they would rue they day they were born. They would feel the wrath of hissymissy, and they would not forget it.

I used to know a woman who is very blond and pale (she was Swedish), and whose husband is Indian. Their daughter is quite dark skinned with black hair and looks just like her mum but with her dad's complexion, while their little boy is really blond and pale but looks just like his dad. She once told me she got asked at least weekly when they were little whether they were both hers. People will always be ignorant OP, whether it's about race, SN, sexuality...I would just try and remember that most people are kind and wouldn't dream of saying nasty things - when you encounter the ignorant ones they're pitiable, but thankfully not the norm. Sorry you and your son had to go through this.

it makes me sad to hear these looks people are getting makes people feel self conscious/ embarrassed and such like. these people are nothing. i like what was said above

by hissymissy : they are peasants with little education and no intelligence.

be proud, absolutely dont let these idiots run you down emotionally or otherwise

Weirdly I notice more rascist comments and behaviours in Birmingham than I ever did living in Plymouth. My DN is Mixed Race and my Stepsons British Ginger and I am Short Greek. (Completly outed myself now HIIIII MUM!) In Devon I've never noticed any second glances or Racism. In Birmingham I've had stares and comments which I wouldn't have expected as this is meant to be a multicultural area!

@YouaretooniceNOT - sorry to hear you were on the receiving end of that. People can be awful. I'm from an ethnic minority and my child is mixed race - but to be honest the prejudiced comments are usually directed at me until they hear me speak and realise that my command of English is not as poor as they imagine. My only advice is to just to go somewhere else for a nice day out- there are lots of lovely places where people are decent, civilised and normal. Don't waste your time being around mean folk.
P.S. I expect your son will grow up to be quite handsome! - actress Halle Berry and actor Shemar Moore are mixed race too;e they are half white and quite dark and commentators have always remarked on their stunning looks....so there you go, when your son is older, he will have genetic advantages that those making those rude remarks never will! :-)