to use the disabled toilet in this situation?

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I took mine and my sister's DCs for a nice day out to the cinema. There was just me and 4 kids aged between 3 and 5. After we bought our tickets I took them to the Ladies toilet, they were all engaged and there were a few people waiting.

I decided not to wait and took the DCs out to the disabled toilet as there was no one using or waiting for it. When we had all finished we were washing our hands when someone tried the door, one of the DCs had unlocked it and this woman in a wheelchair came in with her partner, I said I won't be a minute. She glared at me and muttered some things.

I was really embarrassed that I had been caught out using the disabled toilet and I wanted to apologise to the lady for keeping her waiting (for less than a minute!) but she was really, really angry. The DCs ran out in opposite directions and I quickly said sorry to the lady and as I walked off she screamed "Bitch!" at me. I never turned back to look at her. I don't think the DCs noticed anything!

I was so upset I couldn't get it out of my head throughout the film, and it ruined my day. I don't think what I did was that bad. I thought that woman was really horrible. AIBU?

Ha ha its still going strong. So its 50/50ish. I will still use the disabled toilets as and when I need to. (I will always try and use the mens first but for what ever reason that i need the disabled toilets, then I will use and not feel guilty).

And also if a person does not want to leave their buggy/baby outside the cubicle for fear of theft of property/child, accidents etc, why the hell would they be happy asking a stranger to do it? Bonkers.

Wineclub - I'm still of the opinion that those situations (apart from breastfeeding) all constitute reasonable reasons to use the disabled facilities and because it doesn't happen all the time there are no queues or any reason to be so up in arms about the people who choose not to leave their babies unattended, send young girls into public toilets alone, go to the toilet while holding twins and managing a toddler or asking a stranger to look after your children!

im still laughing at the person who expects people with twins to use slings and sit on a toilet with a baby on their back. How can you possible do that? Wouldnt you crush the baby against the wall/toilet etc.

computermouse how on earth could she have fitted into a standard ladies loo with 4 children?

I have sat on toilets hundreds of times with a baby/toddler/child on my back - ranging in age from 2 months to 4.5 years.

It's a completely viable option. IF you choose it. Offered as an alternative when someone stated using the toilet with a child/two children to be impossible. Which it clearly is not.

Vintage, you can fit in a cubicle with 4 children. You can also leave some or all outside as some were school age. She never said she couldn't manage in the regular toilet. She chose not to wait. That is the difference. She didn't have IBS, she didn't have a buggy, she wasn't in Costa where the only toilet is disabled, she just chose not to wait.

To imply as some are on here that the occasional use of a disabled toilet somehow makes someone a bad person is crazy. I don't think anyone on this thread is making a habit of using them, lets get some perspective on this. There obviously needs to be better toilet facilities in place in public spaces. That's the bottom line. Well done to those of you that have never used a disabled toilet, but you hold no moral superiority over the rest of us.

Of course there is flowerpot - strap the twins to each leg, tie the toddler to your back and leave the pram and bags outside because theft very rarely happens - you'll even have your hands free!

well seeing as the mums and a few dads insist on using the disabled toilets,(the thread was about them not accessible one's) then surely you have top suck it up if someone who is disabled swears at you.

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"I have sat on toilets hundreds of times with a baby/toddler/child on my back - ranging in age from 2 months to 4.5 years."

WTF????

You sat on a toilet with a 4.5 yr old on your back ??

This thread is taking a turn for the surreal!

Yes MrsRyanReynolds. She was asleep - a rarity in the last couple of years. Should I have woken her up and taken her down?

I think it began surreal lili2010!

Ooooh I do like a nice disabled toilet thread.

And this is better than ever

Slightlymad said it all, I think.

It's not black and white, yes sometimes people not disabled could do with using the disabled loo. What upsets me most however is the sense of entitlement on this thread, the posts saying such things as 'why can't disabled people just queue like the rest of us' and comparing having dcs to having disabilities. Try having a baby, toddler and a disability, then you may be able to make a comment (my dcs older now but well remember the days, also remember several comments when I had used the disabled loo with a buggy, as people in general appear to believe that you need to either be in a wheelchair or on crutches to be disabled).

Bring on the inevitable disabled versus P and T parking space thread, and my life will be just about complete

Out of interest which type of sling did you use MsScarlett?

Just astounded that you managed to carry a 4.5 yr old around on your back.

My niece walked everywhere and didn't sleep in the day at all at that age - hence the , but I suppose all children are different.

Apologies for any offence.

She doesn't often sleep MrsRyanReynolds, it's rare now. Last time was on the way back from swimming - extremely overtired. I use woven wraps (didymos et al)